Dear you, your letter is different from many people. Your letter has nothing to do with love and has no specific connection with academic career. So I talked about the situation of life for the first time. You're 25 and everything's going well. No major events have happened in this year, no unemployment, no lovelorn, no health, everything is running on track. That's good. Most people live like this, I think. Imagine that the horn goes to work at 9 o'clock every day, and one of the people running hard in the urban jungle is you. But you said you were anxious. You said you were tired of repeating your life after graduation at the age of 22. Once you can get pride and satisfaction, now you can no longer get passion. You say you use many new things with a sense of form to resolve, new hairstyles, travel to places you have never been to, and consume many dream luxuries. But after each acquisition, the sense of satisfaction will not last for a long time. You seem to face more desires and deeper emptiness. You are disappointed in yourself and feel that you have become unlovable, unsophisticated and less persistent. You want to know the "deepest secret behind anxiety and depression". I was moved to see your letter. Many people let the anxiety in life dominate themselves. Some of them satisfy themselves with gorgeous and dazzling materials, some paralyze themselves with hard but blind work, and some forget themselves in the entertainment consumption of passive video games or TV dramas. You don't, you think there's something wrong in life, you're asking why. In this age when everything is easy to get without meaning, this kind of inquiry is rare and even extravagant. But I believe this question will appear in one form or another in everyone's life, sooner or later. The first time I knew this question in my life was in a philosophy class. In the summer afternoon, the old gentleman enthusiastically said a philosopher named Kant and asked himself and mankind several questions: "what can I know? What should I do? What can I expect?" And "what are people?" I must admit that the meaning of these questions to me that afternoon was just a few lines of words in my notebook. When these questions appeared only in the form of knowledge, they had no effect on people's mind. Only when these questions let us face them directly in the way of life will we send out the same questions from our hearts as Kant. Although this seems very untimely, it is the instinct of everyone with a heart to find a deep sense of happiness. Your current life can't give you this deep sense of happiness, so you are dissatisfied. Your way to eliminate discontent is possession and consumption, a kind of conquest of the world. The effect of this conquest is to sprinkle sugar on the wound of desire, which is sweet, but makes the wound worse and expand. Every discontent is often expressed as a desire and desire that needs to be well and correctly understood. Just like the overeating under pressure or the extraordinary shopping enthusiasm after salary, the more nervous and evasive you are when you keep watching TV with your textbook before the exam. People who can't understand their desires well can only let them dominate themselves. They enjoy it, and they are even addicted because they don't understand their heart, their situation, and their real needs. We can't blame you. Our education has always made the way we treat the world simple or even rough: possession and consumption. Our goal has always been clear: get high marks in exams, take exams in famous schools and find a good job. Every step has a clear goal, and every process of reaching the goal is a war. I know that the outside world only depends on the results. But you also forget to enjoy the process, and gradually become only concerned about whether the final result is achieved. This may be one of the reasons why you are unhappy. Enjoying travel and luxury goods is a beautiful thing. You pay too much attention to the results of these things, which makes you always look for an additional expectation in the process of enjoying. When this expectation fails, you get deeper dissatisfaction, and enjoyment is simply a punishment for yourself. Letting go of this extra expectation is the only way to restore these enjoyment to enjoyment. Like dating, if you date a guy you've been looking forward to for a long time, he will disappoint you more or less, because he must be different from what you think. You are tired of these enjoyment now, just like your boyfriend who has been in love for five years gave you a bunch of roses. Your feeling must be different from when you first received roses five years ago. Those things that once brought you passion will fail if you change your mood and situation. It's not your problem, it's the way life is. Deliberate repetition does not bring the expected passion. Only by making a good distinction between your current real needs can you make yourself happy. Sometimes I envy those ignorant children. Their happiness is so simple. Doubting life and feeling nothingness are the signs of growth. I even think it may be the norm of life. Sometimes I feel like we lived in a theme park in our childhood. There are clear rules, clear buildings, always sunny, no lack of three meals and playmates. There seems to be a clear answer to any question, so there will be no deep anxiety. Each game has an end point, just like graduating from junior high school, graduating from high school with the college entrance examination, going to college if you do well, and college if you don't. After college, we looked for a job, and then we were suddenly outside the theme park. The world is different from theme parks. It was so vast, lonely and crowded. At the age of 25, you are now in a fog you have never experienced. You treat the world around you in the way you are used to, but the response from the world is different from what you expect. You lose, you can't find the direction. Confused in the forest of life and the world, I think this is a normal that often happens in life. At this moment, you will find the poetry and diversity of life. You will stop, look around, observe yourself and ask your heart, "where do you want to go and what do you need?" Those who only hear that there is a gold mine ahead and run all the way may also have their happiness. Look up at those precious moments and feel the stars. Dear you, at this moment. It's up to you to decide where you want to go. It is important that you give meaning to what you do. You have to choose the big dipper for yourself. Maybe the next step will be a fog. You should give yourself a reason to convince yourself of the direction you choose. That must be the meaning you recognize. Your heart should have its own standards. You have to do what you like, and you must understand that doing what you like doesn't mean everything goes well and always pays off. One of my favorite architects, Lin Ying, said, "I do some things because they are important to me." Do what is important to you without utilitarianism. They give you far more return than Utilitarianism. You should know how to distinguish between things related to you and things unrelated to you. At the age of 25, you have experienced a lot. There are endless interesting things. In addition to curiosity, you should cultivate concentration and judgment. I believe that real communication and real creation make people get a deep sense of happiness. In the following years, keep curious and don't give up enjoying good things, but focus on creative things. Literally pursuing life and the meaning of life will never get the answer. Only with life can we answer the questions of life. Dear you, don't be in a hurry. Don't be in a hurry to judge yourself as "not cute or honest". You are entering a new state. Maybe you are not familiar with this state, but don't judge it in a negative way. Be gentle with yourself and don't treat her harshly. Let go of extra expectations and be patient with what she needs. Be gentle and open to yourself, and you will know where you should go. As long as you look up, you will find that every starry sky is very generous. The brightest star for you has never been covered by the fog. One summer evening, I went to schoenburg, Germany, and translated it directly into Chinese, which is "beautiful fort". (www.lz13. CN) the night there is so quiet that even taking a deep breath is afraid to disturb others. The Milky way is clearly visible. It is as low as the roof of a castle. You can touch it with your hand. The starry sky is so deep and beautiful that people are fascinated and look at it and don't want to leave. The lower the stars look, the more they look. At that moment, I thought that the universe was so beautiful that nothing really deserved deep anxiety. May you be confused in the current fog, but you can be calm and patient. May you look back at the present time in the future, smile or forget. Enjoy every moment. Lost moments can also be poetic.

Dear you, your letter is different from many people. Your letter has nothing to do with love and has no specific connection with academic career. So I talked about the situation of life for the first time. You're 25 and everything's going well. No major events have happened in this year, no unemployment, no lovelorn, no health, everything is running on track. That's good. Most people live like this, I think. Imagine that the horn goes to work at 9 o'clock every day, and one of the people running hard in the urban jungle is you. But you said you were anxious. You said you were tired of repeating your life after graduation at the age of 22. Once you can get pride and satisfaction, now you can no longer get passion. You say you use many new things with a sense of form to resolve, new hairstyles, travel to places you have never been to, and consume many dream luxuries. But after each acquisition, the sense of satisfaction will not last for a long time. You seem to face more desires and deeper emptiness. You are disappointed in yourself and feel that you have become unlovable, unsophisticated and less persistent. You want to know the "deepest secret behind anxiety and depression". I was moved to see your letter. Many people let the anxiety in life dominate themselves. Some of them satisfy themselves with gorgeous and dazzling materials, some paralyze themselves with hard but blind work, and some forget themselves in the entertainment consumption of passive video games or TV dramas. You don't, you think there's something wrong in life, you're asking why. In this age when everything is easy to get without meaning, this kind of inquiry is rare and even extravagant. But I believe this question will appear in one form or another in everyone's life, sooner or later. The first time I knew this question in my life was in a philosophy class. In the summer afternoon, the old gentleman enthusiastically said a philosopher named Kant and asked himself and mankind several questions: "what can I know? What should I do? What can I expect?" And "what are people?" I must admit that the meaning of these questions to me that afternoon was just a few lines of words in my notebook. When these questions appeared only in the form of knowledge, they had no effect on people's mind. Only when these questions let us face them directly in the way of life will we send out the same questions from our hearts as Kant. Although this seems very untimely, it is the instinct of everyone with a heart to find a deep sense of happiness. Your current life can't give you this deep sense of happiness, so you are dissatisfied. Your way to eliminate discontent is possession and consumption, a kind of conquest of the world. The effect of this conquest is to sprinkle sugar on the wound of desire, which is sweet, but makes the wound worse and expand. Every discontent is often expressed as a desire and desire that needs to be well and correctly understood. Just like the overeating under pressure or the extraordinary shopping enthusiasm after salary, the more nervous and evasive you are when you keep watching TV with your textbook before the exam. People who can't understand their desires well can only let them dominate themselves. They enjoy it, and they are even addicted because they don't understand their heart, their situation, and their real needs. We can't blame you. Our education has always made the way we treat the world simple or even rough: possession and consumption. Our goal has always been clear: get high marks in exams, take exams in famous schools and find a good job. Every step has a clear goal, and every process of reaching the goal is a war. I know that the outside world only depends on the results. But you also forget to enjoy the process, and gradually become only concerned about whether the final result is achieved. This may be one of the reasons why you are unhappy. Enjoying travel and luxury goods is a beautiful thing. You pay too much attention to the results of these things, which makes you always look for an additional expectation in the process of enjoying. When this expectation fails, you get deeper dissatisfaction, and enjoyment is simply a punishment for yourself. Letting go of this extra expectation is the only way to restore these enjoyment to enjoyment. Like dating, if you date a guy you've been looking forward to for a long time, he will disappoint you more or less, because he must be different from what you think. You are tired of these enjoyment now, just like your boyfriend who has been in love for five years gave you a bunch of roses. Your feeling must be different from when you first received roses five years ago. Those things that once brought you passion will fail if you change your mood and situation. It's not your problem, it's the way life is. Deliberate repetition does not bring the expected passion. Only by making a good distinction between your current real needs can you make yourself happy. Sometimes I envy those ignorant children. Their happiness is so simple. Doubting life and feeling nothingness are the signs of growth. I even think it may be the norm of life. Sometimes I feel like we lived in a theme park in our childhood. There are clear rules, clear buildings, always sunny, no lack of three meals and playmates. There seems to be a clear answer to any question, so there will be no deep anxiety. Each game has an end point, just like graduating from junior high school, graduating from high school with the college entrance examination, going to college if you do well, and college if you don't. After college, we looked for a job, and then we were suddenly outside the theme park. The world is different from theme parks. It was so vast, lonely and crowded. At the age of 25, you are now in a fog you have never experienced. You treat the world around you in the way you are used to, but the response from the world is different from what you expect. You lose, you can't find the direction. Confused in the forest of life and the world, I think this is a normal that often happens in life. At this moment, you will find the poetry and diversity of life. You will stop, look around, observe yourself and ask your heart, "where do you want to go and what do you need?" Those who only hear that there is a gold mine ahead and run all the way may also have their happiness. Look up at those precious moments and feel the stars. Dear you, at this moment. It's up to you to decide where you want to go. It is important that you give meaning to what you do. You have to choose the big dipper for yourself. Maybe the next step will be a fog. You should give yourself a reason to convince yourself of the direction you choose. That must be the meaning you recognize. Your heart should have its own standards. You have to do what you like, and you must understand that doing what you like doesn't mean everything goes well and always pays off. One of my favorite architects, Lin Ying, said, "I do some things because they are important to me." Do what is important to you without utilitarianism. They give you far more return than Utilitarianism. You should know how to distinguish between things related to you and things unrelated to you. At the age of 25, you have experienced a lot. There are endless interesting things. In addition to curiosity, you should cultivate concentration and judgment. I believe that real communication and real creation make people get a deep sense of happiness. In the following years, keep curious and don't give up enjoying good things, but focus on creative things. Literally pursuing life and the meaning of life will never get the answer. Only with life can we answer the questions of life. Dear you, don't be in a hurry. Don't be in a hurry to judge yourself as "not cute or honest". You are entering a new state. Maybe you are not familiar with this state, but don't judge it in a negative way. Be gentle with yourself and don't treat her harshly. Let go of extra expectations and be patient with what she needs. Be gentle and open to yourself, and you will know where you should go. As long as you look up, you will find that every starry sky is very generous. The brightest star for you has never been covered by the fog. One summer evening, I went to schoenburg, Germany, and translated it directly into Chinese, which is "beautiful fort". (www.lz13. CN) the night there is so quiet that even taking a deep breath is afraid to disturb others. The Milky way is clearly visible. It is as low as the roof of a castle. You can touch it with your hand. The starry sky is so deep and beautiful that people are fascinated and look at it and don't want to leave. The lower the stars look, the more they look. At that moment, I thought that the universe was so beautiful that nothing really deserved deep anxiety. May you be confused in the current fog, but you can be calm and patient. May you look back at the present time in the future, smile or forget. Enjoy every moment. Lost moments can also be poetic.