01 At the high school reunion, I took a group photo when I was leaving. I took it with Su Su's mobile phone. I made an appointment to go back and send it to the students. I was greedy for those who didn't come. However, the next day, Susu sent us the photos one by one and didn't dry them in the group. I'm a little strange. It's easy for you to send it directly to the group, and you can let all the students who haven't come see it. Su Su said: I want to send it, but s doesn't shoot very well. She usually pays attention to her image, so she gave it up. When I looked at the photo, Su Su played very well. As for s, her hair was messy and her smile was exaggerated, which was very different from the selfie she usually took in her circle of friends and classmates. I think s doesn't want that picture to appear in the group. Although she didn't say it, Susu realized her intention and respected her. This respect is not easy. If Su Su is a jealous and narrow-minded person, she may be eager for s to be ugly. The uglier she is, the more she wants to be in the group. Let's see s's true face and expose the illusion of her beauty maintained by Meitu software. Or, even if Su Su's heart is not bad, he may easily send photos to the group. Anyway, she made a beautiful picture by herself. Anyway, everyone said to dry in the group. As for whether s would be unhappy, it's up to her. Many things are like this: I know it will make you uncomfortable, but I have enough reasons to do so. You can't blame me if I do it, and you may not thank me if I don't do it. Then whether or not to do so will test a person's character. Please note that it's character, not Eq. EQ determines "whether you can realize that others will be unhappy", while the test of character is "do you want to make others unhappy". Most people have the emotional intelligence of "being aware that others will be unhappy", but they don't have the personality of "don't want to make others unhappy". 02 Friend Xiao Xie once had a best friend Q. they lived upstairs and downstairs. In the past, they had to give each other a bowl of dumplings, but later they broke down because of some misunderstanding. Now the relationship is very stiff. They don't say hello when they meet in the corridor. Last year, Q cheated in his marriage and his husband wanted a divorce. Xiao Xie once took me to chat with her to analyze their marital status and see if it is necessary to save them. Then they divorced. Not long ago, I had dinner with Xiao Xie and some friends. We all know that she and Q used to be friends and now they are enemies, so we try to find out the inside story of Q's divorce. A man jokingly asked: is there someone outside her? With you? Xiao Xie said. The man is unwilling: why on earth? Xiao Xie: maybe it's because of who makes dinner. Everyone laughed. I thought Xiao Xie was so clever and kind—— Q is not so angry with her. Then, when someone asks her "q is there someone outside", just say "she", coupled with a contemptuous smile, and everyone will know it. Moreover, the secret leaks out imperceptibly - I didn't say anything. How can others understand that it's someone else's business. But Xiao Xie didn't. She chose to help Q keep the secret. Although this will make all the friends present feel that she is untrue. Although she has no obligation to sacrifice her friendship to maintain Q's reputation, she subconsciously protected a friend who has made bad friends. This is really a very small thing, small enough to be just a sentence and a smile. But this little detail made me feel the kindness in Xiaoxie's bones, and I was doubly fond of her from then on. 03 When I was working in a magazine, the president once talked about an advertisement with a large list. Naturally, the president can't do specific business, so we need to find a salesman to connect with customers. We all agree that Xiao Han is the most suitable to do this, because he and the boss of the company are fellow villagers and more capable people. That day, the president made an appointment with the boss in the afternoon and wanted to call Xiao Han together. Unfortunately, Xiao Han asked for leave to go out, and his mobile phone couldn't get through all the time. The president was very anxious. He called another salesman Xiao Gu temporarily and said that you should follow me this afternoon. A big list fell from the sky. Xiao Gu was overjoyed and said that it was great. I'll go back and prepare for it. The president said yes and added: it was most suitable for Xiao Han to go. He and the boss are villagers, but now he can't be found. There's no way. Well, Xiao Gu thought for a moment and said, Xiao Han has two mobile phone numbers. He used to call me with another number. I'll look through it and find it. Ten minutes later, Xiao Gu came to the president and said that I had contacted Xiao Han and he could come this afternoon. The president was very happy, nodded and said yes. Xiao Gu went out. The president watched him close the door, turned around and gave me a thumbs up and said: this child, this character. This was seven or eight years ago. Some time ago, I met with the president and occasionally talked about Xiao Gu. When I talked about it, I didn't expect the president to still remember it. He said: although it's about finding a phone number, can ordinary people do it? If Xiao Gu went with me that day, the list would be signed by him. Tens of thousands of commission is not a decimal for him, but the child forced Xiao Han to find it for me. I was really moved by his kindness. Later, I gave him several lists. I asked: does Xiao Gu know why you gave him the list? The president smiled and said he didn't know. He might think he was lucky. I thought later that we now like to say "good luck" as "burst of character". It turns out that this is not all a joke. A lot of good luck is really made up of character. 04 Character is important. Everyone knows that. But in the mundane reality, we don't have much chance to be great heroes who help the people, and we rarely do great villains who burn, kill, loot and kidnap. A person's character is mostly displayed through trivial life details. To put it simply: Would you like to pay for the party, Will a taxi take the initiative to sit in the front, Can you be kind to the waiters and cleaners outside, Do you change lanes and turn on the high beam when driving, Will the wallet be returned intact after picking up the mobile phone It is these small things that make others judge your character. When you are aware of something, you may or may not be able to trust others, but whether you are aware of it or not, you may or may not be able to do it in your own eyes. When others see that you carefully and kindly don't shine the ugliness of your classmates in the group, don't reveal the privacy of your bad friends behind your back, and give up the big list that fell into your hand... Others naturally have a good opinion of you and look at you differently. And these, obviously, are not deliberately pretended. If you don't have such kindness in your heart, even if you deliberately show how good you are, you will always inadvertently reveal the truth of your nature. We may all have met such people: they speak very beautifully and do some things well, but you can always find TA's selfishness and indifference in an accidental moment, and then you can't help being disappointed. And that person may not know himself, but also immersed in the illusion of his painstaking management, thinking that everyone still thinks that TA is a great good man. Such people tend to lose when they fight for their character. However, it is difficult for TA to realize that it is his own problem. He will only feel that it is someone else's fault and that others have failed him. TA doesn't know that people will be betrayed by details. Therefore, if you want to save your character, you should be a good person and treat others sincerely. In this way, others will feel your kindness, integrity, tolerance and integrity in getting along bit by bit. And good character will not be saved in vain. It will surprise you if you need it someday. In this world of fighting character, good character is a person's amulet, which is not only beneficial to others, but also self-interest. The highest level of shrewdness is kindness, and the highest level of cultivation is kindness.

01 At the high school reunion, I took a group photo when I was leaving. I took it with Su Su's mobile phone. I made an appointment to go back and send it to the students. I was greedy for those who didn't come. However, the next day, Susu sent us the photos one by one and didn't dry them in the group. I'm a little strange. It's easy for you to send it directly to the group, and you can let all the students who haven't come see it. Su Su said: I want to send it, but s doesn't shoot very well. She usually pays attention to her image, so she gave it up. When I looked at the photo, Su Su played very well. As for s, her hair was messy and her smile was exaggerated, which was very different from the selfie she usually took in her circle of friends and classmates. I think s doesn't want that picture to appear in the group. Although she didn't say it, Susu realized her intention and respected her. This respect is not easy. If Su Su is a jealous and narrow-minded person, she may be eager for s to be ugly. The uglier she is, the more she wants to be in the group. Let's see s's true face and expose the illusion of her beauty maintained by Meitu software. Or, even if Su Su's heart is not bad, he may easily send photos to the group. Anyway, she made a beautiful picture by herself. Anyway, everyone said to dry in the group. As for whether s would be unhappy, it's up to her. Many things are like this: I know it will make you uncomfortable, but I have enough reasons to do so. You can't blame me if I do it, and you may not thank me if I don't do it. Then whether or not to do so will test a person's character. Please note that it's character, not Eq. EQ determines "whether you can realize that others will be unhappy", while the test of character is "do you want to make others unhappy". Most people have the emotional intelligence of "being aware that others will be unhappy", but they don't have the personality of "don't want to make others unhappy". 02 Friend Xiao Xie once had a best friend Q. they lived upstairs and downstairs. In the past, they had to give each other a bowl of dumplings, but later they broke down because of some misunderstanding. Now the relationship is very stiff. They don't say hello when they meet in the corridor. Last year, Q cheated in his marriage and his husband wanted a divorce. Xiao Xie once took me to chat with her to analyze their marital status and see if it is necessary to save them. Then they divorced. Not long ago, I had dinner with Xiao Xie and some friends. We all know that she and Q used to be friends and now they are enemies, so we try to find out the inside story of Q's divorce. A man jokingly asked: is there someone outside her? With you? Xiao Xie said. The man is unwilling: why on earth? Xiao Xie: maybe it's because of who makes dinner. Everyone laughed. I thought Xiao Xie was so clever and kind—— Q is not so angry with her. Then, when someone asks her "q is there someone outside", just say "she", coupled with a contemptuous smile, and everyone will know it. Moreover, the secret leaks out imperceptibly - I didn't say anything. How can others understand that it's someone else's business. But Xiao Xie didn't. She chose to help Q keep the secret. Although this will make all the friends present feel that she is untrue. Although she has no obligation to sacrifice her friendship to maintain Q's reputation, she subconsciously protected a friend who has made bad friends. This is really a very small thing, small enough to be just a sentence and a smile. But this little detail made me feel the kindness in Xiaoxie's bones, and I was doubly fond of her from then on. 03 When I was working in a magazine, the president once talked about an advertisement with a large list. Naturally, the president can't do specific business, so we need to find a salesman to connect with customers. We all agree that Xiao Han is the most suitable to do this, because he and the boss of the company are fellow villagers and more capable people. That day, the president made an appointment with the boss in the afternoon and wanted to call Xiao Han together. Unfortunately, Xiao Han asked for leave to go out, and his mobile phone couldn't get through all the time. The president was very anxious. He called another salesman Xiao Gu temporarily and said that you should follow me this afternoon. A big list fell from the sky. Xiao Gu was overjoyed and said that it was great. I'll go back and prepare for it. The president said yes and added: it was most suitable for Xiao Han to go. He and the boss are villagers, but now he can't be found. There's no way. Well, Xiao Gu thought for a moment and said, Xiao Han has two mobile phone numbers. He used to call me with another number. I'll look through it and find it. Ten minutes later, Xiao Gu came to the president and said that I had contacted Xiao Han and he could come this afternoon. The president was very happy, nodded and said yes. Xiao Gu went out. The president watched him close the door, turned around and gave me a thumbs up and said: this child, this character. This was seven or eight years ago. Some time ago, I met with the president and occasionally talked about Xiao Gu. When I talked about it, I didn't expect the president to still remember it. He said: although it's about finding a phone number, can ordinary people do it? If Xiao Gu went with me that day, the list would be signed by him. Tens of thousands of commission is not a decimal for him, but the child forced Xiao Han to find it for me. I was really moved by his kindness. Later, I gave him several lists. I asked: does Xiao Gu know why you gave him the list? The president smiled and said he didn't know. He might think he was lucky. I thought later that we now like to say "good luck" as "burst of character". It turns out that this is not all a joke. A lot of good luck is really made up of character. 04 Character is important. Everyone knows that. But in the mundane reality, we don't have much chance to be great heroes who help the people, and we rarely do great villains who burn, kill, loot and kidnap. A person's character is mostly displayed through trivial life details. To put it simply: Would you like to pay for the party, Will a taxi take the initiative to sit in the front, Can you be kind to the waiters and cleaners outside, Do you change lanes and turn on the high beam when driving, Will the wallet be returned intact after picking up the mobile phone It is these small things that make others judge your character. When you are aware of something, you may or may not be able to trust others, but whether you are aware of it or not, you may or may not be able to do it in your own eyes. When others see that you carefully and kindly don't shine the ugliness of your classmates in the group, don't reveal the privacy of your bad friends behind your back, and give up the big list that fell into your hand... Others naturally have a good opinion of you and look at you differently. And these, obviously, are not deliberately pretended. If you don't have such kindness in your heart, even if you deliberately show how good you are, you will always inadvertently reveal the truth of your nature. We may all have met such people: they speak very beautifully and do some things well, but you can always find TA's selfishness and indifference in an accidental moment, and then you can't help being disappointed. And that person may not know himself, but also immersed in the illusion of his painstaking management, thinking that everyone still thinks that TA is a great good man. Such people tend to lose when they fight for their character. However, it is difficult for TA to realize that it is his own problem. He will only feel that it is someone else's fault and that others have failed him. TA doesn't know that people will be betrayed by details. Therefore, if you want to save your character, you should be a good person and treat others sincerely. In this way, others will feel your kindness, integrity, tolerance and integrity in getting along bit by bit. And good character will not be saved in vain. It will surprise you if you need it someday. In this world of fighting character, good character is a person's amulet, which is not only beneficial to others, but also self-interest. The highest level of shrewdness is kindness, and the highest level of cultivation is kindness.