What a person can eventually become and how high he can stand are related to many factors, which are mainly divided into two aspects: internal and external factors. For example, family background and life experience can be attributed to external factors. It is undeniable that people with high starting point and good opportunities are easier to stand high. However, the internal cause is still the main reason to determine the outcome and height of our life. To put it bluntly, it's up to us to decide whether to mix well, whether it's a dragon or a worm, whether it's good or bad. People who don't get along well always have reasons. There are six main points. I hope this article can enlighten you. one Habitual procrastination and poor execution No matter how perfect the plan is, if it has been delayed and not implemented, then the plan is equivalent to a bad plan and has no effect at all. One of the more important reasons why many people are not doing well is that they habitually procrastinate and have poor execution. It is worth mentioning that the things we delay doing are basically positive, upward and helpful to our growth. For example, when many workers go to work, they always play first and then work. When they are about to leave work or are urged, they rush to work. For example, many people have moved the idea of losing weight and set ambitions, but most of the time they stay in the stage of fantasy and waiting, and always keep the big plan of losing weight tomorrow. For another example, many people have made plans to go to bed early and get up early, but they are always used to playing mobile phones until one or two o'clock late at night. They regret every day, but they cycle day after day. …… One of the reasons why a person can't mix well is that he can't change what he should do or what he shouldn't do. This can also be said to be lack of self-discipline. two Work for three minutes is hot, not focused enough The second reason why a person can't get along well is that he is always hot for three minutes. He can't insist on doing a good job and isn't focused enough. Many people are like a headless fly. Most of the decisions they make are impulsive, blind and easy to give up. Listen to others say that sales can make money. If you find that it's not the case for a few months, you get out and leave; I heard people say that running express can make money, so I went to run express again... In fact, many things have a process. If you want to have good results, you must survive some bad ones, which need precipitation and accumulation. It's always a hammer in the East and a stick in the West. If you don't concentrate on it, it's difficult to stand firm. On the way of self growth, it is also true. Some people insist on reading for a few days and find it useless, so they don't insist anymore; Someone insisted on fitness for a month and found that the effect was not good, or even better than not exercising, so they gave up... To send you a word: the vast majority of failures die from giving up halfway; The vast majority of success depends on persistence. three Refuse to learn and grow Charlie Munger, Buffett's partner, said: I keep seeing that some people get better in life. They are not the smartest or even the most diligent, but they are learning machines. They are a little smarter when they go to bed every night than that morning. The third reason why a person can't do well is to refuse to learn and grow. What does it mean for a professional not to grow up? Two words: out. Without growth, there is no possibility of promotion and salary increase. When the crisis comes, it is easier to become a victim and have no power to fight back. Conversely, those who constantly improve themselves and continue to grow in the workplace can often go far, stand high and gain a lot. four Always make excuses and don't find reasons from yourself The fourth reason why a person can't get along well is that when encountering problems, he habitually finds various excuses to justify himself, rather than self reflection and looking for reasons from himself. Seeing that others are better than himself, he doesn't think about why, but stubbornly believes that the reason why others are excellent is either good luck or something behind it. In short, they are unwilling to admit the excellence of others. In work, when you encounter problems, you habitually shift the blame, find various excuses to leave yourself far away, rather than face the problems and bear them bravely. Once people have such habits, they will become blind, narrow-minded, stubborn and extreme, and are unlikely to grow. At the same time, interpersonal relationships are often not much better. Really good people rarely find excuses to defend themselves. They are often more willing to reflect on how to become better. This is a huge difference between excellence and mediocrity. five Not confident, self limiting The reason why some people do not get along well is often because they have no confidence in themselves, think that they will be like this in their life, and prematurely make a final decision on their life. At the same time, they will become hesitant because of this psychology, become inferior and cowardly, and fear being rejected. In fact, a person's potential is great, but you haven't explored it. Many times, it's not that you can't, but that you don't do it, don't force yourself, and don't give yourself a chance. I have talked about this issue with many people who have done well in their respective fields, and everyone feels quite the same. Before doing it, I didn't think I could do so well, but after doing it, I forced myself and found that it wasn't so difficult, and I wasn't so fragile and unbearable. I believe that no matter what your starting point is, as long as you don't complain about yourself, don't abandon yourself, work harder and dare to act, you will be much better than now. six Poor emotional control and low EQ Finally, I want to talk about emotional control, which I focused on in yesterday's tweet. Many times, a person's ability is good, his resume is also good, and all aspects of the conditions are OK, but it is always difficult to break through and fail to make a name for himself. One big reason is that his EQ is relatively low. People with low EQ often can't speak well. There are usually two reasons why a person can't speak well: first, he doesn't know how to say it, which belongs to ignorance; Second, the mood is out of control and talking disorderly, which belongs to brainless. I don't suggest that you study too much about how to deal with people. I hope you will focus on self-growth and improvement and internal cultivation. However, the ability to control emotions also needs to be strengthened, which determines whether your efforts can get a positive return. Don't let bad emotions and low EQ ruin your efforts. It's especially worthless. Today's article has talked about many views before. The reason why we still talk about it is that we hope you can pay attention to it and keep it in mind from time to time. You can live your life as long as you live your day. If you want to get along well, don't touch these 60 points. Encourage each other!

What a person can eventually become and how high he can stand are related to many factors, which are mainly divided into two aspects: internal and external factors. For example, family background and life experience can be attributed to external factors. It is undeniable that people with high starting point and good opportunities are easier to stand high. However, the internal cause is still the main reason to determine the outcome and height of our life. To put it bluntly, it's up to us to decide whether to mix well, whether it's a dragon or a worm, whether it's good or bad. People who don't get along well always have reasons. There are six main points. I hope this article can enlighten you. one Habitual procrastination and poor execution No matter how perfect the plan is, if it has been delayed and not implemented, then the plan is equivalent to a bad plan and has no effect at all. One of the more important reasons why many people are not doing well is that they habitually procrastinate and have poor execution. It is worth mentioning that the things we delay doing are basically positive, upward and helpful to our growth. For example, when many workers go to work, they always play first and then work. When they are about to leave work or are urged, they rush to work. For example, many people have moved the idea of losing weight and set ambitions, but most of the time they stay in the stage of fantasy and waiting, and always keep the big plan of losing weight tomorrow. For another example, many people have made plans to go to bed early and get up early, but they are always used to playing mobile phones until one or two o'clock late at night. They regret every day, but they cycle day after day. …… One of the reasons why a person can't mix well is that he can't change what he should do or what he shouldn't do. This can also be said to be lack of self-discipline. two Work for three minutes is hot, not focused enough The second reason why a person can't get along well is that he is always hot for three minutes. He can't insist on doing a good job and isn't focused enough. Many people are like a headless fly. Most of the decisions they make are impulsive, blind and easy to give up. Listen to others say that sales can make money. If you find that it's not the case for a few months, you get out and leave; I heard people say that running express can make money, so I went to run express again... In fact, many things have a process. If you want to have good results, you must survive some bad ones, which need precipitation and accumulation. It's always a hammer in the East and a stick in the West. If you don't concentrate on it, it's difficult to stand firm. On the way of self growth, it is also true. Some people insist on reading for a few days and find it useless, so they don't insist anymore; Someone insisted on fitness for a month and found that the effect was not good, or even better than not exercising, so they gave up... To send you a word: the vast majority of failures die from giving up halfway; The vast majority of success depends on persistence. three Refuse to learn and grow Charlie Munger, Buffett's partner, said: I keep seeing that some people get better in life. They are not the smartest or even the most diligent, but they are learning machines. They are a little smarter when they go to bed every night than that morning. The third reason why a person can't do well is to refuse to learn and grow. What does it mean for a professional not to grow up? Two words: out. Without growth, there is no possibility of promotion and salary increase. When the crisis comes, it is easier to become a victim and have no power to fight back. Conversely, those who constantly improve themselves and continue to grow in the workplace can often go far, stand high and gain a lot. four Always make excuses and don't find reasons from yourself The fourth reason why a person can't get along well is that when encountering problems, he habitually finds various excuses to justify himself, rather than self reflection and looking for reasons from himself. Seeing that others are better than himself, he doesn't think about why, but stubbornly believes that the reason why others are excellent is either good luck or something behind it. In short, they are unwilling to admit the excellence of others. In work, when you encounter problems, you habitually shift the blame, find various excuses to leave yourself far away, rather than face the problems and bear them bravely. Once people have such habits, they will become blind, narrow-minded, stubborn and extreme, and are unlikely to grow. At the same time, interpersonal relationships are often not much better. Really good people rarely find excuses to defend themselves. They are often more willing to reflect on how to become better. This is a huge difference between excellence and mediocrity. five Not confident, self limiting The reason why some people do not get along well is often because they have no confidence in themselves, think that they will be like this in their life, and prematurely make a final decision on their life. At the same time, they will become hesitant because of this psychology, become inferior and cowardly, and fear being rejected. In fact, a person's potential is great, but you haven't explored it. Many times, it's not that you can't, but that you don't do it, don't force yourself, and don't give yourself a chance. I have talked about this issue with many people who have done well in their respective fields, and everyone feels quite the same. Before doing it, I didn't think I could do so well, but after doing it, I forced myself and found that it wasn't so difficult, and I wasn't so fragile and unbearable. I believe that no matter what your starting point is, as long as you don't complain about yourself, don't abandon yourself, work harder and dare to act, you will be much better than now. six Poor emotional control and low EQ Finally, I want to talk about emotional control, which I focused on in yesterday's tweet. Many times, a person's ability is good, his resume is also good, and all aspects of the conditions are OK, but it is always difficult to break through and fail to make a name for himself. One big reason is that his EQ is relatively low. People with low EQ often can't speak well. There are usually two reasons why a person can't speak well: first, he doesn't know how to say it, which belongs to ignorance; Second, the mood is out of control and talking disorderly, which belongs to brainless. I don't suggest that you study too much about how to deal with people. I hope you will focus on self-growth and improvement and internal cultivation. However, the ability to control emotions also needs to be strengthened, which determines whether your efforts can get a positive return. Don't let bad emotions and low EQ ruin your efforts. It's especially worthless. Today's article has talked about many views before. The reason why we still talk about it is that we hope you can pay attention to it and keep it in mind from time to time. You can live your life as long as you live your day. If you want to get along well, don't touch these 60 points. Encourage each other!