01 A few years ago, the Sales Office of the company hired an hourly aunt to clean up. Aunt smiles every day when she sees people and works very neatly. Everyone feels good. Half a year later, the real estate was sold out and there was no need for hourly work. Considering that my aunt did a good job and her family was in general, the kind case manager specially reported to the company and applied for an extra month's salary for my aunt, which was approved by the company. Who knows, the aunt killed the sales office the day after she was resigned and found the case manager. She was unconventional and aggressive and asked for compensation immediately. The case manager repeatedly explained to her that the application has been made and there is a process for financial settlement. Please rest assured that she can go back and wait for a few days. The hourly expenses in the past have always been settled in this way. I don't know where my aunt got angry. She yelled at the sales office with a blue face. What manager fooled her. The company was too black hearted and bullied her poor hourly worker One day later, the contrast between my aunt and me was stunned. Alas, when you are still angry, you can best see the most real appearance of a person. The employee felt that her aunt had gone too far this time and suggested that the manager ask the security guard to kick her out. This time, the manager didn't say anything more. He opened his wallet and paid his aunt a month's salary, which calmed things down. Looking at the back of my aunt leaving with money, I can't help but think of an idiom: summer insects can't speak ice. No matter men or women, no matter old or young, strong or weak, being unreasonable is always unpopular. 02 Think of another thing, a and B are colleagues. They have a good relationship on weekdays and often eat together. One day, due to work disputes, the always gentle B ran to a's desk, looked ferocious, one TMD at a time, and began to attack a with language. In the face of B's irritability, a said, you are really strange. Then he closed the computer and left the station silently. B lost the goal of venting and walked away in full view of the public. Until today, it is difficult to eliminate the hatred for A. on many occasions, B is the volunteer propagandist of a's "scandal". However, a never competed with B, but kept a polite and safe distance from B and always did his own things at his own pace. A was later recommended to a large company by headhunters with high salary, and the position was also promoted by a big step. B is still on the ground and shows no sign of promotion. In fact, the debate at work is a normal thing. B turned it into low-quality public anger and private disclosure, exposing his hidden nature and hurting his own brand. Through these, a is glad to see B's character and stay away in time. People should be reasonable. It's not that you can convince others by raising your voice a few decibels and looking ferocious; It's not that you retort and expose each other's history to cover up your mistakes. The more wretched and incompetent people are, the more they love to be moral judges, and the more they love to use accusations and Revelations to show their "courage" and "cow force" and hide their selfishness, cowardice and incompetence. In fact, you're not a cow, you're a fool. A man of good conduct will never whitewash his behavior by taking advantage of the faults of others, nor will he sneer at the people closest to him or say hurtful words. Most bullies don't argue with fools. They care more about their time, energy and opportunity cost. Huang Zijiao said that it's better for you to spend a second debating than to spend a second enriching yourself. 03 In the era of we media, you can easily see an endless stream of abuse from netizens from all over the world when you open a hot web page. There will be such a group of people on the Internet. They are completely normal in their daily work and life. Once they arrive on the Internet, they become particularly emotional. Many people have two selves in their hearts, two completely different people. When you are moved, you will be touched with tears and snot. When you are angry, you want to scold your ancestors for 18 generations. And strangely, they can switch seamlessly between the two modes without any transition. It's hard to say whether it's an Internet problem or a human problem. Maybe it's the product of the intersection of the two dimensions. After thinking about it, I found that it is nothing more than the anonymity of the online community, which makes their behavior in the network not restricted by social public order and good customs, let alone responsible for their own remarks. The cost of scolding is too low. Even if he offends people, he will not suffer any loss, so his nature is completely exposed. If you dare to scold in reality, minute by minute reality will teach you how to be a man. Therefore, the probability of cyber violence is far greater than that in real life. However, your remarks on the Internet will be an indelible mark in your life. People should have a sense of awe. People are doing it and heaven is watching. We should accumulate morality and not create karma. 04 Some people say that if you don't know whether a person is suitable to be your friend, quarrel with him and see what he looks like when he is angry. It is true that a person's character can be best seen by his reaction when he is angry or his interests are damaged. Character is the standard to test the quality of a relationship, while anger is the touchstone to test a person's character. However, it's a little expensive to wait until the other party is angry to see the other party's character clearly. There is another way to look at a person's cards, depending on his friends. Birds of a feather flock together. Friends don't necessarily end in distance, but they will end in gap.

01 A few years ago, the Sales Office of the company hired an hourly aunt to clean up. Aunt smiles every day when she sees people and works very neatly. Everyone feels good. Half a year later, the real estate was sold out and there was no need for hourly work. Considering that my aunt did a good job and her family was in general, the kind case manager specially reported to the company and applied for an extra month's salary for my aunt, which was approved by the company. Who knows, the aunt killed the sales office the day after she was resigned and found the case manager. She was unconventional and aggressive and asked for compensation immediately. The case manager repeatedly explained to her that the application has been made and there is a process for financial settlement. Please rest assured that she can go back and wait for a few days. The hourly expenses in the past have always been settled in this way. I don't know where my aunt got angry. She yelled at the sales office with a blue face. What manager fooled her. The company was too black hearted and bullied her poor hourly worker One day later, the contrast between my aunt and me was stunned. Alas, when you are still angry, you can best see the most real appearance of a person. The employee felt that her aunt had gone too far this time and suggested that the manager ask the security guard to kick her out. This time, the manager didn't say anything more. He opened his wallet and paid his aunt a month's salary, which calmed things down. Looking at the back of my aunt leaving with money, I can't help but think of an idiom: summer insects can't speak ice. No matter men or women, no matter old or young, strong or weak, being unreasonable is always unpopular. 02 Think of another thing, a and B are colleagues. They have a good relationship on weekdays and often eat together. One day, due to work disputes, the always gentle B ran to a's desk, looked ferocious, one TMD at a time, and began to attack a with language. In the face of B's irritability, a said, you are really strange. Then he closed the computer and left the station silently. B lost the goal of venting and walked away in full view of the public. Until today, it is difficult to eliminate the hatred for A. on many occasions, B is the volunteer propagandist of a's "scandal". However, a never competed with B, but kept a polite and safe distance from B and always did his own things at his own pace. A was later recommended to a large company by headhunters with high salary, and the position was also promoted by a big step. B is still on the ground and shows no sign of promotion. In fact, the debate at work is a normal thing. B turned it into low-quality public anger and private disclosure, exposing his hidden nature and hurting his own brand. Through these, a is glad to see B's character and stay away in time. People should be reasonable. It's not that you can convince others by raising your voice a few decibels and looking ferocious; It's not that you retort and expose each other's history to cover up your mistakes. The more wretched and incompetent people are, the more they love to be moral judges, and the more they love to use accusations and Revelations to show their "courage" and "cow force" and hide their selfishness, cowardice and incompetence. In fact, you're not a cow, you're a fool. A man of good conduct will never whitewash his behavior by taking advantage of the faults of others, nor will he sneer at the people closest to him or say hurtful words. Most bullies don't argue with fools. They care more about their time, energy and opportunity cost. Huang Zijiao said that it's better for you to spend a second debating than to spend a second enriching yourself. 03 In the era of we media, you can easily see an endless stream of abuse from netizens from all over the world when you open a hot web page. There will be such a group of people on the Internet. They are completely normal in their daily work and life. Once they arrive on the Internet, they become particularly emotional. Many people have two selves in their hearts, two completely different people. When you are moved, you will be touched with tears and snot. When you are angry, you want to scold your ancestors for 18 generations. And strangely, they can switch seamlessly between the two modes without any transition. It's hard to say whether it's an Internet problem or a human problem. Maybe it's the product of the intersection of the two dimensions. After thinking about it, I found that it is nothing more than the anonymity of the online community, which makes their behavior in the network not restricted by social public order and good customs, let alone responsible for their own remarks. The cost of scolding is too low. Even if he offends people, he will not suffer any loss, so his nature is completely exposed. If you dare to scold in reality, minute by minute reality will teach you how to be a man. Therefore, the probability of cyber violence is far greater than that in real life. However, your remarks on the Internet will be an indelible mark in your life. People should have a sense of awe. People are doing it and heaven is watching. We should accumulate morality and not create karma. 04 Some people say that if you don't know whether a person is suitable to be your friend, quarrel with him and see what he looks like when he is angry. It is true that a person's character can be best seen by his reaction when he is angry or his interests are damaged. Character is the standard to test the quality of a relationship, while anger is the touchstone to test a person's character. However, it's a little expensive to wait until the other party is angry to see the other party's character clearly. There is another way to look at a person's cards, depending on his friends. Birds of a feather flock together. Friends don't necessarily end in distance, but they will end in gap.