one Recently, chatting in Wenyou group, I found that many people have been harassed. Many literary friends in the group often publish articles on the big platform, and writers come to add them from time to time. There are always people who come up and bomb all kinds of problems: Can you teach me the secret of last draft? How much is the cost of an article? Can you send a copy of the contribution resources? Can you revise the manuscript for me? I've been through a lot myself. After revising the manuscript, some friends not only asked me to modify it, but also asked me to submit it to him patiently; What's more, when I sent a message, I was angry because I didn't reply in time for the time being. I said, "what's great about you? Don't you just publish a few articles? I think I'm really a big guy. I ask you, I just think highly of you!" When I saw it, I was ready to reply to her and found that it had been hacked. In life, there are always such people. No matter whether you are busy or not, whether you are convenient or not, and regardless of the relationship between you, you are asked to help do this and that from time to time These people seem to think that it is natural for them to trouble others when they have difficulties, and it is also natural for others to help them unconditionally. They never respect others' time and energy. To put it harshly, these people just don't know how to be measured and have no self-knowledge of their position in interpersonal relationships. The spatial distance between people is hierarchical, and each of us has a "boundary" to measure the relationship between friends. For the same thing, what is within the boundary is called "raising a hand", and what is beyond the boundary will be regarded as "forcing people to overcome difficulties". People without self-knowledge never understand transposition thinking. They always think that they are the center of the universe and everyone has to turn around themselves. two Our company has a wonderful female colleague named sister Lin. she is an old employee of the company, but she is not so popular. When I first started, my partner in the same group reminded me to deal less with sister Lin. At first, I didn't think so until my colleague Xiaoman hit a nail in her, I didn't understand why everyone should keep a distance from her. At that time, Xiaoman went to ask sister Lin about a work problem. Sister Lin immediately made a very exaggerated expression, and then shouted in the office: "you don't even know such a simple thing. How do you usually work?" Xiaoman looked embarrassed and didn't get the answer. Instead, he was humiliated. After lunch, sister Lin often evaluates other colleagues in the office in front of everyone, saying that this person's professional ability is not very good, that person's communication ability is lack, etc. by implication, no one in the office can do anything except herself. On another occasion, when making statistics on the table data reported by the business department, sister Lin found that there was something wrong with the data reported by one department. She immediately called the person and said, "are you a pig brain? You can make mistakes in such a simple arithmetic problem. Did you finish primary school?" So many. Sister Lin enjoys the process of belittling others. It seems that the lower she steps on others, the more she can show her strength. As everyone knows, most colleagues in the office don't like her, just as they are watching jokes. Shakespeare once said, "a fool thinks he is wise, but a wise man knows himself." Many people think they can see everything and be superior to others. In fact, they are just deceiving themselves and others. Incompetent people think they are omnipotent, and really powerful people don't show their talents. Because there is no self-knowledge, they think that what they can do is the end of the world. three Self knowledge, in fact, is to recognize yourself and understand where you are. If a person cannot understand his position, he may always overestimate his importance in other people's lives, either attached to or superior to others. People with self-knowledge have a clear understanding of the boundaries of interpersonal relationships, know how to respect each other, and never bother others easily; People with self-knowledge will also have a clear positioning of their own ability, understand self reflection, and will not belittle others at will. "Ignorance" is human nature. If you understand your "ignorance", there is still room for maneuver. For a person who lacks self-knowledge, you can never wake him up, just as you can never wake up a sleeper. Chai Jing once wrote in her book: "People" are often ignored intentionally or unintentionally, obscured by ignorance and prejudice, conceptualized and patterned. These thoughts are buried under the unconscious. The unconscious is so deep that it often can't see others and turn a blind eye to itself. As everyone knows, when you see no one else but the benefits brought to you by others, this kind of social relationship is simply difficult to maintain. Similarly, it's just a kind of self deception that you can't recognize yourself but blindly want to be recognized by others. After all, everyone has his own life, and no one is born to be a foil in other people's lives. You know, only children think they are the center of the universe. Recognizing oneself and seeing others is the basic cultivation of adults.

one Recently, chatting in Wenyou group, I found that many people have been harassed. Many literary friends in the group often publish articles on the big platform, and writers come to add them from time to time. There are always people who come up and bomb all kinds of problems: Can you teach me the secret of last draft? How much is the cost of an article? Can you send a copy of the contribution resources? Can you revise the manuscript for me? I've been through a lot myself. After revising the manuscript, some friends not only asked me to modify it, but also asked me to submit it to him patiently; What's more, when I sent a message, I was angry because I didn't reply in time for the time being. I said, "what's great about you? Don't you just publish a few articles? I think I'm really a big guy. I ask you, I just think highly of you!" When I saw it, I was ready to reply to her and found that it had been hacked. In life, there are always such people. No matter whether you are busy or not, whether you are convenient or not, and regardless of the relationship between you, you are asked to help do this and that from time to time These people seem to think that it is natural for them to trouble others when they have difficulties, and it is also natural for others to help them unconditionally. They never respect others' time and energy. To put it harshly, these people just don't know how to be measured and have no self-knowledge of their position in interpersonal relationships. The spatial distance between people is hierarchical, and each of us has a "boundary" to measure the relationship between friends. For the same thing, what is within the boundary is called "raising a hand", and what is beyond the boundary will be regarded as "forcing people to overcome difficulties". People without self-knowledge never understand transposition thinking. They always think that they are the center of the universe and everyone has to turn around themselves. two Our company has a wonderful female colleague named sister Lin. she is an old employee of the company, but she is not so popular. When I first started, my partner in the same group reminded me to deal less with sister Lin. At first, I didn't think so until my colleague Xiaoman hit a nail in her, I didn't understand why everyone should keep a distance from her. At that time, Xiaoman went to ask sister Lin about a work problem. Sister Lin immediately made a very exaggerated expression, and then shouted in the office: "you don't even know such a simple thing. How do you usually work?" Xiaoman looked embarrassed and didn't get the answer. Instead, he was humiliated. After lunch, sister Lin often evaluates other colleagues in the office in front of everyone, saying that this person's professional ability is not very good, that person's communication ability is lack, etc. by implication, no one in the office can do anything except herself. On another occasion, when making statistics on the table data reported by the business department, sister Lin found that there was something wrong with the data reported by one department. She immediately called the person and said, "are you a pig brain? You can make mistakes in such a simple arithmetic problem. Did you finish primary school?" So many. Sister Lin enjoys the process of belittling others. It seems that the lower she steps on others, the more she can show her strength. As everyone knows, most colleagues in the office don't like her, just as they are watching jokes. Shakespeare once said, "a fool thinks he is wise, but a wise man knows himself." Many people think they can see everything and be superior to others. In fact, they are just deceiving themselves and others. Incompetent people think they are omnipotent, and really powerful people don't show their talents. Because there is no self-knowledge, they think that what they can do is the end of the world. three Self knowledge, in fact, is to recognize yourself and understand where you are. If a person cannot understand his position, he may always overestimate his importance in other people's lives, either attached to or superior to others. People with self-knowledge have a clear understanding of the boundaries of interpersonal relationships, know how to respect each other, and never bother others easily; People with self-knowledge will also have a clear positioning of their own ability, understand self reflection, and will not belittle others at will. "Ignorance" is human nature. If you understand your "ignorance", there is still room for maneuver. For a person who lacks self-knowledge, you can never wake him up, just as you can never wake up a sleeper. Chai Jing once wrote in her book: "People" are often ignored intentionally or unintentionally, obscured by ignorance and prejudice, conceptualized and patterned. These thoughts are buried under the unconscious. The unconscious is so deep that it often can't see others and turn a blind eye to itself. As everyone knows, when you see no one else but the benefits brought to you by others, this kind of social relationship is simply difficult to maintain. Similarly, it's just a kind of self deception that you can't recognize yourself but blindly want to be recognized by others. After all, everyone has his own life, and no one is born to be a foil in other people's lives. You know, only children think they are the center of the universe. Recognizing oneself and seeing others is the basic cultivation of adults.