A few days ago, our school organized an educational theory knowledge competition, which included knowledge related to pedagogy and educational psychology. The topic was all kinds of teaching scenes. According to the scene description, we used educational theory knowledge to analyze and answer. This type of question is similar to the case analysis question we did in school, which is a great challenge to one's logical thinking and language organization ability. When the first few questions came out, very few people raised their hands to answer the questions. Even some teachers who performed very well on weekdays let me, and I pushed you, unwilling to stand up and answer the questions. Sitting next to me is the Chinese teacher of our class. She is a new teacher who has just taken the exam this year. Educational theory is the knowledge that must be taken in the teacher recruitment exam. These questions are absolutely trivial for her, but she has never had the courage to stand up and answer questions. She told me in a low voice that she was afraid of her bad answer. She lost the game and lost face in front of so many people. In fact, not only does she have this idea, but I think so myself. The more I care about winning or losing, the more I shrink back. I am afraid that once I lose the game, I will not have the courage to face everyone's eyes. The more people care about something, the more afraid they are to get close to something. When we treat the gains and losses, losses and wins in life with an ordinary mind, we will face them more calmly. two This reminds me that when I was in college, our school would hold an essay competition for all the students every spring, select the top three and work in the editorial department of the school journal. At that time, my biggest dream was to get a part-time job in the editorial department. Before each competition, the school will give us half a month to write articles. After writing the articles, before the deadline, we will send them to the mailbox of the editorial department of the school, wait for the review of the editor in chief teacher, select the winning authors in the first round, enter the next round of evaluation, and finally select three outstanding authors. At that time, I spent a week trying my best to write a novel, and then spent the rest of the time polishing and revising it as a whole. I revised it almost ten times. But I backed down at the last moment of the deadline. I gave up. I didn't have the courage to click the send button. I was afraid that once it was sent, there would be no room to look back; I am also afraid that once the article is brushed out, the writer's dream I deeply buried in my heart will be buried together. I don't have the courage to face everything after failure, nor the confidence to take that step for my dream. In this way, I gave up every year's essay competition in the University. I didn't even try to solicit contributions for the school journal once. Winning or losing, in the young years, is not a big win or loss in the real sense, but represents a kind of affirmation of the outside world. We are easily bound by the eyes of others. We win in the eyes of others and lose in the eyes of others. We are too afraid of the knife in the eyes of others, stabbing our hearts; We are afraid that our failure will become a lifelong obstacle. But in fact, all the fear is that you don't have enough confidence and courage to pursue what you care about. In the final analysis, I still care too much about winning or losing. Afraid of failure, I chose not to try. three Once, I wrote three questions on the blackboard, and asked three students to choose the questions themselves. A student with poor grades chose the most difficult one. The final result was that he did not do it correctly. When I asked him why he chose this question after class, his answer was beyond my expectation: he thought that although the other two questions were simple, he might not be able to do it right. In this case, everyone would laugh at him, and he would not be able to do such a simple question; If you choose the most difficult topic, even if you do it wrong, you will say that the topic is too difficult and will not laugh at his stupidity. One of the achievement motivation theories put forward by Atkinson is the motivation to avoid failure. Such people tend to avoid self-esteem injury and psychological troubles through various activities, and tend to choose very easy or difficult tasks. When your heart cares too much about something, you often pay special attention to the final result. Because he was afraid of being laughed at by his classmates for being stupid, he chose a topic that everyone thought was very difficult to avoid frustration, which is a typical motivation to avoid failure. Winning or losing is the norm of life. Whether you win or lose, it is an experience, and each experience is a different wealth and harvest on the road of life. If you lose, you can learn from it, learn to reflect on yourself, and learn to change and accept yourself; If you win, it can add color to your life, so that you will not end up doing nothing. The more you care about winning or losing, the more you worry and dare not go forward. When we really put down the obsession with winning and losing and look down on the gains and losses in the world, we can go forward bravely.

A few days ago, our school organized an educational theory knowledge competition, which included knowledge related to pedagogy and educational psychology. The topic was all kinds of teaching scenes. According to the scene description, we used educational theory knowledge to analyze and answer. This type of question is similar to the case analysis question we did in school, which is a great challenge to one's logical thinking and language organization ability. When the first few questions came out, very few people raised their hands to answer the questions. Even some teachers who performed very well on weekdays let me, and I pushed you, unwilling to stand up and answer the questions. Sitting next to me is the Chinese teacher of our class. She is a new teacher who has just taken the exam this year. Educational theory is the knowledge that must be taken in the teacher recruitment exam. These questions are absolutely trivial for her, but she has never had the courage to stand up and answer questions. She told me in a low voice that she was afraid of her bad answer. She lost the game and lost face in front of so many people. In fact, not only does she have this idea, but I think so myself. The more I care about winning or losing, the more I shrink back. I am afraid that once I lose the game, I will not have the courage to face everyone's eyes. The more people care about something, the more afraid they are to get close to something. When we treat the gains and losses, losses and wins in life with an ordinary mind, we will face them more calmly. two This reminds me that when I was in college, our school would hold an essay competition for all the students every spring, select the top three and work in the editorial department of the school journal. At that time, my biggest dream was to get a part-time job in the editorial department. Before each competition, the school will give us half a month to write articles. After writing the articles, before the deadline, we will send them to the mailbox of the editorial department of the school, wait for the review of the editor in chief teacher, select the winning authors in the first round, enter the next round of evaluation, and finally select three outstanding authors. At that time, I spent a week trying my best to write a novel, and then spent the rest of the time polishing and revising it as a whole. I revised it almost ten times. But I backed down at the last moment of the deadline. I gave up. I didn't have the courage to click the send button. I was afraid that once it was sent, there would be no room to look back; I am also afraid that once the article is brushed out, the writer's dream I deeply buried in my heart will be buried together. I don't have the courage to face everything after failure, nor the confidence to take that step for my dream. In this way, I gave up every year's essay competition in the University. I didn't even try to solicit contributions for the school journal once. Winning or losing, in the young years, is not a big win or loss in the real sense, but represents a kind of affirmation of the outside world. We are easily bound by the eyes of others. We win in the eyes of others and lose in the eyes of others. We are too afraid of the knife in the eyes of others, stabbing our hearts; We are afraid that our failure will become a lifelong obstacle. But in fact, all the fear is that you don't have enough confidence and courage to pursue what you care about. In the final analysis, I still care too much about winning or losing. Afraid of failure, I chose not to try. three Once, I wrote three questions on the blackboard, and asked three students to choose the questions themselves. A student with poor grades chose the most difficult one. The final result was that he did not do it correctly. When I asked him why he chose this question after class, his answer was beyond my expectation: he thought that although the other two questions were simple, he might not be able to do it right. In this case, everyone would laugh at him, and he would not be able to do such a simple question; If you choose the most difficult topic, even if you do it wrong, you will say that the topic is too difficult and will not laugh at his stupidity. One of the achievement motivation theories put forward by Atkinson is the motivation to avoid failure. Such people tend to avoid self-esteem injury and psychological troubles through various activities, and tend to choose very easy or difficult tasks. When your heart cares too much about something, you often pay special attention to the final result. Because he was afraid of being laughed at by his classmates for being stupid, he chose a topic that everyone thought was very difficult to avoid frustration, which is a typical motivation to avoid failure. Winning or losing is the norm of life. Whether you win or lose, it is an experience, and each experience is a different wealth and harvest on the road of life. If you lose, you can learn from it, learn to reflect on yourself, and learn to change and accept yourself; If you win, it can add color to your life, so that you will not end up doing nothing. The more you care about winning or losing, the more you worry and dare not go forward. When we really put down the obsession with winning and losing and look down on the gains and losses in the world, we can go forward bravely.