I always want to start an article with two sentences of nonsense. Because I really don't know how to start this topic. In fact, this problem is very vague. I didn't want to boil it into chicken soup or make it too evil, so I had to pull it. Some time ago, former colleague Xiao a resigned and complained to me about many problems. I still know Xiao a very well. He is a big boy, optimistic, cheerful and responsible. Because he is a talker, his business ability is not poor. In the former company, it is also regarded as an "old man". On weekdays, it has a good relationship with everyone and is everyone's happy fruit. You can talk to anyone. At first glance, you are good friends with everyone. Leaders love to take him to dinner, which can make customers happy. However, Xiao a said that he has not been reused in the company (or paid attention to it, which was the case when I was still in the company). It seems that everyone needs him at ordinary times. He has no voice at critical moments, and the leaders do not give opportunities. He always works a lot and takes insufficient credit. Recently, the company transferred personnel. I thought that as a veteran, I could take over the post smoothly. Unexpectedly, I couldn't find my name in the promotion list. In a rage, Xiao a resigned. In fact, he talked a lot, and I can understand the reason, but I really can't open my mouth to explain the reason. First, he was afraid of violating his three views, and second, he was afraid that his "advantages" would be changed from then on. What are the advantages of small a? Yes, it is Kindness Since I have worked with Xiao a, I can clearly know his usual performance, so as to leave an impression, including understanding the conflict between the leadership's power skills and Xiao a. Of course, there are more than those around me. I have seen countless examples. Friends, colleagues, relatives, many people I know are plagued by such troubles, and the reason is often the character of good people, who are too kind and cheerful. You might say that these characters are very good. I don't deny that in fact, including my own personality, all belong to this category, but I never show these good characters too much at work, because work is a vanity fair with complex relationships. The company is not the place where you are too smart and joking Some people are naturally humorous and have their own focus. It is always impressive in the process of communicating with people. Don't overdo it, Ben. A former colleague is such a person. When you go to another company to talk about business, you can not only chat with the other manager all afternoon, but also give the contact information of your sister at the front desk to shun when you leave. In a meeting on weekdays, a gag in a serious manner can also ease the tense atmosphere. The leaders also laugh, neither talking about business nor annoying. He is smart and has a lot of small ideas. Often give advice to colleagues, think of small tricks, is the bosom aunt of colleagues. Such a person naturally needs the attention of others. There is appreciation and goodwill in his eyes. He is also unconsciously immersed in it and complacent. Smart subordinates and humorous colleagues are absolutely the best compromise in boring work. But if you can't grasp the degree, you will always be a good soldier and never a general. In the workplace, you will never think of what others are thinking, and you must always remember that everything has two sides. In everyone's eyes, you are humorous and funny. Laughing every day proves that you are optimistic and sunny, but it seems that you don't care about anything. Because there is no difficult job, no time to suffer. You know, crying children have milk to eat. In everyone's eyes, you are smart and have many small ideas. You always like to express opinions and are liked by everyone. But do you know why leaders always ask you what you think first? Because you like to express your opinions. Your cleverness is the trigger for everyone's brainstorming. You're not the main meal, just the appetizer. In everyone's eyes, you love joking. You can make your work happy, although everyone knows that you can do your work well by joking. But everyone thinks you may be a young child. After you are assigned the task, you have to ask your boss to look after it more, because you don't feel at ease! Who knows, you've done your job every time you joke, but next time, what if you joke too much? In the workplace, proper smart and funny jokes can make you shine, but don't forget the great energy brought by silence and listening. Always be a good man, you are everyone's good friend, and you are destined to be only a good friend. At work, many people are kind to others, never conflict with others, and always talk and laugh between them; Many people, warm-hearted, either comfort female colleagues or encourage male colleagues; Many people are considerate and always act as peacekeepers, and their colleagues' conflicts are always settled by his "face"; Many people, in the eyes of others, have no enemies, no competitors, only friends. You are good friends with anyone. Yes, it's you, good man. It is true that a team always needs different characters to share different team roles. Like monk Sha, it is very important, but not necessary. But you don't want to be a good man, but you are always "good man". That's your problem. You can be gentle, but you don't have to be sociable; You can care about your colleagues, but you don't have to be a pawn in everything; You can make ends meet in a conflict, but you don't have to be good friends with everyone. Have you found that anyone can make fun of you because they are with you! Have you found that everyone asks you for help, even if it's a small matter of handing tea and carrying things, because you talk! Have you found that anyone can ignore your opinions and ideas, even colleagues with lower rank than you, because you won't be angry! Not only that! Because there's something you don't know. Leaders will not plan every important decision with you, and even the working partners at the same level who need to negotiate will not communicate with you in advance. Because they know that you are everyone's good friend! Good friends can share everything, can't they? However, in work, secrets cannot be shared, and the strategic deployment and mechanism decision-making of each team are secrets (for example, some incentive systems for sales and the strategic deployment of the company can be completed with all efforts without the knowledge of the members.) Therefore, you are often the last to know, even if you are in an important position. Not to mention, you often feel inadvertent neglect. Leaders are all good at power tactics. Since ancient times, emperors were most afraid of forming parties for personal gain and gangs. Leaders are not afraid of not having the core of team unity. They are most afraid of leaders who can unite the team against him. Don't say that leaders don't give you power. They deeply know that they know people, faces and hearts in the workplace. Don't say you won't. what if you have the power in the future? They are all mixed up in the vanity fair. Everything comes from the word "greed". So, don't say that leaders don't delegate power to you, just because you have the potential to become his opponent. You are a good man. Everyone knows that you can't count on your authority. If you are a leader and a friend, how can you handle it? Will colleagues think that I sold you face in those days, and now you tear your face with me? What's your meaning? You can be monk Sha, but you won't be the monkey king, let alone the Tang monk. Sometimes even little white dragon is not, because when the Tang monk is bored, he can talk to little white dragon unilaterally. Can the leader talk to you? It's a good thing to get along well with the team. It's also a good impression that you are a good person in everyone's mind. But note that a good man is a sharp weapon for you to disguise and an advantage for you to do things, but if you do badly, you are the object of everyone's face and nose. Of course, you may also become the thorn in the eyes of leaders. People are good at being bullied, and horses are good at being ridden. At the beginning of that year, a little girl who had just graduated from the company was very shy. At first, I was assigned to my group and worked as my assistant for some time. Through contact, I know that she is a kind girl who speaks softly. Maybe because she has just come to the company, there is always a trace of timidity in her actions and eyes. The girl is studious. Several familiar colleagues are happy to help her, and the problems encountered in her work also help her think and solve them. The little girl is like a happy magpie every day, full of vitality. Not long after she was officially employed, the little girl was transferred to another department. Maybe it's bad luck, maybe it's really something that offends people. When passing through their department territory, she is often yelled at standing there. Anyone can yell a few words. Without saying anything about serving tea and water, she needs to massage and beat her back. One day, my colleague and I were smoking on the terrace. We caught her hiding in tears. My colleague pulled her over and asked the whole story. It turned out that after the little girl was transferred to that department, she started at the lowest level. Because she was good at talking, she was always asked to do things. At first, the leaders would still love her, but later, their team failed a single task, and the colleagues inexplicably pointed the signs at her. The little girl is also a monk who is two-year-old. She couldn't touch her head. She kept reflecting and admitted all her mistakes. She wanted to say that young people should have the opportunity to make mistakes, and there would be no big deal. Helping colleagues make a pot is even a favor. But she didn't expect that since then, more and more pots came to her face, and the leaders began to be a little tired of her. When she wanted to explain, others stared and pointed, she couldn't speak clearly, and the leaders could only sigh and shake their heads. Later, when I was drinking with their leader (although the rank was older than me, but they were cross department and old employees, they were still very familiar with each other), I told him about it. Her leader blinked. Then why didn't she argue? Why don't you talk to me? Why? It's kind and shy. It's too unprincipled. I think it's peaceful to bear it. There are many reasons. You can't blame your colleagues for being too cruel, can you? Later, I was transferred to work in this city and didn't go back to the headquarters. During this time, I went back to the headquarters for a few days because of something. Suddenly, I found that the little girl, dressed in formal clothes, fought with a colleague for work and slapped the table. Now she is a small supervisor, without the childishness of that year. I chatted with her old leader and learned that she is now very important in the company. The girl is kind-hearted and serious. She is very recognized by Party A and dares to express her opinions. She also dares to form her own strong style because she is just positive with Party A because of Party A's mistakes. Several times before, she poured all the sewage from her colleagues back, even if the cold water poured later was boiled and poured back by her. The original colleagues did not dare to bully her. They were afraid to make things big. Many things were treated coldly, and even deliberately made problems for her to solve. Unexpectedly, she solved all the problems one by one, which left a good impression on the top of the company. Compared with the rapid promotion after that, it was more due to her seriousness and talent. However, after the company meeting that day, she gave me a bag of hot snacks like the little girl in those days. She thanked me for her help when she entered the company. I said, little sister, I've grown up a lot. She said, I just dare to speak and set out my principles clearly. Even if I am short, no one can bully me! Ha ha, who said no. The workplace is a place of fame and fortune. If you succeed, your bones will wither. Although we should not be ruthless black people, we are not the stepping stone to be bullied at will. You can be kind and gentle, but no matter how low the bottom line is, you can't be without principles. In the workplace, no matter how you work, behave or do things, principle is not only your sharp weapon, but also your strong shield. This is the workplace. Not many people want to ride you, but many people will deceive you. It's always good to be kind to others, but please be smart. Kindness is a character, but it's not a good weapon. When you meet on a narrow road, if you don't have a weapon, people will always look down on you.

I always want to start an article with two sentences of nonsense. Because I really don't know how to start this topic. In fact, this problem is very vague. I didn't want to boil it into chicken soup or make it too evil, so I had to pull it. Some time ago, former colleague Xiao a resigned and complained to me about many problems. I still know Xiao a very well. He is a big boy, optimistic, cheerful and responsible. Because he is a talker, his business ability is not poor. In the former company, it is also regarded as an "old man". On weekdays, it has a good relationship with everyone and is everyone's happy fruit. You can talk to anyone. At first glance, you are good friends with everyone. Leaders love to take him to dinner, which can make customers happy. However, Xiao a said that he has not been reused in the company (or paid attention to it, which was the case when I was still in the company). It seems that everyone needs him at ordinary times. He has no voice at critical moments, and the leaders do not give opportunities. He always works a lot and takes insufficient credit. Recently, the company transferred personnel. I thought that as a veteran, I could take over the post smoothly. Unexpectedly, I couldn't find my name in the promotion list. In a rage, Xiao a resigned. In fact, he talked a lot, and I can understand the reason, but I really can't open my mouth to explain the reason. First, he was afraid of violating his three views, and second, he was afraid that his "advantages" would be changed from then on. What are the advantages of small a? Yes, it is Kindness Since I have worked with Xiao a, I can clearly know his usual performance, so as to leave an impression, including understanding the conflict between the leadership's power skills and Xiao a. Of course, there are more than those around me. I have seen countless examples. Friends, colleagues, relatives, many people I know are plagued by such troubles, and the reason is often the character of good people, who are too kind and cheerful. You might say that these characters are very good. I don't deny that in fact, including my own personality, all belong to this category, but I never show these good characters too much at work, because work is a vanity fair with complex relationships. The company is not the place where you are too smart and joking Some people are naturally humorous and have their own focus. It is always impressive in the process of communicating with people. Don't overdo it, Ben. A former colleague is such a person. When you go to another company to talk about business, you can not only chat with the other manager all afternoon, but also give the contact information of your sister at the front desk to shun when you leave. In a meeting on weekdays, a gag in a serious manner can also ease the tense atmosphere. The leaders also laugh, neither talking about business nor annoying. He is smart and has a lot of small ideas. Often give advice to colleagues, think of small tricks, is the bosom aunt of colleagues. Such a person naturally needs the attention of others. There is appreciation and goodwill in his eyes. He is also unconsciously immersed in it and complacent. Smart subordinates and humorous colleagues are absolutely the best compromise in boring work. But if you can't grasp the degree, you will always be a good soldier and never a general. In the workplace, you will never think of what others are thinking, and you must always remember that everything has two sides. In everyone's eyes, you are humorous and funny. Laughing every day proves that you are optimistic and sunny, but it seems that you don't care about anything. Because there is no difficult job, no time to suffer. You know, crying children have milk to eat. In everyone's eyes, you are smart and have many small ideas. You always like to express opinions and are liked by everyone. But do you know why leaders always ask you what you think first? Because you like to express your opinions. Your cleverness is the trigger for everyone's brainstorming. You're not the main meal, just the appetizer. In everyone's eyes, you love joking. You can make your work happy, although everyone knows that you can do your work well by joking. But everyone thinks you may be a young child. After you are assigned the task, you have to ask your boss to look after it more, because you don't feel at ease! Who knows, you've done your job every time you joke, but next time, what if you joke too much? In the workplace, proper smart and funny jokes can make you shine, but don't forget the great energy brought by silence and listening. Always be a good man, you are everyone's good friend, and you are destined to be only a good friend. At work, many people are kind to others, never conflict with others, and always talk and laugh between them; Many people, warm-hearted, either comfort female colleagues or encourage male colleagues; Many people are considerate and always act as peacekeepers, and their colleagues' conflicts are always settled by his "face"; Many people, in the eyes of others, have no enemies, no competitors, only friends. You are good friends with anyone. Yes, it's you, good man. It is true that a team always needs different characters to share different team roles. Like monk Sha, it is very important, but not necessary. But you don't want to be a good man, but you are always "good man". That's your problem. You can be gentle, but you don't have to be sociable; You can care about your colleagues, but you don't have to be a pawn in everything; You can make ends meet in a conflict, but you don't have to be good friends with everyone. Have you found that anyone can make fun of you because they are with you! Have you found that everyone asks you for help, even if it's a small matter of handing tea and carrying things, because you talk! Have you found that anyone can ignore your opinions and ideas, even colleagues with lower rank than you, because you won't be angry! Not only that! Because there's something you don't know. Leaders will not plan every important decision with you, and even the working partners at the same level who need to negotiate will not communicate with you in advance. Because they know that you are everyone's good friend! Good friends can share everything, can't they? However, in work, secrets cannot be shared, and the strategic deployment and mechanism decision-making of each team are secrets (for example, some incentive systems for sales and the strategic deployment of the company can be completed with all efforts without the knowledge of the members.) Therefore, you are often the last to know, even if you are in an important position. Not to mention, you often feel inadvertent neglect. Leaders are all good at power tactics. Since ancient times, emperors were most afraid of forming parties for personal gain and gangs. Leaders are not afraid of not having the core of team unity. They are most afraid of leaders who can unite the team against him. Don't say that leaders don't give you power. They deeply know that they know people, faces and hearts in the workplace. Don't say you won't. what if you have the power in the future? They are all mixed up in the vanity fair. Everything comes from the word "greed". So, don't say that leaders don't delegate power to you, just because you have the potential to become his opponent. You are a good man. Everyone knows that you can't count on your authority. If you are a leader and a friend, how can you handle it? Will colleagues think that I sold you face in those days, and now you tear your face with me? What's your meaning? You can be monk Sha, but you won't be the monkey king, let alone the Tang monk. Sometimes even little white dragon is not, because when the Tang monk is bored, he can talk to little white dragon unilaterally. Can the leader talk to you? It's a good thing to get along well with the team. It's also a good impression that you are a good person in everyone's mind. But note that a good man is a sharp weapon for you to disguise and an advantage for you to do things, but if you do badly, you are the object of everyone's face and nose. Of course, you may also become the thorn in the eyes of leaders. People are good at being bullied, and horses are good at being ridden. At the beginning of that year, a little girl who had just graduated from the company was very shy. At first, I was assigned to my group and worked as my assistant for some time. Through contact, I know that she is a kind girl who speaks softly. Maybe because she has just come to the company, there is always a trace of timidity in her actions and eyes. The girl is studious. Several familiar colleagues are happy to help her, and the problems encountered in her work also help her think and solve them. The little girl is like a happy magpie every day, full of vitality. Not long after she was officially employed, the little girl was transferred to another department. Maybe it's bad luck, maybe it's really something that offends people. When passing through their department territory, she is often yelled at standing there. Anyone can yell a few words. Without saying anything about serving tea and water, she needs to massage and beat her back. One day, my colleague and I were smoking on the terrace. We caught her hiding in tears. My colleague pulled her over and asked the whole story. It turned out that after the little girl was transferred to that department, she started at the lowest level. Because she was good at talking, she was always asked to do things. At first, the leaders would still love her, but later, their team failed a single task, and the colleagues inexplicably pointed the signs at her. The little girl is also a monk who is two-year-old. She couldn't touch her head. She kept reflecting and admitted all her mistakes. She wanted to say that young people should have the opportunity to make mistakes, and there would be no big deal. Helping colleagues make a pot is even a favor. But she didn't expect that since then, more and more pots came to her face, and the leaders began to be a little tired of her. When she wanted to explain, others stared and pointed, she couldn't speak clearly, and the leaders could only sigh and shake their heads. Later, when I was drinking with their leader (although the rank was older than me, but they were cross department and old employees, they were still very familiar with each other), I told him about it. Her leader blinked. Then why didn't she argue? Why don't you talk to me? Why? It's kind and shy. It's too unprincipled. I think it's peaceful to bear it. There are many reasons. You can't blame your colleagues for being too cruel, can you? Later, I was transferred to work in this city and didn't go back to the headquarters. During this time, I went back to the headquarters for a few days because of something. Suddenly, I found that the little girl, dressed in formal clothes, fought with a colleague for work and slapped the table. Now she is a small supervisor, without the childishness of that year. I chatted with her old leader and learned that she is now very important in the company. The girl is kind-hearted and serious. She is very recognized by Party A and dares to express her opinions. She also dares to form her own strong style because she is just positive with Party A because of Party A's mistakes. Several times before, she poured all the sewage from her colleagues back, even if the cold water poured later was boiled and poured back by her. The original colleagues did not dare to bully her. They were afraid to make things big. Many things were treated coldly, and even deliberately made problems for her to solve. Unexpectedly, she solved all the problems one by one, which left a good impression on the top of the company. Compared with the rapid promotion after that, it was more due to her seriousness and talent. However, after the company meeting that day, she gave me a bag of hot snacks like the little girl in those days. She thanked me for her help when she entered the company. I said, little sister, I've grown up a lot. She said, I just dare to speak and set out my principles clearly. Even if I am short, no one can bully me! Ha ha, who said no. The workplace is a place of fame and fortune. If you succeed, your bones will wither. Although we should not be ruthless black people, we are not the stepping stone to be bullied at will. You can be kind and gentle, but no matter how low the bottom line is, you can't be without principles. In the workplace, no matter how you work, behave or do things, principle is not only your sharp weapon, but also your strong shield. This is the workplace. Not many people want to ride you, but many people will deceive you. It's always good to be kind to others, but please be smart. Kindness is a character, but it's not a good weapon. When you meet on a narrow road, if you don't have a weapon, people will always look down on you.