This is in response to Sean's powerful testimony: "God Is Worth Every Cost" where he shares his journey of choosing biblical faithfulness over family inheritance and dysfunction.

Your testimony stopped me in my tracks, . Not because it's shocking (though it is), but because it's so deeply biblical. What you've lived echoes something we rarely talk about in comfortable Christianity: sometimes following Jesus costs us everything we thought we wanted.

When I read about your choice to walk away from millions in inheritance, your family turning against you, and the years of manipulation and abuse you endured, I couldn't help but think of another man who faced a similar crossroads. Abraham received a call that would cost him everything familiar and safe.

Let me be clear: I'm not comparing your suffering to Abraham's journey in some neat, tidy parallel. Your pain is unique, your trauma is real, and what you've endured goes far beyond a simple biblical analogy. But there's something profound in how God calls people to costly obedience, and Abraham's story illuminates why your choice was not just brave, but biblically faithful.

"Go from your country, your people and your father's household to the land I will show you." (Genesis 12:1, NIV)

Abraham was seventy-five years old, settled, and secure when God called him to leave everything. The Hebrew word for "go" (לך־לך, lekh-lekha) literally means "go for yourself" or "go to yourself."¹ It's not just about geographic movement; it's about discovering who you really are when everything external is stripped away.

What struck me about your story is how you discovered exactly this. You wrote, "I finally know who I am and more importantly, whose I am." That's the lekh-lekha moment. When family systems become idolatrous, when money becomes manipulative, when relationships become transactions, God sometimes calls us to step away to find our true identity.

Abraham left his father's house not knowing where he was going (Hebrews 11:8). You left your inheritance not knowing what God had planned. Both choices required what Dietrich Bonhoeffer called "costly grace": the kind of obedience that demands everything and promises something unseen.²

Here's what modern psychology confirms about what the Bible taught thousands of years ago: unhealthy family systems often demand loyalty to dysfunction rather than truth.

Psychology Today describes how children in manipulative households learn to prioritize family image over personal truth.³ They're trained to protect the system even when it's destroying them. Sound familiar?

Your description of gaslighting, emotional manipulation, and being made the scapegoat when you set boundaries reflects what therapists call "toxic family dynamics." But here's what's profound: you chose truth over comfort. You chose God's definition of family over blood relations that had become spiritually poisonous.

Jesus himself addressed this tension directly: "If anyone comes to me and does not hate father and mother, wife and children, brothers and sisters... such a person cannot be my disciple" (Luke 14:26, NIV). The Greek word for "hate" (miseo) doesn't mean emotional hatred; it means "to love less" or "to choose against."⁴ Sometimes following Christ means choosing his definition of love over our family's definition of loyalty.

"I am your shield, your very great reward." (Genesis 15:1, NIV)

After Abraham left everything, God made him a promise: "I am your... reward." Not "I will give you a reward," but "I am your reward." The inheritance isn't just what God gives; it's God himself.

You chose this, Sean. When you walked away from millions in financial inheritance, you walked toward something eternal. You chose God as your inheritance when your earthly inheritance became spiritually toxic.

This isn't spiritual romanticism or prosperity gospel nonsense. This is the radical mathematics of the kingdom: sometimes losing everything earthly means gaining everything eternal. Sometimes the cost of discipleship includes the very relationships that shaped us.

Research from the National Alliance on Mental Illness shows that those who establish firm boundaries with toxic family members, even when it costs them relationships and financial security, experience significantly better mental health outcomes over time.⁵ What science is discovering, Scripture has always taught: sometimes the path to wholeness requires costly separation.

What moves me most about your testimony is this line: "Jesus broke the generational curses." You didn't just survive your family system; you chose to stop perpetuating it.

Abraham's story is ultimately about generational transformation. God called him to become "a father of many nations" (Genesis 17:4) precisely because he was willing to leave his father's destructive patterns behind. Sometimes we have to leave Egypt so our children don't have to live there.

Your choice to protect your daughter from the conspiracy theories and manipulation wasn't just good parenting; it was prophetic action. You chose to plant a different kind of family tree.

If someone reading this recognizes their own story in yours, here's what Abraham's example teaches us:

First, trust the voice of God over the voices of manipulation. Abraham heard God's call clearly enough to act on it (Genesis 12:1). When family voices consistently contradict God's voice of truth, love, and healthy boundaries, choose God's voice.

Second, accept that some people will choose bondage over freedom. Your mother's choice to stay in dysfunction after having an opportunity to leave mirrors Israel's repeated desire to return to Egypt. You can't force someone else's exodus.

Third, understand that obedience to God sometimes looks like disobedience to family expectations. This isn't rebellion; it's reformation. Abraham looked like a foolish wanderer to his contemporaries, but God was writing a different story.

Finally, remember that God's inheritance is always greater than earthly inheritance. Abraham received land, descendants, and ultimately became part of Christ's lineage. God's promises to you are still unfolding.

Your testimony doesn't just tell a story of survival; it tells a story of biblical faithfulness. You chose the narrow path that leads to life, even when the wide path offered millions of dollars and family approval.

God truly is worth every cost.

Read Sean's full testimony here: "God Is Worth Every Cost" - a powerful reminder that sometimes the most faithful choice is the costliest one.

Questions for Reflection:

What "inheritance" might God be calling you to leave behind for his greater inheritance? How do you discern between healthy family loyalty and loyalty to dysfunction?

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¹ Blue Letter Bible, Hebrew Lexicon for Genesis 12:1, "lekh-lekha,"

https://www.blueletterbible.org/

² Dietrich Bonhoeffer, The Cost of Discipleship, available at RackCDN,

https://rackcdn.com/

³ Psychology Today, "Children of Narcissistic Parents," https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-narcissist-in-your-life

⁴ Bible Hub, Greek Lexicon for Luke 14:26, "miseo," https://biblehub.com/greek/3404.htm

⁵ National Alliance on Mental Illness, "Setting Boundaries with Toxic Family Members," https://www.nami.org/Blogs/NAMI-Blog