There was a young man in a village. The young man was extremely excellent, but he had a fatal disadvantage: he often spoke unkindly to others. His parents and friends always advised him. He always said, "what's the big deal? It's just a few words. What's the fuss?" Then go your own way. Once a Zen master came to the village. The young man said a very disrespectful word to the Zen master, and others criticized the young man. The young man said plausibly, "it's just a few words. Can't I apologize to him?" The Zen master smiled and said to the young man, "let me tell you a story!" Many people, including the young man, gathered around the Zen master and listened to the Zen master's story: A man kept a bear he had picked up from the mountains since he was a child. He kept the bear all the time, but one day the bear ruined a piece of corn in his neighbor's house, and the neighbor came to the door. He was very angry. He picked up a stick and hit the bear indiscriminately, and scolded while hitting: animals are always animals. I raised you for nothing. After the fight, he drove the bear out of the house. The next day, he regretted it again, but the bear had walked into the back mountain. He regretted it, but he couldn't find the bear anymore. When he was hunting in the mountains, he met a tiger. Unarmed, he closed his eyes. Suddenly he heard the sound of fighting. He opened his eyes and saw that the bear had come back. The bear chased the tiger away. He happily went up and caressed the bear and said, "great, did you still hurt last time I hit you? Go back with me!" The bear said, "it hasn't hurt for a long time, but what you said still hurts me, and it hurts very much." Without looking back, the bear returned to the back mountain. After the story of Zen master was finished, everyone was lamenting that what he said would hurt so much, but the young man looked disdainful. The Zen master took out some nails from his pocket and said to the young man, "go and nail these nails into the tree." The young man did as the Zen master said and nailed a nail into the tree. As soon as the young man returned, the Zen master said, "go and take down the nail." Without saying anything, the young man returned to the tree to take down the nail. But it took the young man a long time to remove a nail after tossing with various tools for a long time. The Zen master came to the young man, pointed to the mark left by the nail and said, "if you pull it out, what can you do? Isn't there still a deep scar on the trunk? Just like the bear in that story, although the pain left by the stick has long disappeared, the harm that the man said to it is unforgettable for life. " The Zen master looked at the young man again and said, "if you hurt others, it's like a nail. Although you can take it back, the damage you leave to others is like the scar left by a nail on a tree, which can never be eliminated." The young man heard it and suddenly realized it. He said, "now I finally understand how deep it will hurt others to speak unkindly. Thank you for your advice." The Zen master nodded and said yes, and then floated away. The deepest harm to others in the world is always language. When we speak unkindly to others, we drive a nail into others' hearts, and such harm can never be made up. Remember: speaking is an ability; No, it's a kind of wisdom.

1. Urgent, speak slowly

2. Small things, said humorously

3. What you're not sure about, say it cautiously

4. Don't talk nonsense about what didn't happen

5. Don't talk nonsense about what you can't do

6. Things that hurt people can't be said

7. Don't talk about sad things when you see people

8. Other people's business, say it carefully

9. Listen to what others say about your own business

10. Listen more and speak less about your elders

11. The couple's affairs were discussed

12. About the children, he enlightened Water flows slowly, and late words are expensive. It took us two years to learn to talk, but it took us decades to learn to shut up.

There was a young man in a village. The young man was extremely excellent, but he had a fatal disadvantage: he often spoke unkindly to others. His parents and friends always advised him. He always said, "what's the big deal? It's just a few words. What's the fuss?" Then go your own way. Once a Zen master came to the village. The young man said a very disrespectful word to the Zen master, and others criticized the young man. The young man said plausibly, "it's just a few words. Can't I apologize to him?" The Zen master smiled and said to the young man, "let me tell you a story!" Many people, including the young man, gathered around the Zen master and listened to the Zen master's story: A man kept a bear he had picked up from the mountains since he was a child. He kept the bear all the time, but one day the bear ruined a piece of corn in his neighbor's house, and the neighbor came to the door. He was very angry. He picked up a stick and hit the bear indiscriminately, and scolded while hitting: animals are always animals. I raised you for nothing. After the fight, he drove the bear out of the house. The next day, he regretted it again, but the bear had walked into the back mountain. He regretted it, but he couldn't find the bear anymore. When he was hunting in the mountains, he met a tiger. Unarmed, he closed his eyes. Suddenly he heard the sound of fighting. He opened his eyes and saw that the bear had come back. The bear chased the tiger away. He happily went up and caressed the bear and said, "great, did you still hurt last time I hit you? Go back with me!" The bear said, "it hasn't hurt for a long time, but what you said still hurts me, and it hurts very much." Without looking back, the bear returned to the back mountain. After the story of Zen master was finished, everyone was lamenting that what he said would hurt so much, but the young man looked disdainful. The Zen master took out some nails from his pocket and said to the young man, "go and nail these nails into the tree." The young man did as the Zen master said and nailed a nail into the tree. As soon as the young man returned, the Zen master said, "go and take down the nail." Without saying anything, the young man returned to the tree to take down the nail. But it took the young man a long time to remove a nail after tossing with various tools for a long time. The Zen master came to the young man, pointed to the mark left by the nail and said, "if you pull it out, what can you do? Isn't there still a deep scar on the trunk? Just like the bear in that story, although the pain left by the stick has long disappeared, the harm that the man said to it is unforgettable for life. " The Zen master looked at the young man again and said, "if you hurt others, it's like a nail. Although you can take it back, the damage you leave to others is like the scar left by a nail on a tree, which can never be eliminated." The young man heard it and suddenly realized it. He said, "now I finally understand how deep it will hurt others to speak unkindly. Thank you for your advice." The Zen master nodded and said yes, and then floated away. The deepest harm to others in the world is always language. When we speak unkindly to others, we drive a nail into others' hearts, and such harm can never be made up. Remember: speaking is an ability; No, it's a kind of wisdom.

1. Urgent, speak slowly

2. Small things, said humorously

3. What you're not sure about, say it cautiously

4. Don't talk nonsense about what didn't happen

5. Don't talk nonsense about what you can't do

6. Things that hurt people can't be said

7. Don't talk about sad things when you see people

8. Other people's business, say it carefully

9. Listen to what others say about your own business

10. Listen more and speak less about your elders

11. The couple's affairs were discussed

12. About the children, he enlightened Water flows slowly, and late words are expensive. It took us two years to learn to talk, but it took us decades to learn to shut up.