Speaking of being out of group, most people's memory must have such a scene: there is a Xueba in the bedroom. He gets up on time at 7 o'clock every day to study by himself, goes out early and returns late. The students who came to visit the dormitory chatted together, and he basically didn't join. Even when we talked and laughed loudly, he seemed unmoved and only did his own business. There was once a dormitory with six people in it. Whenever six people in the dormitory gather together, the dormitory head will always organize everyone to play cards, or sometimes everyone will play dota together. Most of the time, we make an appointment to get together in the bedroom rather than by chance. Then the night passed. Then a year passed. Then four years passed. You will think that these six people will not mix well. But the fact is that one or two of them must be very good. They just integrate when it's time to integrate. Compared with those extreme nerds, they have their own strategy - the so-called integration strategy. Gregarious in most people's understanding, that is, what everyone is doing, I will follow. Loneliness and insecurity often drive people to do so. But you think you've been in College for four years. When you graduate without a job, you'll be more lonely without a wife. Therefore, fundamentally speaking, you don't know yourself and set a long-term goal for yourself, which leads to your gregarious behavior is only short-sighted. The integration strategy will enable you to group on things that meet your goals as much as possible. For example, if your roommate is watching a variety show, do you choose to watch it or not? If you also hope to engage in programs, event planning and other work in the future, watching with them can make you more prepared, make everyone's atmosphere higher, and you can gain something. It's easy to say, but in fact, many people can't figure it out. I once heard a story. Mr. m, a foreign teacher, has been in China for about 10 years. His major is to study China's economic problems. He looks very powerful. However, one day, I learned that he had not learned Chinese at all in his ten years in China. At most, he could only understand part of the dialogue, but he could not speak Chinese. This makes me very surprised, because it is not a common choice for people to settle in a country for 10 years without learning the local language. "Why don't you learn Chinese after so many years in China? If you can speak Chinese, it's very helpful for your work?" He said that he felt he could use his time to learn Chinese to do other things he liked better, such as studying economic issues and playing bands. I gain more from doing other things than learning Chinese. This is a very interesting thing. I always felt that the first task of coming to a new country was to integrate into local life. The ways of integration include learning the local language, understanding the living habits of local people, eating local food and so on. But now think about it, there is a way of life that does not try to integrate, which may be reasonable. When you think about it again, this side shows that the mainstream of economics is under the western system, and most of China's top scholars are also keen to publish articles in English journals, which is the basic starting point of his non integration strategy. In addition to the narrow interests and hobbies, people's lack of integration often has quality defects or self-control problems. For example, if someone is naturally non drinker or withdrawn, it is understandable that choosing not to participate in the Wine Bureau or collective activities will also make him happy. But more often, people's lack of integration occurs in the calculation of time efficiency. Many people don't participate in or do something because they think I can do something more valuable during this time. For example, Chinese people usually study science and engineering abroad, which is not because all Chinese are good at mathematics. Like all races in the world, some Chinese are good at science, but others are good at liberal arts, which is not homogeneous. But why do Chinese people study science and engineering more after going abroad? The fundamental reason is the low integration cost of science and engineering. In the world of mathematics, the symbol system is the same all over the world. However, when it comes to the humanities, the gap between Chinese culture and foreign culture is too large. It is very difficult for Chinese people to integrate into foreign culture. If they do not integrate, it is very difficult, so it is better to study science and engineering. More often, people waste their time doing nothing or daydreaming. He refused the invitation of others and thought he would go to self-study. As a result, it is not uncommon for him to chat, play games and watch videos in the process of self-study. In a vicious circle, he will become more reluctant to participate in other people's activities and go back and forth.

Speaking of being out of group, most people's memory must have such a scene: there is a Xueba in the bedroom. He gets up on time at 7 o'clock every day to study by himself, goes out early and returns late. The students who came to visit the dormitory chatted together, and he basically didn't join. Even when we talked and laughed loudly, he seemed unmoved and only did his own business. There was once a dormitory with six people in it. Whenever six people in the dormitory gather together, the dormitory head will always organize everyone to play cards, or sometimes everyone will play dota together. Most of the time, we make an appointment to get together in the bedroom rather than by chance. Then the night passed. Then a year passed. Then four years passed. You will think that these six people will not mix well. But the fact is that one or two of them must be very good. They just integrate when it's time to integrate. Compared with those extreme nerds, they have their own strategy - the so-called integration strategy. Gregarious in most people's understanding, that is, what everyone is doing, I will follow. Loneliness and insecurity often drive people to do so. But you think you've been in College for four years. When you graduate without a job, you'll be more lonely without a wife. Therefore, fundamentally speaking, you don't know yourself and set a long-term goal for yourself, which leads to your gregarious behavior is only short-sighted. The integration strategy will enable you to group on things that meet your goals as much as possible. For example, if your roommate is watching a variety show, do you choose to watch it or not? If you also hope to engage in programs, event planning and other work in the future, watching with them can make you more prepared, make everyone's atmosphere higher, and you can gain something. It's easy to say, but in fact, many people can't figure it out. I once heard a story. Mr. m, a foreign teacher, has been in China for about 10 years. His major is to study China's economic problems. He looks very powerful. However, one day, I learned that he had not learned Chinese at all in his ten years in China. At most, he could only understand part of the dialogue, but he could not speak Chinese. This makes me very surprised, because it is not a common choice for people to settle in a country for 10 years without learning the local language. "Why don't you learn Chinese after so many years in China? If you can speak Chinese, it's very helpful for your work?" He said that he felt he could use his time to learn Chinese to do other things he liked better, such as studying economic issues and playing bands. I gain more from doing other things than learning Chinese. This is a very interesting thing. I always felt that the first task of coming to a new country was to integrate into local life. The ways of integration include learning the local language, understanding the living habits of local people, eating local food and so on. But now think about it, there is a way of life that does not try to integrate, which may be reasonable. When you think about it again, this side shows that the mainstream of economics is under the western system, and most of China's top scholars are also keen to publish articles in English journals, which is the basic starting point of his non integration strategy. In addition to the narrow interests and hobbies, people's lack of integration often has quality defects or self-control problems. For example, if someone is naturally non drinker or withdrawn, it is understandable that choosing not to participate in the Wine Bureau or collective activities will also make him happy. But more often, people's lack of integration occurs in the calculation of time efficiency. Many people don't participate in or do something because they think I can do something more valuable during this time. For example, Chinese people usually study science and engineering abroad, which is not because all Chinese are good at mathematics. Like all races in the world, some Chinese are good at science, but others are good at liberal arts, which is not homogeneous. But why do Chinese people study science and engineering more after going abroad? The fundamental reason is the low integration cost of science and engineering. In the world of mathematics, the symbol system is the same all over the world. However, when it comes to the humanities, the gap between Chinese culture and foreign culture is too large. It is very difficult for Chinese people to integrate into foreign culture. If they do not integrate, it is very difficult, so it is better to study science and engineering. More often, people waste their time doing nothing or daydreaming. He refused the invitation of others and thought he would go to self-study. As a result, it is not uncommon for him to chat, play games and watch videos in the process of self-study. In a vicious circle, he will become more reluctant to participate in other people's activities and go back and forth.