01 When I was in junior high school, there was a Xueba in our class. Every exam was the first in grade. This is not the most irritating thing. The most irritating thing is that he also claims that he never reviews his lessons after school, and he doesn't listen carefully to his teachers in class. After school, he just plays games and watches TV, but he still ranks first in the annual exam. According to his meaning, he is naturally smart and has nothing to do with hard work. His intelligence is beyond the reach of our losers. His arrogance makes people hate his teeth itch. However, is the fact really what he said? Once, by chance, my mother and I went to work and met Xueba's mother. It was a weekend. Xueba's mother told her mother that his son didn't go out on weekends, so he reviewed his lessons at home and took the exam first every year. She never worried about his study. When she spoke, her eyebrows danced and showed off. Her words just exposed her son's lies. She tried her best to review her lessons, but openly told others that she didn't work hard. Such a person is too fake. I was once annoyed that I worked hard but my grades were still bad. It suddenly dawned on me that the real reason why he did so well was that he worked hard. He created the illusion that he didn't work hard, just to hit others and greatly satisfy his vanity. Later, I told my mother about it. My mother smiled and said to me: you must not follow other people's thinking. If you really see a person clearly, you should not look at what he said, but what he did. If a person is kind, it depends on whether he is executing according to what he said. When I grow up, I work. When colleagues gathered in private, they complained about the company's bad system and the boss. They howled and complained. However, when they really went to work, they all sharpened their heads and drilled into the core Department of the company. Every day, like beating chicken blood, they tried their best to behave in front of the boss. At that time, I was just a rookie. This phenomenon surprised me a little and almost believed it, I suddenly remembered my mother's words: just listen to what others say. It's right to really understand a person and see what he is doing. Colleagues' complaints about the company are really just words. If they were so dissatisfied, they would have resigned and left long ago. They won't wait until now. What they fear most is that the speaker is unintentional and the listener is intentional. Therefore, we must not be misled by other people's lies. Say money is a sin, all in fishing; Say beauty is a curse, all want it; It is said that the height is extremely cold and they are climbing; Say that smoking and drinking hurt the body, do not quit; The world is full of lies. If you want to really see a person, just look at his actions. 02 In fact, Gao Yuliang was the most incomprehensible character in the TV series "the name of the people". The words in his mouth are all set by set, "public life is bright, honesty is powerful". He acted like a righteous man. Coupled with his elegant appearance, I thought he was a decent figure. However, when I saw some of his actions, I found that he was a completely hypocritical figure. His wife, Mr. Wu, is an expert in the history of the Ming Dynasty. However, he insisted that he liked Gao Xiaofeng because he discussed the soul resonance of the fifteen years of Wanli together. He said he was loyal to love, but he was only loyal to his young and beautiful body and his love with Gao Xiaofeng. He is so hypocritical that he deceives himself. He always likes to stand at the highest point of morality. All his actions, whether correct or incorrect, can fabricate a strict theoretical system to support himself. In fact, for such a person, you just talk to him, you can't tell what kind of person he is. You must see his behavior. In my career, I have met all kinds of people. Some people have a honey belly sword and secretly stab you in the back. Some people don't speak well, but they always tell you the key to the point, which is of great help to you. I have also met many bosses. Some bosses always talk to you about feelings and constantly encourage you to contribute to the company. However, once money is involved, they always try to make themselves more, Some bosses seldom talk with you. They always worry about whether you are wronged and whether you give enough money. Therefore, whether you are in the world or in the workplace, it depends on his behavior. In fact, this is an eternal golden rule. 03 Confucius once said, "I began with people, listening to their words and believing in their actions; now I am also with people, listening to their words and observing their actions." In the past, when I looked at a person, I believed what he said; now when I look at a person, I listen to what he said first, and then see what he did In fact, our ancients have told us this truth for a long time. The unity of knowledge and practice and the real understanding of a person depends on whether he performs as he said. Now, let's think about it. It seems easy to do what we say, but it's particularly difficult to really implement it. If a person does what he says, this behavior is very great. I think this is the highest evaluation of a person. I've seen too many people who talk, talk and talk freely. In fact, such people are generally unreliable. They just talk and talk. As the old saying goes, "there's no hair on the mouth, and they can't handle things well". People's hearts are separated from each other. People know their faces but don't know their hearts. If a person allows him to talk any more, please just look at what he does. 04 In fact, this is also true in feelings. He talks sweet to you, but in fact he has never done anything for you. As a saying goes, if a person says he likes you, please wait until he takes care of you. If he agrees to take you to a place, he will be happy when he has booked a ticket. If he says he wants to marry you, he will be moved when he buys a ring and kneels in front of you. Feelings are not just words. We are over the age of listening to love. One sentence you take is better than one hundred sentences I will give you. Ten thousand beautiful future is not worth a warm and real present. Many times, we only focus on the pleasure of our ears, but forget the actual feelings. To understand a person and whether a person is sincere, please put your ears away, look at what he does with your eyes and feel it with your heart. In this way, you will understand everything. Never look at what others say, but what they do, because a person's choice reflects his values, and a person is always doing what he thinks is the most correct.

01 When I was in junior high school, there was a Xueba in our class. Every exam was the first in grade. This is not the most irritating thing. The most irritating thing is that he also claims that he never reviews his lessons after school, and he doesn't listen carefully to his teachers in class. After school, he just plays games and watches TV, but he still ranks first in the annual exam. According to his meaning, he is naturally smart and has nothing to do with hard work. His intelligence is beyond the reach of our losers. His arrogance makes people hate his teeth itch. However, is the fact really what he said? Once, by chance, my mother and I went to work and met Xueba's mother. It was a weekend. Xueba's mother told her mother that his son didn't go out on weekends, so he reviewed his lessons at home and took the exam first every year. She never worried about his study. When she spoke, her eyebrows danced and showed off. Her words just exposed her son's lies. She tried her best to review her lessons, but openly told others that she didn't work hard. Such a person is too fake. I was once annoyed that I worked hard but my grades were still bad. It suddenly dawned on me that the real reason why he did so well was that he worked hard. He created the illusion that he didn't work hard, just to hit others and greatly satisfy his vanity. Later, I told my mother about it. My mother smiled and said to me: you must not follow other people's thinking. If you really see a person clearly, you should not look at what he said, but what he did. If a person is kind, it depends on whether he is executing according to what he said. When I grow up, I work. When colleagues gathered in private, they complained about the company's bad system and the boss. They howled and complained. However, when they really went to work, they all sharpened their heads and drilled into the core Department of the company. Every day, like beating chicken blood, they tried their best to behave in front of the boss. At that time, I was just a rookie. This phenomenon surprised me a little and almost believed it, I suddenly remembered my mother's words: just listen to what others say. It's right to really understand a person and see what he is doing. Colleagues' complaints about the company are really just words. If they were so dissatisfied, they would have resigned and left long ago. They won't wait until now. What they fear most is that the speaker is unintentional and the listener is intentional. Therefore, we must not be misled by other people's lies. Say money is a sin, all in fishing; Say beauty is a curse, all want it; It is said that the height is extremely cold and they are climbing; Say that smoking and drinking hurt the body, do not quit; The world is full of lies. If you want to really see a person, just look at his actions. 02 In fact, Gao Yuliang was the most incomprehensible character in the TV series "the name of the people". The words in his mouth are all set by set, "public life is bright, honesty is powerful". He acted like a righteous man. Coupled with his elegant appearance, I thought he was a decent figure. However, when I saw some of his actions, I found that he was a completely hypocritical figure. His wife, Mr. Wu, is an expert in the history of the Ming Dynasty. However, he insisted that he liked Gao Xiaofeng because he discussed the soul resonance of the fifteen years of Wanli together. He said he was loyal to love, but he was only loyal to his young and beautiful body and his love with Gao Xiaofeng. He is so hypocritical that he deceives himself. He always likes to stand at the highest point of morality. All his actions, whether correct or incorrect, can fabricate a strict theoretical system to support himself. In fact, for such a person, you just talk to him, you can't tell what kind of person he is. You must see his behavior. In my career, I have met all kinds of people. Some people have a honey belly sword and secretly stab you in the back. Some people don't speak well, but they always tell you the key to the point, which is of great help to you. I have also met many bosses. Some bosses always talk to you about feelings and constantly encourage you to contribute to the company. However, once money is involved, they always try to make themselves more, Some bosses seldom talk with you. They always worry about whether you are wronged and whether you give enough money. Therefore, whether you are in the world or in the workplace, it depends on his behavior. In fact, this is an eternal golden rule. 03 Confucius once said, "I began with people, listening to their words and believing in their actions; now I am also with people, listening to their words and observing their actions." In the past, when I looked at a person, I believed what he said; now when I look at a person, I listen to what he said first, and then see what he did In fact, our ancients have told us this truth for a long time. The unity of knowledge and practice and the real understanding of a person depends on whether he performs as he said. Now, let's think about it. It seems easy to do what we say, but it's particularly difficult to really implement it. If a person does what he says, this behavior is very great. I think this is the highest evaluation of a person. I've seen too many people who talk, talk and talk freely. In fact, such people are generally unreliable. They just talk and talk. As the old saying goes, "there's no hair on the mouth, and they can't handle things well". People's hearts are separated from each other. People know their faces but don't know their hearts. If a person allows him to talk any more, please just look at what he does. 04 In fact, this is also true in feelings. He talks sweet to you, but in fact he has never done anything for you. As a saying goes, if a person says he likes you, please wait until he takes care of you. If he agrees to take you to a place, he will be happy when he has booked a ticket. If he says he wants to marry you, he will be moved when he buys a ring and kneels in front of you. Feelings are not just words. We are over the age of listening to love. One sentence you take is better than one hundred sentences I will give you. Ten thousand beautiful future is not worth a warm and real present. Many times, we only focus on the pleasure of our ears, but forget the actual feelings. To understand a person and whether a person is sincere, please put your ears away, look at what he does with your eyes and feel it with your heart. In this way, you will understand everything. Never look at what others say, but what they do, because a person's choice reflects his values, and a person is always doing what he thinks is the most correct.