My first job after college was a little far from home. The company provided dormitories. The girl had so many things that she packed out two boxes of clothes and a pile of messy things in my mother's eyes. With so many things, I naturally need a car. At that time, my family was ordinary and there was no private car. I wanted to call a taxi. My mother said without thinking, "what's the taxi? I'll ask your brother Tongyuan next door if he's free and ask him to give you a ride. It costs hundreds of dollars to take a taxi. I don't know how to save money before I make money." Small counties and cities have always adhered to the custom of mutual assistance. I need you to help me, and you need me to help you. Everyone has always believed in the principle that distant relatives are not as good as close neighbors. They always feel that only living in this way can have a sense of security. If any family does not do so, they think that the other party is lonely and unsociable. Therefore, it's not surprising that my mother has such an idea, but I seem to be born out of tune with the small county. I don't like to trouble others. So, despite my mother's objection, I insisted on calling a taxi and moved these possessions to the company dormitory. My mother talked about me all the way. She thought I was too lonely and didn't know how to use all kinds of resources. It was a fool. I kept silent and knew that the three views were different and could not be forced. My mother continued to pursue her life philosophy of mutual trouble, while I adhered to the principle of being alone, but I was also in peace. A few years later, when the family bought a car, others would bother her. Her personality is different from mine. She never thought it was a kind of trouble. She thought that others came to you for help. She looked up to you and had a good relationship with you. She was willing. Naturally, I wouldn't say anything. Anyway, she felt comfortable. However, just a few days ago, she called me, very wronged, mixed with anger. About a week ago, uncle Tong's grandson next door suddenly vomited and had a fever in the evening. Their son and daughter-in-law were not at home. They called my mother in the hope of taking them to the hospital. Without saying a word, my mother quickly called my father and sent uncle Tong's son to the hospital. This is originally a good thing. Even strangers should help in such a matter out of humanitarian spirit. But there was an episode in the middle. The child had finished hanging water in the hospital. It was more than two o'clock in the evening. The party was sleepy and tired. When they drove back, there was a stone on the road that they didn't see. So they drove over. The car bumped violently. The child's head hit the nearby glass window and immediately cried. The child's grandparents were very distressed, My parents also felt very embarrassed, but because they were purely voluntary and didn't mean to help, they all said it was okay at that time and thought it was over. But two days ago, my mother overheard uncle Tong's family say to others: the child hit a big bag on his head, and it hurts to look at it. Alas, I knew I should have called a taxi at that time. So and so drove too carelessly, so and so, I'll forget it in the future. My mother said excitedly on the phone, "are we on purpose? We don't go to bed in the middle of the night to send them to the hospital and complain. Who have I provoked? There's hard work without credit! I've known them for so many years and found them so unreasonable for the first time. Don't come and go in the future." This matter has a grudge in each other's hearts. The relationship between the two families is much worse than before, and it is estimated that it is difficult to recover. Such things are never rare in small counties and cities. I've seen many of these things since I was a child. I learned how to avoid the risks in this kind of human relationship, and also let me understand: don't owe anyone anything. Because you owe anything, you can repay it at the same value. Only human feelings, once owed, are likely to be unclear for life. One of my classmates got married and bought a house. There was no problem paying a down payment with his ability, but the mortgage needed to pay more than 200000 interest. After thinking about it, he was very painful about these interest, so he decided to borrow money from relatives and friends in the family and buy the house with all the money, so he didn't have to pay interest. Indeed, his relatives and friends did not ask him for interest, which saved more than 200000 interest. A few years later, he began to do business, and soon accumulated a lot of wealth. However, trouble also followed. He once lent money to his relatives. Once something happened, he was the first one to think of. He has self-knowledge. He knows that he has received favors and should repay them. He also tries to meet the requirements of his relatives. However, before long, he felt that he couldn't bear it. There were too many relatives. Either today or tomorrow, his wife's face became more and more ugly. He couldn't say how bitter he was. Once he refused, he was ungrateful, and the saliva of the whole family was enough for him. What made him more regretful was that some relatives didn't ask him to borrow money, but asked him to do things, either to find a job for this cousin or to introduce a place for that cousin, so he owed more. His wife complained to him: "at the beginning, your mortgage was good. You have to find someone to borrow money. Now, well, the money and favor we put in are almost millions. Moreover, we can't see the end. Depending on their posture, either we are down, or we die, or it won't be over." He was speechless and secretly regretted. When the students gathered, he said to us with great pain: "one of the stupidest behaviors in the world is to go to relatives and friends for things that you can solve with money, and then don't know for a lifetime." In life, many people like to ask for help. If you want to move, you obviously have a professional moving company, and you are still used to looking for the help of your relatives and friends, just to save some moving expenses; Where you want to go, you can take a taxi. You have to ask someone to pick you up and send you, just to save that little fare; If you want to buy a house, it is clear that the door of the bank is always open, and you are still used to borrowing from others, just to save that little interest. Many people like "free" things. When they hear that they want to spend money, they feel distressed and always want to do things without spending money. In fact, in essence, this is a kind of psychology of greed for small and cheap. As we all know, those who suffer heavy losses are often those who are greedy for small and cheap. The advantage you take will make you lose more in the future. All the things you get need you to pay the corresponding price, and money is actually the smallest price. My mother has told me many times that she told me not to invite my aunt. Anyway, she has nothing to do to clean me, and she doesn't want a penny. I firmly refused. I'd rather spend thousands of dollars a month than my mother to take care of me. Although my aunt has to pay wages every month, we have an employment relationship. I ask her to finish the work. She respects my life and freedom. I respect her personality and labor. We are very calm, both me and my husband. But when my mother came here, on the surface, I saved thousands of dollars, but in fact, I have to pay more. In this world, no one just performs their obligations and doesn't enjoy their rights. When my mother provides services for me free of charge, she has the capital to intervene in my life, and because she doesn't accept money, no matter whether she does well or not, I should be grateful and can't be picky. Otherwise, it is unfilial, and there will be no problem of filial piety between me and my aunt, She won't interfere with any of my decisions. When something can be solved with money, solving with money is the best choice. On the other hand, using money to solve problems is faster, more professional, more secure and more worry free. A few years ago, I met a reader who asked for help. She said she felt depressed after being lovelorn and asked me to help her. I knew depression, but I didn't know much about it. So I proposed to introduce a professional psychologist to her, but she was very unhappy as soon as she listened to the consultation for 150 yuan an hour. In her opinion, it doesn't cost money to consult me. Now it takes 150 an hour to pay for consultation. This money is too wronged. But in fact, I am not good at this field at all. Even if I am willing to provide free consultation, my consultation is estimated to be incomparable with a professional psychologist. My patience and professionalism will be greatly reduced, and even delay her illness, which is not worth the loss. A person who wants to live a relaxed and simple life must establish the concept of paid consumption. It is true that in the past society, many services were not perfect and the economic situation was poor, so we would need to help each other more. However, with the progress of the times and the improvement of the social system, many things have been subdivided into professional fields, and professional people in each field have made it to the extreme. We don't need to look for help everywhere as in the past. In the era of awakening self-consciousness, we should first learn to solve by ourselves. When we encounter something that can't be solved, we can find someone to help. I believe others will be more willing to lend a helping hand. Therefore, the top priority, you only need to do one thing: that is to make good money!
My first job after college was a little far from home. The company provided dormitories. The girl had so many things that she packed out two boxes of clothes and a pile of messy things in my mother's eyes. With so many things, I naturally need a car. At that time, my family was ordinary and there was no private car. I wanted to call a taxi. My mother said without thinking, "what's the taxi? I'll ask your brother Tongyuan next door if he's free and ask him to give you a ride. It costs hundreds of dollars to take a taxi. I don't know how to save money before I make money." Small counties and cities have always adhered to the custom of mutual assistance. I need you to help me, and you need me to help you. Everyone has always believed in the principle that distant relatives are not as good as close neighbors. They always feel that only living in this way can have a sense of security. If any family does not do so, they think that the other party is lonely and unsociable. Therefore, it's not surprising that my mother has such an idea, but I seem to be born out of tune with the small county. I don't like to trouble others. So, despite my mother's objection, I insisted on calling a taxi and moved these possessions to the company dormitory. My mother talked about me all the way. She thought I was too lonely and didn't know how to use all kinds of resources. It was a fool. I kept silent and knew that the three views were different and could not be forced. My mother continued to pursue her life philosophy of mutual trouble, while I adhered to the principle of being alone, but I was also in peace. A few years later, when the family bought a car, others would bother her. Her personality is different from mine. She never thought it was a kind of trouble. She thought that others came to you for help. She looked up to you and had a good relationship with you. She was willing. Naturally, I wouldn't say anything. Anyway, she felt comfortable. However, just a few days ago, she called me, very wronged, mixed with anger. About a week ago, uncle Tong's grandson next door suddenly vomited and had a fever in the evening. Their son and daughter-in-law were not at home. They called my mother in the hope of taking them to the hospital. Without saying a word, my mother quickly called my father and sent uncle Tong's son to the hospital. This is originally a good thing. Even strangers should help in such a matter out of humanitarian spirit. But there was an episode in the middle. The child had finished hanging water in the hospital. It was more than two o'clock in the evening. The party was sleepy and tired. When they drove back, there was a stone on the road that they didn't see. So they drove over. The car bumped violently. The child's head hit the nearby glass window and immediately cried. The child's grandparents were very distressed, My parents also felt very embarrassed, but because they were purely voluntary and didn't mean to help, they all said it was okay at that time and thought it was over. But two days ago, my mother overheard uncle Tong's family say to others: the child hit a big bag on his head, and it hurts to look at it. Alas, I knew I should have called a taxi at that time. So and so drove too carelessly, so and so, I'll forget it in the future. My mother said excitedly on the phone, "are we on purpose? We don't go to bed in the middle of the night to send them to the hospital and complain. Who have I provoked? There's hard work without credit! I've known them for so many years and found them so unreasonable for the first time. Don't come and go in the future." This matter has a grudge in each other's hearts. The relationship between the two families is much worse than before, and it is estimated that it is difficult to recover. Such things are never rare in small counties and cities. I've seen many of these things since I was a child. I learned how to avoid the risks in this kind of human relationship, and also let me understand: don't owe anyone anything. Because you owe anything, you can repay it at the same value. Only human feelings, once owed, are likely to be unclear for life. One of my classmates got married and bought a house. There was no problem paying a down payment with his ability, but the mortgage needed to pay more than 200000 interest. After thinking about it, he was very painful about these interest, so he decided to borrow money from relatives and friends in the family and buy the house with all the money, so he didn't have to pay interest. Indeed, his relatives and friends did not ask him for interest, which saved more than 200000 interest. A few years later, he began to do business, and soon accumulated a lot of wealth. However, trouble also followed. He once lent money to his relatives. Once something happened, he was the first one to think of. He has self-knowledge. He knows that he has received favors and should repay them. He also tries to meet the requirements of his relatives. However, before long, he felt that he couldn't bear it. There were too many relatives. Either today or tomorrow, his wife's face became more and more ugly. He couldn't say how bitter he was. Once he refused, he was ungrateful, and the saliva of the whole family was enough for him. What made him more regretful was that some relatives didn't ask him to borrow money, but asked him to do things, either to find a job for this cousin or to introduce a place for that cousin, so he owed more. His wife complained to him: "at the beginning, your mortgage was good. You have to find someone to borrow money. Now, well, the money and favor we put in are almost millions. Moreover, we can't see the end. Depending on their posture, either we are down, or we die, or it won't be over." He was speechless and secretly regretted. When the students gathered, he said to us with great pain: "one of the stupidest behaviors in the world is to go to relatives and friends for things that you can solve with money, and then don't know for a lifetime." In life, many people like to ask for help. If you want to move, you obviously have a professional moving company, and you are still used to looking for the help of your relatives and friends, just to save some moving expenses; Where you want to go, you can take a taxi. You have to ask someone to pick you up and send you, just to save that little fare; If you want to buy a house, it is clear that the door of the bank is always open, and you are still used to borrowing from others, just to save that little interest. Many people like "free" things. When they hear that they want to spend money, they feel distressed and always want to do things without spending money. In fact, in essence, this is a kind of psychology of greed for small and cheap. As we all know, those who suffer heavy losses are often those who are greedy for small and cheap. The advantage you take will make you lose more in the future. All the things you get need you to pay the corresponding price, and money is actually the smallest price. My mother has told me many times that she told me not to invite my aunt. Anyway, she has nothing to do to clean me, and she doesn't want a penny. I firmly refused. I'd rather spend thousands of dollars a month than my mother to take care of me. Although my aunt has to pay wages every month, we have an employment relationship. I ask her to finish the work. She respects my life and freedom. I respect her personality and labor. We are very calm, both me and my husband. But when my mother came here, on the surface, I saved thousands of dollars, but in fact, I have to pay more. In this world, no one just performs their obligations and doesn't enjoy their rights. When my mother provides services for me free of charge, she has the capital to intervene in my life, and because she doesn't accept money, no matter whether she does well or not, I should be grateful and can't be picky. Otherwise, it is unfilial, and there will be no problem of filial piety between me and my aunt, She won't interfere with any of my decisions. When something can be solved with money, solving with money is the best choice. On the other hand, using money to solve problems is faster, more professional, more secure and more worry free. A few years ago, I met a reader who asked for help. She said she felt depressed after being lovelorn and asked me to help her. I knew depression, but I didn't know much about it. So I proposed to introduce a professional psychologist to her, but she was very unhappy as soon as she listened to the consultation for 150 yuan an hour. In her opinion, it doesn't cost money to consult me. Now it takes 150 an hour to pay for consultation. This money is too wronged. But in fact, I am not good at this field at all. Even if I am willing to provide free consultation, my consultation is estimated to be incomparable with a professional psychologist. My patience and professionalism will be greatly reduced, and even delay her illness, which is not worth the loss. A person who wants to live a relaxed and simple life must establish the concept of paid consumption. It is true that in the past society, many services were not perfect and the economic situation was poor, so we would need to help each other more. However, with the progress of the times and the improvement of the social system, many things have been subdivided into professional fields, and professional people in each field have made it to the extreme. We don't need to look for help everywhere as in the past. In the era of awakening self-consciousness, we should first learn to solve by ourselves. When we encounter something that can't be solved, we can find someone to help. I believe others will be more willing to lend a helping hand. Therefore, the top priority, you only need to do one thing: that is to make good money!
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