one A high-speed train ride. Halfway through the long journey, when I was sleepy, suddenly the "most dazzling national style" sounded in the quiet carriage. With the sound of music, almost everyone was shocked, and the sleepers were awakened one after another. Looking up, a mother sitting in the front row was holding a mobile phone with a happy smile on her face. Her five or six-year-old son was swinging his waist and hip in the carriage, dancing happily with the music. The mother was unaware of the strange eyes around her. She stared at her son and cheered: "the baby is great! It's good to dance! One more!" Some passengers coughed heavily because they couldn't stand it. The mother was immediately unhappy. She stood up and raised her eyebrows: "cough what? Cough what? You haven't brought a child at first sight! Understand what's the matter? The child is still young! What if you can't move in such a small place on the car and suffocate? Don't let me dance?" The passengers on the bus were silent. Mother sat down carelessly and continued to play songs. The child jumped to the front of the car, ran all the way to the back of the car, and then ran back, trampling. I looked at an elderly man sitting next to me, closed his eyes and stroked his heart. His face was a little white. Finally, some passengers couldn't stand it and called the steward to turn off the music. The mother was angry and said loudly, "I really have no love!" Just sat down. Sitting in a corner of the car, I suddenly remembered a father and daughter I met on the subway. The subway in Beijing was crowded, and so was that day. After taking the bus to the international trade center, the father and daughter got on the bus. As soon as the little girl got on the bus, she shouted to her father, "Dad! I want to sit! I'm tired!" Naturally, there will be no vacant seats in the full carriage. At that moment, a young student stood up to give up his seat, but the father waved his hand to stop it. He first showed a grateful smile to the students, then bowed his head, gently but seriously said to his daughter, "this is a public place, not our family, let alone you. We came late, we should keep order, and it's normal to have no seats. Right?" The little girl thought for a moment and nodded. She was still wronged: "but I'm tired." The father thought for a while, put down the things in his hand and picked up his daughter. "Although dad is very tired at work today, dad is willing to hold you. This position is not everyone's, but yours." The little girl laughed. two One day I had dinner with friends in a western restaurant. The atmosphere here was very good. The guests whispered. The aroma of food and the warm sunshine made people feel happy. A girl's shrill cry broke all this. We turned to see that it was a little girl of three or four years old, wearing a Pink Barbie dress and a lovely hairpin. At the moment, she was sitting in her seat wriggling out of control and crying. I don't know why. When the cry lasted for one minute, the guests around had frowned one after another. I looked up again. The girl's mother was whispering to appease her. It seemed to have no effect. The girl picked up a fork and threw it out and cried harder. My friend sighed and I smiled helplessly, thinking that today's good lunch was a failure. The next second, the mother stopped appeasing. She stood up, led her screaming daughter, quickly walked out of the main hall and turned into the bathroom. Everything calmed down and we breathed a sigh of relief. Our location is not far from the bathroom. The sound insulation condition is general. We can vaguely hear the sound behind the door over there. "... mom is very disappointed. You should learn to control your emotions and don't affect everyone. It's very impolite." The girl seems more and more hysterical. "Well, if this continues, mom can only accompany you here. Although it's very cold, uncomfortable and no chair, mom is willing to wait for you to calm down and stop crying when we can go back to the restaurant and eat your favorite fried chicken." The girl paused and began to choke loudly again. The mother stopped talking, leaving only the girl's intermittent crying. I got up and went to the bathroom. When I pushed the door in, I saw the mother and daughter standing in front of the mirror. The girl's eyes were red with tears. The mother's expression was calm, holding a wet toilet paper to wipe away tears for her daughter. I was a little impatient and began to advise, "don't be so strict. After all, I'm still a child." The mother shook her head: "although she is a child, not everyone is her parents. Others have no obligation to make sacrifices to connive at her and understand her." Most people still believe I will "What about growing up? Do you also place every wayward temper tantrum on the basis of 'I'm still a child'?" The mother smiled calmly, "thank you, but I'm really afraid that my daughter will be rushed to the bathroom by more and more people who hate her in the future. Instead of having such a future, I'd better take her in today." I have nothing to say. We ate that meal for nearly an hour and a half. When we were about to check out, the mother took her daughter out of the bathroom. The tears on her daughter's face have been washed clean and no longer crying. The mother and daughter sat back, asked the waiter to heat the dishes, carefully cut the chicken and put it on her daughter's plate. The daughter ate quietly, and occasionally asked the mother to help her with ketchup. It's cute. three A story in a seafood restaurant is more interesting. A child staggered to a couple's table and reached for the lobster on the plate. The girl was startled, and the boy pressed the child's hand in time. The child's family sat not far away. They saw all this, didn't stop it, and laughed. The girl was a little angry, but the boy smiled, picked up the lobster and asked the child, "do you want this?" The child nodded. "Do you want to be like him?" The boy pointed out the window. There was a young beggar sitting by the wall, ragged and dirty. The child was startled and shook his head. "Remember, as long as you reach out to others, no matter whether you want it or not, you will become him." The boy said. The child nodded vaguely. The boy said, "if you want to eat this lobster, you can. You need to exchange something for it." The child nodded again. The boy asked the waiter to borrow a pen and paper and wrote on it: "I will never be a person who gets something for nothing." He gently touched the child's head: "can you copy it? If you copy this line three times, read it three times and remember it, I'll give you the lobster." The child actually copied it three times and read it three times. The boy picked up the lobster and solemnly gave it to the child. "It's great that you've worked hard and learned new words. Now the lobster is yours." The child happily took the expensive lobster. He happily took it back to the table, with the note copied three times in his pocket, flying up and down. "I will never be a man who gets something for nothing." four "He is still young." "He's not sensible yet." "Are you an adult trying to argue with children?" "At first sight, you have no children. With children, you can understand..." Using these excuses to interfere with others in public actually ignores one point. Of course, children are small, not sensible, should not care about, and understandable. However, the parents responsible for educating their children are adults. They are mature. If they want to abide by the rules, they must bear social responsibilities and obligations. You just take the child's ignorance as a shield for incompetence. Some people may say that this is unreasonable. Shouldn't children be allowed to grow up at will? Why suppress their nature? But "education" is a matter of suppressing nature and restricting freedom. The biggest difference between humans and animals is that we can restrain the instinct of impulse. Because we have restrained all the rage and greed, our society will not be chaotic. Only then can we walk happily in the bustling street without worrying about being robbed; Sitting in a stable cafe and chatting easily, you don't have to worry about being killed by a stray bullet; Sleep safely in a warm big bed until dawn. Don't worry that your home will be razed to the ground the next day. We are polite, we respect each other, we follow the rules, which is worthy of living as human beings. Otherwise, what is the difference between man and animal? The rule of public space is the inevitable requirement of human social attribute. In this society, most people do not lack goodwill and tolerance, but fear and compliance with public rules. Only with rules can we live more equally and freely. five I have a friend. I've never seen her running with her child with her job every day, trying to make her child eat more. Their family eats three meals a day on time. Everyone is treated equally. They are out of date and there will be no leftovers in the kitchen. At first, the child didn't adapt and didn't like to eat. When she was hungry and crying, she would never feed until the next meal. Repeated several times, the child never lost his temper at dinner. When it's time, you should behave yourself and get a good job. You don't need anyone to take vegetables and pour water. You eat every grain of rice obediently, and you're particularly healthy. Once in the elevator, the child pressed B1. She asked, "are you going to B1?" The child shook his head and said it was just fun. She said you should go down by yourself, because none of us are going to B1. The child said she didn't dare to go down alone. She said well, I can go down with you this time, but this is the last time. If you press randomly next time, you must go to the layer you press, which is responsible for your actions. This kind of "fun" wastes elevator power and everyone's time. It's a shame. The child nodded and said yes, and never pressed the elevator casually again. Many parents have seen some relevant reports in China, thinking that the education system in foreign countries is more free and loose, and that it is the "children's paradise". In fact, this is a great misunderstanding. Foreign countries do pay more attention to the liberation of nature, but they believe that the "nature" is the child's imagination and creativity, which can be released indefinitely in the classroom. However, it is almost harsh supervision on morality, methods and systems. Many parents abroad are most afraid of "bringing trouble" to others by themselves and their children, which is a shame and burden for them. Do you believe it? When you treat non infant children equally, talk calmly and explain the truth like an adult, he can hear clearly and make subtle changes. As you grow older, you gradually understand more deeply. However, if you don't say it, he will never have a chance to understand. No one will even tell him for a lifetime. six There was once a young prisoner on death row who saw his mother cry bitterly before he died. He shouted hoarsely, "Mom! I really hated him to kill him! He's so bad! Why should I die too? It's not fair!" Mother burst into tears: "if you kill someone, you have to pay for your life! Didn't you think about it before you killed him?" The son shook his head desperately: "I don't know. I went to get a knife as soon as my brain was hot... No one told me the consequences would be so serious!" The mother was embarrassed and painful: "son! Is it necessary for someone to teach such a simple truth? I thought you would know!" Your child, if you don't educate, all the gods and Buddhas have no obligation to be spiritual teachers. "Grow up to be sensible" is just a vague wish, but it is not a mathematical formula, which is 100% fulfilled. Of course, there are also some wrong behaviors of children caused by force majeure factors, which are worthy of understanding and tolerance. But what do smarter parents do? On a flight to Europe, the air was bumpy, and a little boy suddenly burst into tears. His father was always comforting him. After half an hour, the air was smooth and the little boy stopped crying. When they got off the plane, every passenger who came to the door looked at the father and son standing at the door early in surprise. The little boy stood upright, and his father handed him a handwritten note. "Today, because of my child's airsickness and fear, I made an indecent sound for a long time, which has caused you trouble. I deeply apologize to you!" When it was my turn, I took the note with both hands and looked down at the little boy. He tried to straighten himself up and smiled at me like a little gentleman. "Sister, I'm sorry." That's the most comfortable and lovely smile I've ever seen. It's like the first bright sunshine when you get out of the cabin, and it's like a cool and slightly sweet mint. It's unforgettable. Think of two old words. I always remember what the old man often told me when I was a child. "If you are used to eating and drinking, you must not be used to problems." "Three years old see big, seven years old see old." Both children and adults want to be themselves. However, the real "being yourself" is not used to being unscrupulous and selfish, but talking about "personality" and "self" on the basis of abiding by the rules, being polite and never interfering with others. There has never been absolute freedom in this world. All freedoms are based on constraints. This truth, children can not understand, but you are no longer a child.

one A high-speed train ride. Halfway through the long journey, when I was sleepy, suddenly the "most dazzling national style" sounded in the quiet carriage. With the sound of music, almost everyone was shocked, and the sleepers were awakened one after another. Looking up, a mother sitting in the front row was holding a mobile phone with a happy smile on her face. Her five or six-year-old son was swinging his waist and hip in the carriage, dancing happily with the music. The mother was unaware of the strange eyes around her. She stared at her son and cheered: "the baby is great! It's good to dance! One more!" Some passengers coughed heavily because they couldn't stand it. The mother was immediately unhappy. She stood up and raised her eyebrows: "cough what? Cough what? You haven't brought a child at first sight! Understand what's the matter? The child is still young! What if you can't move in such a small place on the car and suffocate? Don't let me dance?" The passengers on the bus were silent. Mother sat down carelessly and continued to play songs. The child jumped to the front of the car, ran all the way to the back of the car, and then ran back, trampling. I looked at an elderly man sitting next to me, closed his eyes and stroked his heart. His face was a little white. Finally, some passengers couldn't stand it and called the steward to turn off the music. The mother was angry and said loudly, "I really have no love!" Just sat down. Sitting in a corner of the car, I suddenly remembered a father and daughter I met on the subway. The subway in Beijing was crowded, and so was that day. After taking the bus to the international trade center, the father and daughter got on the bus. As soon as the little girl got on the bus, she shouted to her father, "Dad! I want to sit! I'm tired!" Naturally, there will be no vacant seats in the full carriage. At that moment, a young student stood up to give up his seat, but the father waved his hand to stop it. He first showed a grateful smile to the students, then bowed his head, gently but seriously said to his daughter, "this is a public place, not our family, let alone you. We came late, we should keep order, and it's normal to have no seats. Right?" The little girl thought for a moment and nodded. She was still wronged: "but I'm tired." The father thought for a while, put down the things in his hand and picked up his daughter. "Although dad is very tired at work today, dad is willing to hold you. This position is not everyone's, but yours." The little girl laughed. two One day I had dinner with friends in a western restaurant. The atmosphere here was very good. The guests whispered. The aroma of food and the warm sunshine made people feel happy. A girl's shrill cry broke all this. We turned to see that it was a little girl of three or four years old, wearing a Pink Barbie dress and a lovely hairpin. At the moment, she was sitting in her seat wriggling out of control and crying. I don't know why. When the cry lasted for one minute, the guests around had frowned one after another. I looked up again. The girl's mother was whispering to appease her. It seemed to have no effect. The girl picked up a fork and threw it out and cried harder. My friend sighed and I smiled helplessly, thinking that today's good lunch was a failure. The next second, the mother stopped appeasing. She stood up, led her screaming daughter, quickly walked out of the main hall and turned into the bathroom. Everything calmed down and we breathed a sigh of relief. Our location is not far from the bathroom. The sound insulation condition is general. We can vaguely hear the sound behind the door over there. "... mom is very disappointed. You should learn to control your emotions and don't affect everyone. It's very impolite." The girl seems more and more hysterical. "Well, if this continues, mom can only accompany you here. Although it's very cold, uncomfortable and no chair, mom is willing to wait for you to calm down and stop crying when we can go back to the restaurant and eat your favorite fried chicken." The girl paused and began to choke loudly again. The mother stopped talking, leaving only the girl's intermittent crying. I got up and went to the bathroom. When I pushed the door in, I saw the mother and daughter standing in front of the mirror. The girl's eyes were red with tears. The mother's expression was calm, holding a wet toilet paper to wipe away tears for her daughter. I was a little impatient and began to advise, "don't be so strict. After all, I'm still a child." The mother shook her head: "although she is a child, not everyone is her parents. Others have no obligation to make sacrifices to connive at her and understand her." Most people still believe I will "What about growing up? Do you also place every wayward temper tantrum on the basis of 'I'm still a child'?" The mother smiled calmly, "thank you, but I'm really afraid that my daughter will be rushed to the bathroom by more and more people who hate her in the future. Instead of having such a future, I'd better take her in today." I have nothing to say. We ate that meal for nearly an hour and a half. When we were about to check out, the mother took her daughter out of the bathroom. The tears on her daughter's face have been washed clean and no longer crying. The mother and daughter sat back, asked the waiter to heat the dishes, carefully cut the chicken and put it on her daughter's plate. The daughter ate quietly, and occasionally asked the mother to help her with ketchup. It's cute. three A story in a seafood restaurant is more interesting. A child staggered to a couple's table and reached for the lobster on the plate. The girl was startled, and the boy pressed the child's hand in time. The child's family sat not far away. They saw all this, didn't stop it, and laughed. The girl was a little angry, but the boy smiled, picked up the lobster and asked the child, "do you want this?" The child nodded. "Do you want to be like him?" The boy pointed out the window. There was a young beggar sitting by the wall, ragged and dirty. The child was startled and shook his head. "Remember, as long as you reach out to others, no matter whether you want it or not, you will become him." The boy said. The child nodded vaguely. The boy said, "if you want to eat this lobster, you can. You need to exchange something for it." The child nodded again. The boy asked the waiter to borrow a pen and paper and wrote on it: "I will never be a person who gets something for nothing." He gently touched the child's head: "can you copy it? If you copy this line three times, read it three times and remember it, I'll give you the lobster." The child actually copied it three times and read it three times. The boy picked up the lobster and solemnly gave it to the child. "It's great that you've worked hard and learned new words. Now the lobster is yours." The child happily took the expensive lobster. He happily took it back to the table, with the note copied three times in his pocket, flying up and down. "I will never be a man who gets something for nothing." four "He is still young." "He's not sensible yet." "Are you an adult trying to argue with children?" "At first sight, you have no children. With children, you can understand..." Using these excuses to interfere with others in public actually ignores one point. Of course, children are small, not sensible, should not care about, and understandable. However, the parents responsible for educating their children are adults. They are mature. If they want to abide by the rules, they must bear social responsibilities and obligations. You just take the child's ignorance as a shield for incompetence. Some people may say that this is unreasonable. Shouldn't children be allowed to grow up at will? Why suppress their nature? But "education" is a matter of suppressing nature and restricting freedom. The biggest difference between humans and animals is that we can restrain the instinct of impulse. Because we have restrained all the rage and greed, our society will not be chaotic. Only then can we walk happily in the bustling street without worrying about being robbed; Sitting in a stable cafe and chatting easily, you don't have to worry about being killed by a stray bullet; Sleep safely in a warm big bed until dawn. Don't worry that your home will be razed to the ground the next day. We are polite, we respect each other, we follow the rules, which is worthy of living as human beings. Otherwise, what is the difference between man and animal? The rule of public space is the inevitable requirement of human social attribute. In this society, most people do not lack goodwill and tolerance, but fear and compliance with public rules. Only with rules can we live more equally and freely. five I have a friend. I've never seen her running with her child with her job every day, trying to make her child eat more. Their family eats three meals a day on time. Everyone is treated equally. They are out of date and there will be no leftovers in the kitchen. At first, the child didn't adapt and didn't like to eat. When she was hungry and crying, she would never feed until the next meal. Repeated several times, the child never lost his temper at dinner. When it's time, you should behave yourself and get a good job. You don't need anyone to take vegetables and pour water. You eat every grain of rice obediently, and you're particularly healthy. Once in the elevator, the child pressed B1. She asked, "are you going to B1?" The child shook his head and said it was just fun. She said you should go down by yourself, because none of us are going to B1. The child said she didn't dare to go down alone. She said well, I can go down with you this time, but this is the last time. If you press randomly next time, you must go to the layer you press, which is responsible for your actions. This kind of "fun" wastes elevator power and everyone's time. It's a shame. The child nodded and said yes, and never pressed the elevator casually again. Many parents have seen some relevant reports in China, thinking that the education system in foreign countries is more free and loose, and that it is the "children's paradise". In fact, this is a great misunderstanding. Foreign countries do pay more attention to the liberation of nature, but they believe that the "nature" is the child's imagination and creativity, which can be released indefinitely in the classroom. However, it is almost harsh supervision on morality, methods and systems. Many parents abroad are most afraid of "bringing trouble" to others by themselves and their children, which is a shame and burden for them. Do you believe it? When you treat non infant children equally, talk calmly and explain the truth like an adult, he can hear clearly and make subtle changes. As you grow older, you gradually understand more deeply. However, if you don't say it, he will never have a chance to understand. No one will even tell him for a lifetime. six There was once a young prisoner on death row who saw his mother cry bitterly before he died. He shouted hoarsely, "Mom! I really hated him to kill him! He's so bad! Why should I die too? It's not fair!" Mother burst into tears: "if you kill someone, you have to pay for your life! Didn't you think about it before you killed him?" The son shook his head desperately: "I don't know. I went to get a knife as soon as my brain was hot... No one told me the consequences would be so serious!" The mother was embarrassed and painful: "son! Is it necessary for someone to teach such a simple truth? I thought you would know!" Your child, if you don't educate, all the gods and Buddhas have no obligation to be spiritual teachers. "Grow up to be sensible" is just a vague wish, but it is not a mathematical formula, which is 100% fulfilled. Of course, there are also some wrong behaviors of children caused by force majeure factors, which are worthy of understanding and tolerance. But what do smarter parents do? On a flight to Europe, the air was bumpy, and a little boy suddenly burst into tears. His father was always comforting him. After half an hour, the air was smooth and the little boy stopped crying. When they got off the plane, every passenger who came to the door looked at the father and son standing at the door early in surprise. The little boy stood upright, and his father handed him a handwritten note. "Today, because of my child's airsickness and fear, I made an indecent sound for a long time, which has caused you trouble. I deeply apologize to you!" When it was my turn, I took the note with both hands and looked down at the little boy. He tried to straighten himself up and smiled at me like a little gentleman. "Sister, I'm sorry." That's the most comfortable and lovely smile I've ever seen. It's like the first bright sunshine when you get out of the cabin, and it's like a cool and slightly sweet mint. It's unforgettable. Think of two old words. I always remember what the old man often told me when I was a child. "If you are used to eating and drinking, you must not be used to problems." "Three years old see big, seven years old see old." Both children and adults want to be themselves. However, the real "being yourself" is not used to being unscrupulous and selfish, but talking about "personality" and "self" on the basis of abiding by the rules, being polite and never interfering with others. There has never been absolute freedom in this world. All freedoms are based on constraints. This truth, children can not understand, but you are no longer a child.