Once, in the subway, he was holding a copy of Mo Yan's "breast fat buttocks". A passer-by looked at the title of the book and shook his head contemptuously. Passers by may be thinking: this guy dares to read pornographic books in public. Another time, Li Shanglong held a Book of hope forever in the teacher's lounge. A teacher came in, saw him, looked at the title of the book again, and said in a very mocking tone, "you see chicken soup, too." What the teacher doesn't know is that "hope is always there" is a book about Cambodian history, but its name is like chicken soup. The stories in the book are bloody and make people think about the changes of the world and the past of Cambodia. In life, too many people like to judge others from their own perspective and position. Without knowing the facts, judge others by yourself and make comments. But why? I have read such a sentence: A person's biggest malice is to impose his own understanding on others, take all the results for granted and explain them with his own process, and always think he is right. Just like before, two girls in Shanghai squatted on the ground waiting for the subway and were photographed and exposed to the microblog to evaluate their "indecent" and "uneducated". But how do you know that people are not very tired after walking for a long time, or they are not feeling well? There is also Gao Yuanyuan in the film search, who was collectively accused of moral decay because he refused to give up his seat to the old man. But they didn't know that before getting on the bus, she just learned that she was suffering from cancer. She was disheartened and immersed in amazement and fear. In real life, are there few such things? "Zhuangzi" said: "son is not a fish, how do you know the joy of fish? If you don't know others, don't draw a conclusion easily. A deep-rooted upbringing is never to judge others at will. two One episode of the TV series Pinocchio impressed me deeply. In the gym, an aunt died of heart paralysis due to excessive exercise. She was a severely obese person who weighed more than 90 kilograms. Before her death, she had lost more than 70 kilograms. Everyone wondered why she was so desperate to lose weight, even risking her own life. Media reporters came to the gym to get materials, and the employees of the gym contributed their gossip: "Aunt's ex husband remarried two months ago, and it is said that the object is a particularly slim and beautiful woman." "She must have been so stimulated that she decided to lose weight." Therefore, before finding out the truth, the media broadcast a news with the theme of "don't lose weight because of beauty". However, they don't know how sad the reason behind aunt's efforts to lose weight is: Aunt and her ex husband have a daughter who is in high school and is raised by her ex husband. Two months ago, her daughter was found to have reached the end of liver cirrhosis. She can only survive after receiving a liver transplant. Aunt's blood type is the same as that of her daughter, but the doctor said that aunt has fatty liver and can only be transplanted after losing 30 kilograms. So, in order to lose weight quickly in the short term, aunt ran in the gym day and night just to save her favorite daughter. As the man said: No matter how important their words are, people who talk nonsense are really terrible. We always like preconceptions too much, and we like to guess and measure others with our own prejudices. But in fact, we don't know what kind of experience others have had and what kind of pain they have in their hearts. I once passed a tavern late at night and saw office workers crying at the door; I have also seen the girl running down the stairs barefoot with high heels while wiping tears in the subway station; And in the canteen, there are teenagers eating steamed bread with free soup. Not everyone is qualified to live lightly, and no one can empathize with the experience of others. The novel the Great Gatsby begins with this passage: When I was young and inexperienced, my father taught me a word that I still remember. "Whenever you want to criticize anyone," he told me, "remember that not everyone in the world has the advantages you have." Just like a saying spread on Weibo: We live in different worlds. You live in a luxurious ship with everything on board, a lifetime of wine, and many people who are as lucky as you. I grabbed a piece of driftwood and tried to float. The waves came one after another. I couldn't hide. I was in danger of drowning at any time, and I was afraid of whether there were sharks passing by. You also asked me: why not take the time to see the beautiful scenery on the sea? In this life, too many people are carrying weight. You'll never know what others have been through, so don't judge yourself. three In recent years, more and more people like to watch wonderful flowers. In fact, what everyone loves to see is not only the hearty debate and moving golden sentences, but also the acceptance and thinking of different views and the cognition of different levels of things. As Ma Dong said, the greatest significance of "wonderful flower theory" is to let the audience see: If you cut into anything from different angles, you will have different views and cognition, or even diametrically opposite conclusions. We think we have made a fair judgment, but in fact, we often have our own subjective color. Because of some clues, we will easily label others as "Phoenix man", "green tea bitch" and various regional black. But everyone has his own life orientation and value choice. Don't be the judge of others' life. Han Han said: If you don't understand, shut up, because you never know what others have experienced; If you know, you should shut up. Don't rush to stand in line until you know the truth. Your malicious speculation may cause indelible pain to the parties. Therefore, deep-rooted education is never to evaluate others at will. Even if you see through, you can not tell, understand the pain in each other's heart, and leave dignity for others, which is a realm of being a man. Li Shanglong said: we are human beings, but we are not the same kind of people. Everyone has his own way of life, and no one has the right to dictate. See the good people appreciate, see the poor people do not despise. The higher the level, the more people like to focus on themselves rather than evaluate others. Just like many people love Faye Wong, not only for her songs and her movies, but also because she lives a frank self. Don't please the world or comment on right and wrong. Just be yourself and love who you love. Mr. Yang Jiang said: the world is our own and has nothing to do with others. When you know that you are not given the right to judge and evaluate others, you will find that you have more energy and time to focus on your own things. The most graceful scenery in life is inner calmness and calmness. Focus on yourself and you will have a broader sky. 04 Finally, I want to share a little story with you. An artist did an experiment: Asking someone to point out the shortcomings of one of his paintings was belittled to nothing; The next day, he asked someone to point out the advantages of the same painting, which was praised as perfect. He concluded that you will always be appreciated and criticized. Just draw your own painting at ease. It is a kind of self-cultivation not to evaluate others casually. Not living in the evaluation of others is a kind of practice. Encourage each other.

Once, in the subway, he was holding a copy of Mo Yan's "breast fat buttocks". A passer-by looked at the title of the book and shook his head contemptuously. Passers by may be thinking: this guy dares to read pornographic books in public. Another time, Li Shanglong held a Book of hope forever in the teacher's lounge. A teacher came in, saw him, looked at the title of the book again, and said in a very mocking tone, "you see chicken soup, too." What the teacher doesn't know is that "hope is always there" is a book about Cambodian history, but its name is like chicken soup. The stories in the book are bloody and make people think about the changes of the world and the past of Cambodia. In life, too many people like to judge others from their own perspective and position. Without knowing the facts, judge others by yourself and make comments. But why? I have read such a sentence: A person's biggest malice is to impose his own understanding on others, take all the results for granted and explain them with his own process, and always think he is right. Just like before, two girls in Shanghai squatted on the ground waiting for the subway and were photographed and exposed to the microblog to evaluate their "indecent" and "uneducated". But how do you know that people are not very tired after walking for a long time, or they are not feeling well? There is also Gao Yuanyuan in the film search, who was collectively accused of moral decay because he refused to give up his seat to the old man. But they didn't know that before getting on the bus, she just learned that she was suffering from cancer. She was disheartened and immersed in amazement and fear. In real life, are there few such things? "Zhuangzi" said: "son is not a fish, how do you know the joy of fish? If you don't know others, don't draw a conclusion easily. A deep-rooted upbringing is never to judge others at will. two One episode of the TV series Pinocchio impressed me deeply. In the gym, an aunt died of heart paralysis due to excessive exercise. She was a severely obese person who weighed more than 90 kilograms. Before her death, she had lost more than 70 kilograms. Everyone wondered why she was so desperate to lose weight, even risking her own life. Media reporters came to the gym to get materials, and the employees of the gym contributed their gossip: "Aunt's ex husband remarried two months ago, and it is said that the object is a particularly slim and beautiful woman." "She must have been so stimulated that she decided to lose weight." Therefore, before finding out the truth, the media broadcast a news with the theme of "don't lose weight because of beauty". However, they don't know how sad the reason behind aunt's efforts to lose weight is: Aunt and her ex husband have a daughter who is in high school and is raised by her ex husband. Two months ago, her daughter was found to have reached the end of liver cirrhosis. She can only survive after receiving a liver transplant. Aunt's blood type is the same as that of her daughter, but the doctor said that aunt has fatty liver and can only be transplanted after losing 30 kilograms. So, in order to lose weight quickly in the short term, aunt ran in the gym day and night just to save her favorite daughter. As the man said: No matter how important their words are, people who talk nonsense are really terrible. We always like preconceptions too much, and we like to guess and measure others with our own prejudices. But in fact, we don't know what kind of experience others have had and what kind of pain they have in their hearts. I once passed a tavern late at night and saw office workers crying at the door; I have also seen the girl running down the stairs barefoot with high heels while wiping tears in the subway station; And in the canteen, there are teenagers eating steamed bread with free soup. Not everyone is qualified to live lightly, and no one can empathize with the experience of others. The novel the Great Gatsby begins with this passage: When I was young and inexperienced, my father taught me a word that I still remember. "Whenever you want to criticize anyone," he told me, "remember that not everyone in the world has the advantages you have." Just like a saying spread on Weibo: We live in different worlds. You live in a luxurious ship with everything on board, a lifetime of wine, and many people who are as lucky as you. I grabbed a piece of driftwood and tried to float. The waves came one after another. I couldn't hide. I was in danger of drowning at any time, and I was afraid of whether there were sharks passing by. You also asked me: why not take the time to see the beautiful scenery on the sea? In this life, too many people are carrying weight. You'll never know what others have been through, so don't judge yourself. three In recent years, more and more people like to watch wonderful flowers. In fact, what everyone loves to see is not only the hearty debate and moving golden sentences, but also the acceptance and thinking of different views and the cognition of different levels of things. As Ma Dong said, the greatest significance of "wonderful flower theory" is to let the audience see: If you cut into anything from different angles, you will have different views and cognition, or even diametrically opposite conclusions. We think we have made a fair judgment, but in fact, we often have our own subjective color. Because of some clues, we will easily label others as "Phoenix man", "green tea bitch" and various regional black. But everyone has his own life orientation and value choice. Don't be the judge of others' life. Han Han said: If you don't understand, shut up, because you never know what others have experienced; If you know, you should shut up. Don't rush to stand in line until you know the truth. Your malicious speculation may cause indelible pain to the parties. Therefore, deep-rooted education is never to evaluate others at will. Even if you see through, you can not tell, understand the pain in each other's heart, and leave dignity for others, which is a realm of being a man. Li Shanglong said: we are human beings, but we are not the same kind of people. Everyone has his own way of life, and no one has the right to dictate. See the good people appreciate, see the poor people do not despise. The higher the level, the more people like to focus on themselves rather than evaluate others. Just like many people love Faye Wong, not only for her songs and her movies, but also because she lives a frank self. Don't please the world or comment on right and wrong. Just be yourself and love who you love. Mr. Yang Jiang said: the world is our own and has nothing to do with others. When you know that you are not given the right to judge and evaluate others, you will find that you have more energy and time to focus on your own things. The most graceful scenery in life is inner calmness and calmness. Focus on yourself and you will have a broader sky. 04 Finally, I want to share a little story with you. An artist did an experiment: Asking someone to point out the shortcomings of one of his paintings was belittled to nothing; The next day, he asked someone to point out the advantages of the same painting, which was praised as perfect. He concluded that you will always be appreciated and criticized. Just draw your own painting at ease. It is a kind of self-cultivation not to evaluate others casually. Not living in the evaluation of others is a kind of practice. Encourage each other.