When I came to Beijing that year, I wanted to make a friend with my father. So, when I was in college, I loved to socialize and joined three societies. As long as there were activities, I would go to make soy sauce. I am willing to leave other people's phones. Once upon a time, I regarded the number of phones left to others as a capital to show off. I treat people warmly and sincerely, but I am always ignored. They only think of me in this club when they are doing chores. During that time, although I existed on many occasions, I was never the core, and others were reluctant to make friends with me. But after the activity, it is always me who stays to clean up. Once, I met a teacher in the school. That year, I was a student. I went to his office in the middle of the night just because he told me that he was on duty alone in the office at night. I've only talked with him superficially for more than ten minutes, but I haven't been in charge of the party for a long time. I listened very carefully. Before leaving, I left his phone and sent two bags of fruit. Later, I joined the party to write an application. At that time, I didn't know that I could download the template online. I sent a text message to him for help, but he replied coldly: I'm not free. In fact, I have encountered such rejection on many occasions. You think you and the other party left a phone and saved wechat. You should be able to help each other, but you forget a very important thing: only with equal relations can you help each other. The story is not over. A few years later, I was already an English teacher. I received a call late at night. It was the teacher a few years ago. He smiled and exchanged greetings with me, and soon got to the point: he asked me to introduce a reliable English teacher, hoping to give his children a lesson in private. During that time, I was in class every day. I was tired and sleepy during the day and dizzy at night. In addition, I thought of the past, so I just prevaricated. I looked at it another day and hung up in a hurry. Of course, I didn't help him at all. Then I suddenly thought about it. Why didn't I help him, or why didn't he help me a long time ago. The answer is very simple. Apart from each other's feelings, the fundamental condition for each other to help themselves is that you can provide equivalent return. In other words, I used to be a student and couldn't provide him with equivalent return; After that, I don't need to join the party, and he can't provide me with equivalent return. Moreover, our emotional foundation is zero. It's cold, but it's true. We always go to social networking, but we don't know that many social networking is actually useless. It seems that we left someone else's phone, but when we need help, we just made a phone call for nothing. Because we are not good enough. It's cruel, but who is willing to help a poor person. A friend once told me that I have participated in a lot of social activities and many friends. Why are I becoming more and more lonely? Until today, I am sad that there is no one to help me with many things. I asked her how people usually introduce me in social circles. She said, my friend, Xiaobai. I said, how do you usually introduce those excellent people? She said, independent writer, anchor, director, Professor... So and so I said, so you understand that if you are not strong, those social interactions are of no use. Only equivalent exchange can get reasonable help. So, when you are not strong enough and excellent enough, don't spend too much valuable time socializing. Take some time to read and improve your professional skills. We all have the experience of attending a party and finding that we have nothing to say or even don't know what to do, because this group doesn't belong to you. You know, only good people can get useful social. A few months later, Xiaobai participated in a TV program. Now she still likes to participate in social activities. She told me that now some people even share some words with her every day, and some people didn't like to talk to me before. A popular writer once told me a story. Before he became famous, he contributed to a large newspaper, but he did it many times. A year later, his book sold well, and the founder of the newspaper came to him personally for an appointment. They have a good relationship because one needs to sell books and the other needs to send quality words. Some people said that he had a good relationship with the newspaper. He only said one sentence: "Equivalent exchange leads to equivalent friendship." Don't think the world is cruel. This is the rule of the game. Don't worry. The world is cold like an iron. Please read my words. In my first year in Beijing, I had nothing, but every week, a friend came to see me and gave me food. His name was Lidong and he was my best friend. He once said, no matter who you are, you are my brother. Later, I became a little famous. He still told me, don't think who you are, you are my brother. This kind of person, called a true friend, does not apply to the above rules. He is willing to help you at any time, whether you are poor or weak, because you have experienced something together, and they always stick to it. Your help needs no equivalent exchange, only emotional equality. There are not many such people. In this boastful world, just a few. Therefore, to give up those useless and ineffective social activities and improve yourself can make the world bigger. At the same time, I believe that the beautiful friendship in the world exists in each other's hearts and quietly protects them.

When I came to Beijing that year, I wanted to make a friend with my father. So, when I was in college, I loved to socialize and joined three societies. As long as there were activities, I would go to make soy sauce. I am willing to leave other people's phones. Once upon a time, I regarded the number of phones left to others as a capital to show off. I treat people warmly and sincerely, but I am always ignored. They only think of me in this club when they are doing chores. During that time, although I existed on many occasions, I was never the core, and others were reluctant to make friends with me. But after the activity, it is always me who stays to clean up. Once, I met a teacher in the school. That year, I was a student. I went to his office in the middle of the night just because he told me that he was on duty alone in the office at night. I've only talked with him superficially for more than ten minutes, but I haven't been in charge of the party for a long time. I listened very carefully. Before leaving, I left his phone and sent two bags of fruit. Later, I joined the party to write an application. At that time, I didn't know that I could download the template online. I sent a text message to him for help, but he replied coldly: I'm not free. In fact, I have encountered such rejection on many occasions. You think you and the other party left a phone and saved wechat. You should be able to help each other, but you forget a very important thing: only with equal relations can you help each other. The story is not over. A few years later, I was already an English teacher. I received a call late at night. It was the teacher a few years ago. He smiled and exchanged greetings with me, and soon got to the point: he asked me to introduce a reliable English teacher, hoping to give his children a lesson in private. During that time, I was in class every day. I was tired and sleepy during the day and dizzy at night. In addition, I thought of the past, so I just prevaricated. I looked at it another day and hung up in a hurry. Of course, I didn't help him at all. Then I suddenly thought about it. Why didn't I help him, or why didn't he help me a long time ago. The answer is very simple. Apart from each other's feelings, the fundamental condition for each other to help themselves is that you can provide equivalent return. In other words, I used to be a student and couldn't provide him with equivalent return; After that, I don't need to join the party, and he can't provide me with equivalent return. Moreover, our emotional foundation is zero. It's cold, but it's true. We always go to social networking, but we don't know that many social networking is actually useless. It seems that we left someone else's phone, but when we need help, we just made a phone call for nothing. Because we are not good enough. It's cruel, but who is willing to help a poor person. A friend once told me that I have participated in a lot of social activities and many friends. Why are I becoming more and more lonely? Until today, I am sad that there is no one to help me with many things. I asked her how people usually introduce me in social circles. She said, my friend, Xiaobai. I said, how do you usually introduce those excellent people? She said, independent writer, anchor, director, Professor... So and so I said, so you understand that if you are not strong, those social interactions are of no use. Only equivalent exchange can get reasonable help. So, when you are not strong enough and excellent enough, don't spend too much valuable time socializing. Take some time to read and improve your professional skills. We all have the experience of attending a party and finding that we have nothing to say or even don't know what to do, because this group doesn't belong to you. You know, only good people can get useful social. A few months later, Xiaobai participated in a TV program. Now she still likes to participate in social activities. She told me that now some people even share some words with her every day, and some people didn't like to talk to me before. A popular writer once told me a story. Before he became famous, he contributed to a large newspaper, but he did it many times. A year later, his book sold well, and the founder of the newspaper came to him personally for an appointment. They have a good relationship because one needs to sell books and the other needs to send quality words. Some people said that he had a good relationship with the newspaper. He only said one sentence: "Equivalent exchange leads to equivalent friendship." Don't think the world is cruel. This is the rule of the game. Don't worry. The world is cold like an iron. Please read my words. In my first year in Beijing, I had nothing, but every week, a friend came to see me and gave me food. His name was Lidong and he was my best friend. He once said, no matter who you are, you are my brother. Later, I became a little famous. He still told me, don't think who you are, you are my brother. This kind of person, called a true friend, does not apply to the above rules. He is willing to help you at any time, whether you are poor or weak, because you have experienced something together, and they always stick to it. Your help needs no equivalent exchange, only emotional equality. There are not many such people. In this boastful world, just a few. Therefore, to give up those useless and ineffective social activities and improve yourself can make the world bigger. At the same time, I believe that the beautiful friendship in the world exists in each other's hearts and quietly protects them.