Share Dialog
By Best Siallagan
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Have you ever had that weird feeling?
Like… everything looks okay from the outside.
Your job? Not bad.
Your social life? Decent.
You smile in photos. Post “grateful” captions. Reply to “How are you?” with a rehearsed “I’m good.”
But deep down, you feel… empty.
You wake up tired. You scroll for hours but feel nothing. You laugh, but it feels like autopilot.
And no matter what you achieve or buy or fix, the emptiness lingers.
Let me tell you something that might sting a bit:
You’re not actually living your life.
You’re just performing in one.
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The Template Life You Never Chose
Somewhere along the way, we all got handed this invisible checklist:
Get a degree
Get a job
Get married
Buy a house
Have two kids
Retire at 60
Be “happy”
And we tried to check all the boxes — not because we believed in them, but because everyone else did.
But here’s the catch:
You can follow the perfect template…
And still end up miserable.
Because a life that looks “right” isn’t always a life that feels real.
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You Don’t Need a Better Life. You Need a Real One.
You don’t need a morning routine with 6 steps.
You don’t need to manifest a Lamborghini.
You don’t need another self-help book telling you to “hustle harder.”
You need to pause and ask:
And yeah, I get it — changing your life isn’t a single switch you flip.
But you can start with small things that make a real difference.
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3 Brutally Honest Steps to Stop Feeling Empty
1. Stop performing for the world
Seriously. Stop living for applause.
You’re not a circus act. You don’t have to impress strangers online.
Live for peace, not performance.
If it doesn’t feel right when no one’s watching, it’s not right at all.
2. Reconnect with what made you feel alive
Remember when you used to draw, or sing, or write dumb poetry at night?
Remember when you cared about things — not likes?
Go back. Reconnect.
Your childhood hobbies weren’t “useless” — they were your soul speaking.
3. Be painfully honest with yourself
This is the part most people avoid.
Maybe your job sucks. Maybe your relationship is emotionally dead.
Maybe you’re not “fine” — and that’s okay.
Don’t sugarcoat it. Say it out loud:
“This part of my life feels empty.”
And then… dare to change it.
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Final Thoughts: Don’t Just Exist
Let me leave you with this:
You’re not broken. You’re just waking up.
The emptiness you feel is not a flaw — it’s a signal.
A sign that you’re done living someone else’s dream.
You don’t have to burn your life down.
You just have to begin living it on purpose.
So today, ask yourself:
“What would my life look like if I wasn’t trying to impress anyone?”
That answer?
Might just be the beginning of everything you’ve been searching for.
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Best Siallagan
