After spending many years in Europe, I found that the European aesthetic outlook was just the opposite of ours. Like they think the old house is elegant, we think the new building is decent. In this regard, in recent years, we are partially accepting their concept. We can refer to the price system. The menus of bars and restaurants in old houses are generally more expensive. But if we have a choice, we won't want to live in an old house all the year round. The same is true of human aesthetics. They believe that the aging of people's appearance can be beautiful, and the aging of people's heart is shameful. For example, my boyfriend in Denmark is 60 years old and still strolls around the city on his bike. He writes sci-fi novels that are not up to the publishing standard. In fact, he is a cake shop owner. My girlfriend in Sweden is almost 70 years old and plans to start learning Chinese. I encourage her to say that Chinese is so difficult to learn, but as long as you work hard, you can read a dream of Red Mansions at the age of 90. My landlord in Italy is bloated and has a bright smile. Her children can make soy sauce. She plans to take a film and apply for auditions everywhere. Two others are not European. The California uncle I know is 66 years old. He survived cancer and plans to study for a master's degree in personal anthropology in college. In fact, he was a lifelong professor of literature many years ago. Another New York uncle is 74 years old. A few years ago, he quit his tenure as a tenured professor and set up a private consulting company. According to the Chinese logic, why can't you keep this good job and secretly do some small business in your spare time? you 're right. The Chinese standard is just the opposite. Aging in human appearance has become a sin, which can be covered up if it can be covered up - to tell the truth, there is no human who looks less old on earth than Asians. But the heart must be a thorough old man, which is in line with Chinese aesthetics. If a child is praised, it must be because he has a 40 year old man's expression and speaks older than his father. If anyone is called a successful person, men must be tepid and moderate, and women must be arrogant and have a good momentum of being a teacher. If a person dares to show his innocence, is curious about the people and things around him, is willing to try new things, is not ashamed to ask questions often, and is still learning new knowledge after the age of 25, the possibility of being despised by everyone around him, such as colleagues, leaders and restaurant waiters, is 99%. Does he still want a promotion? Sorry, no matter how qualified, others can't think of him. One of my teachers and friends once told me about her mother-in-law. She began to learn French at the age of 60 or 70. Soon she was able to read the original French book. This is the happiness of intellectuals. She loves reading as much as we do. But now the concept of intellectuals is also different. They must be "public", go out of the hall, educate people, quarrel, be spicy when it's spicy, and be fifty cents when it's fifty cents. I'm always surprised that they are so busy. Do they still have time to read? There is only one kind of life that doesn't give up, that is to continue to grow. There are 101 Ways to give up yourself. Such as health preservation, there is definitely a national elderly culture with Chinese characteristics. Such as beauty and weight loss tricks, which is basically the indoor version of square dance. Such as persistently sending children to all kinds of classes and giving up their own life will disappear. Many nights, I thought about why you so exclude a young man in your heart. I thought it was a kind of inexplicable contempt. It was considered worthless because you can't pretend. Later, I realized that this is actually a kind of fear. It is the fear of all people who are not old and aging for a heterogeneous person full of unlimited development possibilities. Then it's easy to do. For people whose hearts are still young, they can choose a way to make others feel no longer threatening. Such as being a foodie, this is my way to give up myself. People who place their dreams on food are safe. One day when I went to a lecture, I turned "Zen" into "greedy". Since the story spread, my habit of listening to lectures has no longer been despised. Really.

After spending many years in Europe, I found that the European aesthetic outlook was just the opposite of ours. Like they think the old house is elegant, we think the new building is decent. In this regard, in recent years, we are partially accepting their concept. We can refer to the price system. The menus of bars and restaurants in old houses are generally more expensive. But if we have a choice, we won't want to live in an old house all the year round. The same is true of human aesthetics. They believe that the aging of people's appearance can be beautiful, and the aging of people's heart is shameful. For example, my boyfriend in Denmark is 60 years old and still strolls around the city on his bike. He writes sci-fi novels that are not up to the publishing standard. In fact, he is a cake shop owner. My girlfriend in Sweden is almost 70 years old and plans to start learning Chinese. I encourage her to say that Chinese is so difficult to learn, but as long as you work hard, you can read a dream of Red Mansions at the age of 90. My landlord in Italy is bloated and has a bright smile. Her children can make soy sauce. She plans to take a film and apply for auditions everywhere. Two others are not European. The California uncle I know is 66 years old. He survived cancer and plans to study for a master's degree in personal anthropology in college. In fact, he was a lifelong professor of literature many years ago. Another New York uncle is 74 years old. A few years ago, he quit his tenure as a tenured professor and set up a private consulting company. According to the Chinese logic, why can't you keep this good job and secretly do some small business in your spare time? you 're right. The Chinese standard is just the opposite. Aging in human appearance has become a sin, which can be covered up if it can be covered up - to tell the truth, there is no human who looks less old on earth than Asians. But the heart must be a thorough old man, which is in line with Chinese aesthetics. If a child is praised, it must be because he has a 40 year old man's expression and speaks older than his father. If anyone is called a successful person, men must be tepid and moderate, and women must be arrogant and have a good momentum of being a teacher. If a person dares to show his innocence, is curious about the people and things around him, is willing to try new things, is not ashamed to ask questions often, and is still learning new knowledge after the age of 25, the possibility of being despised by everyone around him, such as colleagues, leaders and restaurant waiters, is 99%. Does he still want a promotion? Sorry, no matter how qualified, others can't think of him. One of my teachers and friends once told me about her mother-in-law. She began to learn French at the age of 60 or 70. Soon she was able to read the original French book. This is the happiness of intellectuals. She loves reading as much as we do. But now the concept of intellectuals is also different. They must be "public", go out of the hall, educate people, quarrel, be spicy when it's spicy, and be fifty cents when it's fifty cents. I'm always surprised that they are so busy. Do they still have time to read? There is only one kind of life that doesn't give up, that is to continue to grow. There are 101 Ways to give up yourself. Such as health preservation, there is definitely a national elderly culture with Chinese characteristics. Such as beauty and weight loss tricks, which is basically the indoor version of square dance. Such as persistently sending children to all kinds of classes and giving up their own life will disappear. Many nights, I thought about why you so exclude a young man in your heart. I thought it was a kind of inexplicable contempt. It was considered worthless because you can't pretend. Later, I realized that this is actually a kind of fear. It is the fear of all people who are not old and aging for a heterogeneous person full of unlimited development possibilities. Then it's easy to do. For people whose hearts are still young, they can choose a way to make others feel no longer threatening. Such as being a foodie, this is my way to give up myself. People who place their dreams on food are safe. One day when I went to a lecture, I turned "Zen" into "greedy". Since the story spread, my habit of listening to lectures has no longer been despised. Really.