During the Chinese new year, I am always asked a question, do you want to go to the classmate party? A classmate asked me, "uncle, is it necessary to force yourself to go to the classmate's meeting? Because it's just to play with my better classmates. I haven't been to the classmate's meeting since I graduated from high school. I think it's better to find good classmates to play." But she also felt that "seeing the message of her classmates on wechat saying 'forget those who don't cherish it', she felt a little sorry for them. They will graduate in a year. She thought at least go to get together, but if no one forced me, I still couldn't step forward and tangle up with contradictions..." It is estimated that many people have this kind of entanglement. Students who have such a party but don't want to go, I think it may be due to the following reasons:

1. The relationship with many students is slowly fading. I don't know how to integrate into the topic when I meet. I feel like a "cold queen". Few people are willing to lose their "sense of existence" in this social occasion. Since it's boring, it's better not to go.

2. Some students and some festivals or grudges, go to this occasion to meet, not ready to communicate, in order to avoid contradictions or embarrassment, simply do not go.

3. Sometimes I wanted to go to a classmate party, but I found that everyone's topics were thousands of miles apart. Although I could talk, I couldn't find resonance in my heart. For example, when you were in college, your high school classmates talked about who had a baby. Can you not tangle? Then why do you think you want to go to a classmate party?

4. Human feelings, not to be told by students to be separated from the masses, it seems that they can't socialize and feel inappropriate.

5. Contacts, I think the friendship between students is also the contacts of the society in the future. If you don't accumulate it now, where will you get the return in the future?

6. Boring doesn't mean that you have to attend the classmate party, but there are no interesting things to do. Instead of being nagged by your mother at home, you'd better go to the classmate party to make soy sauce. Many people also asked me, uncle, do you attend the classmate party? I can clearly say: I never take the initiative to attend a classmate party when I go back to my hometown during the new year. 99.9% of my classmates and I can only know each other because of this. We can't even know each other. We have forgotten each other. If I am invited to a classmate's party, I will attend if I have nothing to do. Basically, I just gather a table, don't talk, don't gossip, and occasionally help to activate the atmosphere and laugh with the supporting actor in the whole process. If we have a good relationship, we will have a private chat. Without business cooperation, our friendship is difficult to go deep. When we were in a good relationship, we actually knew nothing about the world. The people I knew in kindergarten, now I can't even remember their appearance. People I knew when I was in primary school. Now I can't even remember their names. Most of the people I knew in high school now I don't know where they work. People I knew when I was in college now often take ten years for us to meet. People I know after working often can't remember with their business cards. We once had dinner together and said that we were brothers and brothers. Many students will ask, don't you lose a lot of opportunities to maintain your classmates' feelings and develop contacts? This makes me find a problem. Many students don't know what is a fellow townsman, what is a friend and what is a network! What is a friend? What is a playmate? What is a confidant? What is the same way? What are contacts? What do you want from people you know everywhere? Is a person who agrees with you in everything? Or someone who can help you out? Is someone who can point out your problems impolitely? Or someone who is willing to listen to you when you are unhappy? I think the real problem of many students is not whether they will make friends, whether they want to make friends or not, how to communicate with friends, but that they don't know what they want. The so-called need for a friend for most people is better to find a teammate to keep warm for their weak heart. Who is really serious about who, in fact, everyone is thinking about themselves. A wechat friend commented well: Now I try to divide the people I know into these categories: Important friends: people who can understand and support each other People who have to maintain superficial relationships: for example, colleagues People who want to please or try to have a good relationship: for example, direct leaders Resources that need to be maintained: for example, important partnerships, or resources with special needs such as banks, hospitals and lawyers Some ordinary friends. The older I get, the more I feel the need for such a classification. After all, our time is limited, and I do become more snobbish. I hope to absorb useful content and resources from different people, even those you don't like and dislike but have to face. It is a gift from God to meet people who advance and retreat with you. I always feel that I can't find your kind. It's normal to tell the truth. Only in this way can we constantly challenge our communication and interpersonal skills. Now many of our students know where their understanding of friends and contacts is? Is it useful to know so many people? It's really hard to say. We always mistakenly think I used to be a friend, and I will be a friend in the future Because we are together, we must be friends The one who loves me is the one who fails If we are friends, we should be together in everything I trust my friends and they have to tell me everything You probably think that "classmate = friend", "roommate = friend", "old friend = lifetime", "new friend = contacts", "best friend = confidant", and "together = good relationship". These are childish illusions. If you know a little critical thinking, the answers to these questions will come out by yourself. Different from you, because the more I experience, the more I find that the most important thing for a person is not to have many friends, but to have the ability needed by others and be able to enjoy solitude alone. You have the ability that others need. You are introverted, you are not good at words, and you don't like to socialize. It's not a problem. Others will take the initiative to come to you. At most, it's a little more communication cost. You can enjoy solitude. When no one understands and comforts you, you are your own closest friend. You know, it's hard fate in this life to meet a confidant. It's normal to cherish it when you meet it and not meet it. Unfortunately, these all need long-term cultivation.

During the Chinese new year, I am always asked a question, do you want to go to the classmate party? A classmate asked me, "uncle, is it necessary to force yourself to go to the classmate's meeting? Because it's just to play with my better classmates. I haven't been to the classmate's meeting since I graduated from high school. I think it's better to find good classmates to play." But she also felt that "seeing the message of her classmates on wechat saying 'forget those who don't cherish it', she felt a little sorry for them. They will graduate in a year. She thought at least go to get together, but if no one forced me, I still couldn't step forward and tangle up with contradictions..." It is estimated that many people have this kind of entanglement. Students who have such a party but don't want to go, I think it may be due to the following reasons:

1. The relationship with many students is slowly fading. I don't know how to integrate into the topic when I meet. I feel like a "cold queen". Few people are willing to lose their "sense of existence" in this social occasion. Since it's boring, it's better not to go.

2. Some students and some festivals or grudges, go to this occasion to meet, not ready to communicate, in order to avoid contradictions or embarrassment, simply do not go.

3. Sometimes I wanted to go to a classmate party, but I found that everyone's topics were thousands of miles apart. Although I could talk, I couldn't find resonance in my heart. For example, when you were in college, your high school classmates talked about who had a baby. Can you not tangle? Then why do you think you want to go to a classmate party?

4. Human feelings, not to be told by students to be separated from the masses, it seems that they can't socialize and feel inappropriate.

5. Contacts, I think the friendship between students is also the contacts of the society in the future. If you don't accumulate it now, where will you get the return in the future?

6. Boring doesn't mean that you have to attend the classmate party, but there are no interesting things to do. Instead of being nagged by your mother at home, you'd better go to the classmate party to make soy sauce. Many people also asked me, uncle, do you attend the classmate party? I can clearly say: I never take the initiative to attend a classmate party when I go back to my hometown during the new year. 99.9% of my classmates and I can only know each other because of this. We can't even know each other. We have forgotten each other. If I am invited to a classmate's party, I will attend if I have nothing to do. Basically, I just gather a table, don't talk, don't gossip, and occasionally help to activate the atmosphere and laugh with the supporting actor in the whole process. If we have a good relationship, we will have a private chat. Without business cooperation, our friendship is difficult to go deep. When we were in a good relationship, we actually knew nothing about the world. The people I knew in kindergarten, now I can't even remember their appearance. People I knew when I was in primary school. Now I can't even remember their names. Most of the people I knew in high school now I don't know where they work. People I knew when I was in college now often take ten years for us to meet. People I know after working often can't remember with their business cards. We once had dinner together and said that we were brothers and brothers. Many students will ask, don't you lose a lot of opportunities to maintain your classmates' feelings and develop contacts? This makes me find a problem. Many students don't know what is a fellow townsman, what is a friend and what is a network! What is a friend? What is a playmate? What is a confidant? What is the same way? What are contacts? What do you want from people you know everywhere? Is a person who agrees with you in everything? Or someone who can help you out? Is someone who can point out your problems impolitely? Or someone who is willing to listen to you when you are unhappy? I think the real problem of many students is not whether they will make friends, whether they want to make friends or not, how to communicate with friends, but that they don't know what they want. The so-called need for a friend for most people is better to find a teammate to keep warm for their weak heart. Who is really serious about who, in fact, everyone is thinking about themselves. A wechat friend commented well: Now I try to divide the people I know into these categories: Important friends: people who can understand and support each other People who have to maintain superficial relationships: for example, colleagues People who want to please or try to have a good relationship: for example, direct leaders Resources that need to be maintained: for example, important partnerships, or resources with special needs such as banks, hospitals and lawyers Some ordinary friends. The older I get, the more I feel the need for such a classification. After all, our time is limited, and I do become more snobbish. I hope to absorb useful content and resources from different people, even those you don't like and dislike but have to face. It is a gift from God to meet people who advance and retreat with you. I always feel that I can't find your kind. It's normal to tell the truth. Only in this way can we constantly challenge our communication and interpersonal skills. Now many of our students know where their understanding of friends and contacts is? Is it useful to know so many people? It's really hard to say. We always mistakenly think I used to be a friend, and I will be a friend in the future Because we are together, we must be friends The one who loves me is the one who fails If we are friends, we should be together in everything I trust my friends and they have to tell me everything You probably think that "classmate = friend", "roommate = friend", "old friend = lifetime", "new friend = contacts", "best friend = confidant", and "together = good relationship". These are childish illusions. If you know a little critical thinking, the answers to these questions will come out by yourself. Different from you, because the more I experience, the more I find that the most important thing for a person is not to have many friends, but to have the ability needed by others and be able to enjoy solitude alone. You have the ability that others need. You are introverted, you are not good at words, and you don't like to socialize. It's not a problem. Others will take the initiative to come to you. At most, it's a little more communication cost. You can enjoy solitude. When no one understands and comforts you, you are your own closest friend. You know, it's hard fate in this life to meet a confidant. It's normal to cherish it when you meet it and not meet it. Unfortunately, these all need long-term cultivation.