The share in 2019 has passed by more than 1 / 24. In other words, if you plan to run 100 kilometers this year, you should have run 4 kilometers today. How's your flag? According to a study, only 8% of people can achieve their new year's resolutions, and most people will give up their plans in the second week of the new year. We are so eager for self-discipline, but it is also so easy to give up. I don't know if you have such an experience. The more you want to quit junk food, the more you will aftertaste it on the tip of your tongue; The more you remind yourself not to brush your circle of friends and microblog before going to bed, the more you can't stop. Too many facts have proved that forced self repression is often ineffective. Even sometimes, this self-control may be the beginning of losing control. When we forcibly suppress desire, it often produces the opposite effect, making us want to do what we ask ourselves not to do. Many times we can't do long-term self-discipline, precisely because we suppress ourselves too hard and consume our willpower. two I have a best friend who has applied for a fitness card for 5 years, which is said to be cheaper than many fitness cards for 3 years. After completing the card, she never went to the gym again and even forgot that she had such a card. Selling annual cards that take a long time and are relatively cheap is a common trick of the gym. But for us, if you subconsciously think "this card is so cheap", you are secretly labeling your behavior as "cheap". If you belittle your self-discipline so cheaply from the beginning, you will default that your next persistence is as cheap. A friend made a stage reading plan and sent a circle of friends: ask for supervision. After a while, I asked him about his progress. He said that at that time, he thought that so many people's praise would give him motivation and pressure. He felt that it would be humiliating if it could not be realized, but the result seemed to have changed little, and the plan still failed. On the surface, the act of disclosing goals does increase the cost of default, but this cost of default is based on the evaluation of us by others. Psychological tests have proved that telling others your goal and everyone recognizing your goal will make you feel satisfied that your goal has been achieved, but it will reduce your motivation to complete the goal itself. When we bask in today's sports achievements in our circle of friends, we mistakenly imply that "I have achieved my goal today", so the next step is often to have a big meal. Every year we are full of enthusiasm and determination to insist on reading, getting up early and exercising... But it seems that we fail again and again. Passion is not controllable. If the lofty words and aspirations are only based on passion, they will be beaten back to their original shape in a few days. three Goal is more reliable than passion, because it is fixed and clear. A practical goal will tell us to start from the simplest, most basic, cumbersome and boring starting point. At this time, every step we take is a commitment to the goal. Only by turning the ambiguous love into a firm goal and turning the vague "I like" into a clear "I want to finish", can we reach the end. Self discipline is just a means. If we stick to this means and always think about the pain of persistence, self-discipline can only become a form in the end. Through the self-discipline behavior itself and paying attention to the results of self-discipline, we will find that our self-discipline is ultimately to achieve a goal. Running 3 kilometers every day is to have a healthy body; Reading one book a month is to let yourself know more about the world. If we get rid of the attachment to the process and focus on the goal itself, self-discipline will no longer be a burden. The goal will guide us to accomplish what we should do step by step. People who can really exercise self-discipline may not be those who have the most willpower, but those who still don't lose their way in the face of the conflict between behavior and will. Self discipline is not necessarily to insist on doing something every day, but to move towards a goal for a long time and take what needs to be done to achieve the goal as their own habit. Even if you are tired, it doesn't matter to have a rest for a while. As long as you stick to your direction, you can still be invincible after you have enough spirit. As long as you are getting closer to your goal, you will achieve self-discipline.

The share in 2019 has passed by more than 1 / 24. In other words, if you plan to run 100 kilometers this year, you should have run 4 kilometers today. How's your flag? According to a study, only 8% of people can achieve their new year's resolutions, and most people will give up their plans in the second week of the new year. We are so eager for self-discipline, but it is also so easy to give up. I don't know if you have such an experience. The more you want to quit junk food, the more you will aftertaste it on the tip of your tongue; The more you remind yourself not to brush your circle of friends and microblog before going to bed, the more you can't stop. Too many facts have proved that forced self repression is often ineffective. Even sometimes, this self-control may be the beginning of losing control. When we forcibly suppress desire, it often produces the opposite effect, making us want to do what we ask ourselves not to do. Many times we can't do long-term self-discipline, precisely because we suppress ourselves too hard and consume our willpower. two I have a best friend who has applied for a fitness card for 5 years, which is said to be cheaper than many fitness cards for 3 years. After completing the card, she never went to the gym again and even forgot that she had such a card. Selling annual cards that take a long time and are relatively cheap is a common trick of the gym. But for us, if you subconsciously think "this card is so cheap", you are secretly labeling your behavior as "cheap". If you belittle your self-discipline so cheaply from the beginning, you will default that your next persistence is as cheap. A friend made a stage reading plan and sent a circle of friends: ask for supervision. After a while, I asked him about his progress. He said that at that time, he thought that so many people's praise would give him motivation and pressure. He felt that it would be humiliating if it could not be realized, but the result seemed to have changed little, and the plan still failed. On the surface, the act of disclosing goals does increase the cost of default, but this cost of default is based on the evaluation of us by others. Psychological tests have proved that telling others your goal and everyone recognizing your goal will make you feel satisfied that your goal has been achieved, but it will reduce your motivation to complete the goal itself. When we bask in today's sports achievements in our circle of friends, we mistakenly imply that "I have achieved my goal today", so the next step is often to have a big meal. Every year we are full of enthusiasm and determination to insist on reading, getting up early and exercising... But it seems that we fail again and again. Passion is not controllable. If the lofty words and aspirations are only based on passion, they will be beaten back to their original shape in a few days. three Goal is more reliable than passion, because it is fixed and clear. A practical goal will tell us to start from the simplest, most basic, cumbersome and boring starting point. At this time, every step we take is a commitment to the goal. Only by turning the ambiguous love into a firm goal and turning the vague "I like" into a clear "I want to finish", can we reach the end. Self discipline is just a means. If we stick to this means and always think about the pain of persistence, self-discipline can only become a form in the end. Through the self-discipline behavior itself and paying attention to the results of self-discipline, we will find that our self-discipline is ultimately to achieve a goal. Running 3 kilometers every day is to have a healthy body; Reading one book a month is to let yourself know more about the world. If we get rid of the attachment to the process and focus on the goal itself, self-discipline will no longer be a burden. The goal will guide us to accomplish what we should do step by step. People who can really exercise self-discipline may not be those who have the most willpower, but those who still don't lose their way in the face of the conflict between behavior and will. Self discipline is not necessarily to insist on doing something every day, but to move towards a goal for a long time and take what needs to be done to achieve the goal as their own habit. Even if you are tired, it doesn't matter to have a rest for a while. As long as you stick to your direction, you can still be invincible after you have enough spirit. As long as you are getting closer to your goal, you will achieve self-discipline.