01 I have to admit that some "diseases" are really thought out, such as anxiety. Confucius told us that thinking without saying is dangerous, which is really reasonable. Too much worry, too much worry, and even wasted time. A few days ago, a reader contacted me on wechat and said: "I feel very anxious recently. In my late thirties, I am facing the pressure of housing loan and car loan to support my family. I want to change my career and change to a high paying career, but I don't know where to go?" The reader worked in a state-owned enterprise as soon as he graduated. He worked for seven years and was stable and comfortable. The only disadvantage was that his salary was not high. I asked him, "have you done anything to prepare for a career change?" He thought about it and replied to me: "no, since graduation, seven years have not added nutrients to the brain. It seems that even what he learned in college has been lost.". I asked again, "did you start worrying today and feel that your salary is low?" "Of course not!" His rebuttal came quickly, "In fact, once you enter the company, you know that this is a place for the elderly. You can't expect too much in salary. You want to change your job, but you don't know what to do. Go to a private enterprise. You feel hard, your English is not very good, and it's unstable. You want to study accounting. You're scared when you listen to so many notes, and you're not ready. A few years ago, you thought about starting a business with your friends, but you didn't listen to it It's said that the success rate of entrepreneurship is less than 4%, so let's stop... " Listening to the reader's mental history, I'm thinking that in seven years, after not busy work, it's enough for a person to learn a foreign language well, take an injection, and even go back to school to read out the master's degree and doctor's degree. If you really start a business, even if you don't succeed, you've already accumulated a lot of experience and contacts, so as not to worry so much. However, he spent his time thinking about his future and didn't make a decision. Now, there is only anxiety left. 02 A recent visitor, a senior student, said that the reason for the visit was that he was about to graduate from university and didn't know whether to take the postgraduate entrance examination or employment. Therefore, during several consultations, we discussed this topic. Speaking for a while, he said he would go to graduate school. On the one hand, he liked the school environment and wanted to stay for a longer time. On the other hand, he wanted to take an interprofessional examination of his favorite philosophy major. After a while, I hesitated. I'd better work first. After all, my family's economy is not very well-off. For several months, she spent her time in thinking and swinging from side to side. She tangled with herself and sought the advice of friends, seniors and sisters in many ways. She even made a lot of unhappiness because of her disagreement with her parents, quarrel with her parents and cold war. It was only during a consultation that I seriously asked her "what preparations you have made for postgraduate entrance examination or work" that she suddenly realized, "I always thought I could only act after thinking clearly, but I suddenly found that when I haven't thought clearly and understood, the day of postgraduate entrance examination is getting closer and closer, and there are fewer and fewer opportunities for campus recruitment, and I haven't done anything." You see, sometimes the more we think, the more anxious we become. 03 We crossed our legs, brushed wechat and chased the online drama. We strolled Taobao again and again, waiting for the "double 11" discount, and worried about when the salary could rise and the house price could fall. However, we didn't read more books, study more research work, add weight to our workplace, make money, and live a "buy buy buy" life as soon as possible. While eating hot pot, we anxiously discussed with our girlfriends what to do if we get fat and our skin gets worse? Is it that you can no longer wear beautiful clothes and take beautiful photos? Will your husband dislike you? Even when you grow up, your children will think that other people's mothers are better looking, but they only refuse to get up and go to the gym and enjoy the pleasure of sweating like rain. We are anxious about what to do when we are old, who will provide for our pension, whether the pension is enough, and whether our son can be reliable, but we didn't make a good appointment with an insurance agent to add some security for the rest of our life. You say, it's still necessary to ask. It's easier to take it for granted than to do it! However, thinking about how to economize on food and clothing, after half a month of you; Thinking about the beautiful but expensive clothes in the mall, you can't sleep at night; Is it really easy for you to live with your savings and save money? Isn't it? I'm worried again. In fact, sometimes, the only way to cure anxiety is to get up and take action. Just like my visitors, when they realized that they thought too much and did too little, they went to self-study steadfastly, prepared for the postgraduate entrance examination, submitted their resumes intermittently and ran several job fairs, telling me: "life is really full and happy.". Sometimes, the so-called choice is not the result of thinking, but the reward of action. Like Feng Xiaogang, if you don't do a good job as a director, you probably won't have a chance to become a film emperor; Like Sun Li, if you don't be a good actor, you won't even open Taobao store. 04 Of course, the anxiety mentioned here is not the "anxiety disorder" in psychology. There is an essential difference between the two. Anxiety is an emotion that ordinary people will have, and anxiety disorder is a kind of neurosis, which needs to seek professional treatment, and can not be treated by "simple and rough" action. There are several key points in the diagnosis of anxiety disorder. You can compare the self-test:

1. In most days of at least six months, he showed excessive anxiety and worry about many time or activities.

2. This anxiety is difficult to control.

3. At least three of the following symptoms: A. Fidgeting or feeling excited or nervous. B. Easy to get tired. C. Difficulty concentrating or blank mind. D. Irritable. E. Muscle tension. F. Sleep disorder (difficulty in falling asleep or staying asleep, or sleep with insufficient rest and unsatisfactory quality).

4. Such anxiety, worry or physical symptoms cause clinically significant pain or lead to impairment of social, professional or other important functions. Also, you can do the SAS anxiety self-test online. According to the results of the Chinese norm, the evaluation results are 50-59 points for mild anxiety, 60-69 points for moderate anxiety, and more than 69 points for severe anxiety. Promise me that if you become ill with anxiety and can't control yourself, you must seek professional psychotherapy. If not, get up and take action immediately, okay? Believe me, if you do more, you will naturally have less anxiety.

01 I have to admit that some "diseases" are really thought out, such as anxiety. Confucius told us that thinking without saying is dangerous, which is really reasonable. Too much worry, too much worry, and even wasted time. A few days ago, a reader contacted me on wechat and said: "I feel very anxious recently. In my late thirties, I am facing the pressure of housing loan and car loan to support my family. I want to change my career and change to a high paying career, but I don't know where to go?" The reader worked in a state-owned enterprise as soon as he graduated. He worked for seven years and was stable and comfortable. The only disadvantage was that his salary was not high. I asked him, "have you done anything to prepare for a career change?" He thought about it and replied to me: "no, since graduation, seven years have not added nutrients to the brain. It seems that even what he learned in college has been lost.". I asked again, "did you start worrying today and feel that your salary is low?" "Of course not!" His rebuttal came quickly, "In fact, once you enter the company, you know that this is a place for the elderly. You can't expect too much in salary. You want to change your job, but you don't know what to do. Go to a private enterprise. You feel hard, your English is not very good, and it's unstable. You want to study accounting. You're scared when you listen to so many notes, and you're not ready. A few years ago, you thought about starting a business with your friends, but you didn't listen to it It's said that the success rate of entrepreneurship is less than 4%, so let's stop... " Listening to the reader's mental history, I'm thinking that in seven years, after not busy work, it's enough for a person to learn a foreign language well, take an injection, and even go back to school to read out the master's degree and doctor's degree. If you really start a business, even if you don't succeed, you've already accumulated a lot of experience and contacts, so as not to worry so much. However, he spent his time thinking about his future and didn't make a decision. Now, there is only anxiety left. 02 A recent visitor, a senior student, said that the reason for the visit was that he was about to graduate from university and didn't know whether to take the postgraduate entrance examination or employment. Therefore, during several consultations, we discussed this topic. Speaking for a while, he said he would go to graduate school. On the one hand, he liked the school environment and wanted to stay for a longer time. On the other hand, he wanted to take an interprofessional examination of his favorite philosophy major. After a while, I hesitated. I'd better work first. After all, my family's economy is not very well-off. For several months, she spent her time in thinking and swinging from side to side. She tangled with herself and sought the advice of friends, seniors and sisters in many ways. She even made a lot of unhappiness because of her disagreement with her parents, quarrel with her parents and cold war. It was only during a consultation that I seriously asked her "what preparations you have made for postgraduate entrance examination or work" that she suddenly realized, "I always thought I could only act after thinking clearly, but I suddenly found that when I haven't thought clearly and understood, the day of postgraduate entrance examination is getting closer and closer, and there are fewer and fewer opportunities for campus recruitment, and I haven't done anything." You see, sometimes the more we think, the more anxious we become. 03 We crossed our legs, brushed wechat and chased the online drama. We strolled Taobao again and again, waiting for the "double 11" discount, and worried about when the salary could rise and the house price could fall. However, we didn't read more books, study more research work, add weight to our workplace, make money, and live a "buy buy buy" life as soon as possible. While eating hot pot, we anxiously discussed with our girlfriends what to do if we get fat and our skin gets worse? Is it that you can no longer wear beautiful clothes and take beautiful photos? Will your husband dislike you? Even when you grow up, your children will think that other people's mothers are better looking, but they only refuse to get up and go to the gym and enjoy the pleasure of sweating like rain. We are anxious about what to do when we are old, who will provide for our pension, whether the pension is enough, and whether our son can be reliable, but we didn't make a good appointment with an insurance agent to add some security for the rest of our life. You say, it's still necessary to ask. It's easier to take it for granted than to do it! However, thinking about how to economize on food and clothing, after half a month of you; Thinking about the beautiful but expensive clothes in the mall, you can't sleep at night; Is it really easy for you to live with your savings and save money? Isn't it? I'm worried again. In fact, sometimes, the only way to cure anxiety is to get up and take action. Just like my visitors, when they realized that they thought too much and did too little, they went to self-study steadfastly, prepared for the postgraduate entrance examination, submitted their resumes intermittently and ran several job fairs, telling me: "life is really full and happy.". Sometimes, the so-called choice is not the result of thinking, but the reward of action. Like Feng Xiaogang, if you don't do a good job as a director, you probably won't have a chance to become a film emperor; Like Sun Li, if you don't be a good actor, you won't even open Taobao store. 04 Of course, the anxiety mentioned here is not the "anxiety disorder" in psychology. There is an essential difference between the two. Anxiety is an emotion that ordinary people will have, and anxiety disorder is a kind of neurosis, which needs to seek professional treatment, and can not be treated by "simple and rough" action. There are several key points in the diagnosis of anxiety disorder. You can compare the self-test:

1. In most days of at least six months, he showed excessive anxiety and worry about many time or activities.

2. This anxiety is difficult to control.

3. At least three of the following symptoms: A. Fidgeting or feeling excited or nervous. B. Easy to get tired. C. Difficulty concentrating or blank mind. D. Irritable. E. Muscle tension. F. Sleep disorder (difficulty in falling asleep or staying asleep, or sleep with insufficient rest and unsatisfactory quality).

4. Such anxiety, worry or physical symptoms cause clinically significant pain or lead to impairment of social, professional or other important functions. Also, you can do the SAS anxiety self-test online. According to the results of the Chinese norm, the evaluation results are 50-59 points for mild anxiety, 60-69 points for moderate anxiety, and more than 69 points for severe anxiety. Promise me that if you become ill with anxiety and can't control yourself, you must seek professional psychotherapy. If not, get up and take action immediately, okay? Believe me, if you do more, you will naturally have less anxiety.