one A few days ago, my colleagues went on a blind date. She is 28 years old, an independent woman. The boy is several years older than her. She says she has been busy with her career and delayed her love. The two men were suitable in all aspects, so they made an appointment to meet together. Unexpectedly, love did not meet, but she was very angry. Just after they sat face-to-face for five minutes, the boy smiled and said to her, you look rounder and chubby than the picture. After hearing this, my colleagues almost gushed out an old mouthful of blood, but they still remained calm. They thought, do I know you well? You say I'm fat. Then, the boy asked her why she broke up with her ex. Colleagues said that two people are not suitable. "What's the reason? How do you judge whether it's appropriate or not?" Boys completely ignore the feelings of their colleagues and keep asking. After coming back, my colleagues black the boys. On a blind date, two people need to know each other, but that doesn't mean your problems can be aggressive, nor does it mean you can embarrass each other recklessly. two I have heard such a saying: "in men, wisdom and upbringing are the most important. Whether you are beautiful or not is nothing! If you have no upbringing and wisdom in your mind, even if you are a beautiful man, you are still worthless.". In fact, boys and girls are the same. Previously, three or five friends had a wechat group in which we would chat at will. There was a couple. Once, a girl teased her boyfriend in the group that she had no car, no house, no money and was so poor that she must have saved the universe in her last life, so she met her. This sentence sounds OK at first, but it really embarrasses her boyfriend. Girls are careless and outspoken, but that doesn't mean they can't learn to respect and ignore other people's feelings. People want face. No matter how familiar they are with their friends, they all want to maintain a little dignity. A lot of things can be said in private. It's not necessary for everyone to know. three Zhihu user @ Zeng Shaoxian understands education in this way: many people like to stab others' soft ribs with their own armor to prove that they are powerful. For example, they will say to others: "That's not enough!" "Don't you know what's in your head..." "These are very cheap. Can't you even afford this?" The world itself is diverse, and individual differences exist objectively. We can't require everyone to have the same family background, ability, knowledge and vision as ourselves. "My eyes are full of longing for all good things, and my heart is filled with tolerance and understanding for all unfortunate things", which is my understanding of upbringing. In this world, not everyone is willing to tolerate your sarcasm. Don't take speaking frankly as a reason to hurt others. four The more you grow up, the more you find that the most expensive thing is education. My best friend told me such a thing. She said that once she was wronged by work, so she ran to the bathroom and cried for a long time. When she came out, she just ran into her colleagues. At that time, there were still tears in the corners of her eyes. The other party just said hello to her without asking anything. Later, when he returned to the office, the colleague pretended that nothing had happened and continued to do what he was doing. No whispering with others, no loudly asking your best friend why, no polite comfort, such a reasonable sense of distance makes people comfortable. Everyone is an adult. No one wants others to see their fragile and sensitive side. The real consideration is to be silent and unable to empathize, but please remember not to consume other people's pain. five In the final analysis, a person's upbringing is: kindness for the sake of others, cultivation rooted in the heart, consciousness without reminding, freedom on the premise of restraint. Be a comfortable person and try not to cause trouble or embarrass others. Understand others to the greatest extent, learn to empathize, treat others sincerely, not aggressive, not self righteous, and do not put others in an embarrassing situation. Be a person, please pay attention to the sense of propriety, and don't regard being uneducated as being straight.

one A few days ago, my colleagues went on a blind date. She is 28 years old, an independent woman. The boy is several years older than her. She says she has been busy with her career and delayed her love. The two men were suitable in all aspects, so they made an appointment to meet together. Unexpectedly, love did not meet, but she was very angry. Just after they sat face-to-face for five minutes, the boy smiled and said to her, you look rounder and chubby than the picture. After hearing this, my colleagues almost gushed out an old mouthful of blood, but they still remained calm. They thought, do I know you well? You say I'm fat. Then, the boy asked her why she broke up with her ex. Colleagues said that two people are not suitable. "What's the reason? How do you judge whether it's appropriate or not?" Boys completely ignore the feelings of their colleagues and keep asking. After coming back, my colleagues black the boys. On a blind date, two people need to know each other, but that doesn't mean your problems can be aggressive, nor does it mean you can embarrass each other recklessly. two I have heard such a saying: "in men, wisdom and upbringing are the most important. Whether you are beautiful or not is nothing! If you have no upbringing and wisdom in your mind, even if you are a beautiful man, you are still worthless.". In fact, boys and girls are the same. Previously, three or five friends had a wechat group in which we would chat at will. There was a couple. Once, a girl teased her boyfriend in the group that she had no car, no house, no money and was so poor that she must have saved the universe in her last life, so she met her. This sentence sounds OK at first, but it really embarrasses her boyfriend. Girls are careless and outspoken, but that doesn't mean they can't learn to respect and ignore other people's feelings. People want face. No matter how familiar they are with their friends, they all want to maintain a little dignity. A lot of things can be said in private. It's not necessary for everyone to know. three Zhihu user @ Zeng Shaoxian understands education in this way: many people like to stab others' soft ribs with their own armor to prove that they are powerful. For example, they will say to others: "That's not enough!" "Don't you know what's in your head..." "These are very cheap. Can't you even afford this?" The world itself is diverse, and individual differences exist objectively. We can't require everyone to have the same family background, ability, knowledge and vision as ourselves. "My eyes are full of longing for all good things, and my heart is filled with tolerance and understanding for all unfortunate things", which is my understanding of upbringing. In this world, not everyone is willing to tolerate your sarcasm. Don't take speaking frankly as a reason to hurt others. four The more you grow up, the more you find that the most expensive thing is education. My best friend told me such a thing. She said that once she was wronged by work, so she ran to the bathroom and cried for a long time. When she came out, she just ran into her colleagues. At that time, there were still tears in the corners of her eyes. The other party just said hello to her without asking anything. Later, when he returned to the office, the colleague pretended that nothing had happened and continued to do what he was doing. No whispering with others, no loudly asking your best friend why, no polite comfort, such a reasonable sense of distance makes people comfortable. Everyone is an adult. No one wants others to see their fragile and sensitive side. The real consideration is to be silent and unable to empathize, but please remember not to consume other people's pain. five In the final analysis, a person's upbringing is: kindness for the sake of others, cultivation rooted in the heart, consciousness without reminding, freedom on the premise of restraint. Be a comfortable person and try not to cause trouble or embarrass others. Understand others to the greatest extent, learn to empathize, treat others sincerely, not aggressive, not self righteous, and do not put others in an embarrassing situation. Be a person, please pay attention to the sense of propriety, and don't regard being uneducated as being straight.