I know a girl who is studying at a private university in Beijing. After arriving in Beijing, she has been taken care of by her cousin. The girl's cousin is the girlfriend of a rich businessman. The girl often goes to bars and plays mahjong with her cousin, and gradually learns to drink and play dice. For her, Beijing is the colorful bar, resort hot spring and noisy mahjong table. The girl stayed at ease in the circle of her cousin, ate, drank and had fun, envied the life of her cousin and her girlfriends, and looked forward to meeting a rich man one day. In the eyes of this 20-year-old girl, a girl with a poor family has only two ways out, either marry a rich man or rely on a rich man, otherwise she can't live. Another girl, also Beipiao, gets a salary of more than 2000 yuan a month and rents in the basement with her fellow villagers. After work, girls like to go to the clothing wholesale market of the zoo to find cheap clothes, and then nest in the rental house and watch movies with second-hand computers. In such a life, the girl becomes very pessimistic and always complains that she can't see the future when she drifts north. Once chatting with a girl, I suggested that she learn something to improve herself, so as to prepare for future promotion. After listening to my advice, the girl was very grateful. She told me that she usually stayed with the villagers. Everyone often chatted in their hometown dialect. The most discussed thing was the things of her hometown, and then where to buy cheap clothes. No one ever told her how to improve herself. The experience of the two girls made me very moved and began to review my life circle. Because I found that sometimes the circle is really important. It can determine your life attitude and direction. For a while, I felt very busy and inefficient. After observation, I found that all my contacts were "poor and busy people". Everyone likes to stay up late and brush microblogs, but put important things at the end. For some time, I was eager to buy a house, but I didn't have the financial strength to buy a house at that time. Later, I learned that my mentality came from the group pressure in the circle, because everyone in the circle was emphasizing the importance of buying a house, and I was also affected imperceptibly. In this way, the most effective way to change your life direction is to find a correct circle, then find a way to integrate and try to absorb the positive energy. When Qiao Xiaodao, who is quite famous in Beijing art circle, just became a North drift, he was still a decorator and came into contact with workers with similar status. However, Qiao Xiaodao didn't want to spend time drinking and playing cards with others. He wanted to be an artist. So he began to hang out in Songzhuang, where literary and artistic young people gathered, tried to get to know a group of friends engaged in art, and tried to draw decoration paintings. A few years later, Qiao Xiaodao really started a company and became an artist. Maybe not everyone has the courage like Qiao Xiaodao to approach the kind of person he wants to be and integrate into his ideal circle. However, we should at least learn to examine our own circle and see if the people in the circle belong to the kind of people we want to be. If not, you should leave decisively. Don't be greedy for the little sense of security brought by the small circle, but imprison your thoughts that should be infinitely broad. In addition, we can also create a virtual circle for ourselves through the Internet, pay attention to the people we want to be, see what books they read, what movies they watch, and what they usually do, and then try to live like them, maybe we can get closer to their dreams faster.

I know a girl who is studying at a private university in Beijing. After arriving in Beijing, she has been taken care of by her cousin. The girl's cousin is the girlfriend of a rich businessman. The girl often goes to bars and plays mahjong with her cousin, and gradually learns to drink and play dice. For her, Beijing is the colorful bar, resort hot spring and noisy mahjong table. The girl stayed at ease in the circle of her cousin, ate, drank and had fun, envied the life of her cousin and her girlfriends, and looked forward to meeting a rich man one day. In the eyes of this 20-year-old girl, a girl with a poor family has only two ways out, either marry a rich man or rely on a rich man, otherwise she can't live. Another girl, also Beipiao, gets a salary of more than 2000 yuan a month and rents in the basement with her fellow villagers. After work, girls like to go to the clothing wholesale market of the zoo to find cheap clothes, and then nest in the rental house and watch movies with second-hand computers. In such a life, the girl becomes very pessimistic and always complains that she can't see the future when she drifts north. Once chatting with a girl, I suggested that she learn something to improve herself, so as to prepare for future promotion. After listening to my advice, the girl was very grateful. She told me that she usually stayed with the villagers. Everyone often chatted in their hometown dialect. The most discussed thing was the things of her hometown, and then where to buy cheap clothes. No one ever told her how to improve herself. The experience of the two girls made me very moved and began to review my life circle. Because I found that sometimes the circle is really important. It can determine your life attitude and direction. For a while, I felt very busy and inefficient. After observation, I found that all my contacts were "poor and busy people". Everyone likes to stay up late and brush microblogs, but put important things at the end. For some time, I was eager to buy a house, but I didn't have the financial strength to buy a house at that time. Later, I learned that my mentality came from the group pressure in the circle, because everyone in the circle was emphasizing the importance of buying a house, and I was also affected imperceptibly. In this way, the most effective way to change your life direction is to find a correct circle, then find a way to integrate and try to absorb the positive energy. When Qiao Xiaodao, who is quite famous in Beijing art circle, just became a North drift, he was still a decorator and came into contact with workers with similar status. However, Qiao Xiaodao didn't want to spend time drinking and playing cards with others. He wanted to be an artist. So he began to hang out in Songzhuang, where literary and artistic young people gathered, tried to get to know a group of friends engaged in art, and tried to draw decoration paintings. A few years later, Qiao Xiaodao really started a company and became an artist. Maybe not everyone has the courage like Qiao Xiaodao to approach the kind of person he wants to be and integrate into his ideal circle. However, we should at least learn to examine our own circle and see if the people in the circle belong to the kind of people we want to be. If not, you should leave decisively. Don't be greedy for the little sense of security brought by the small circle, but imprison your thoughts that should be infinitely broad. In addition, we can also create a virtual circle for ourselves through the Internet, pay attention to the people we want to be, see what books they read, what movies they watch, and what they usually do, and then try to live like them, maybe we can get closer to their dreams faster.