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There are relationships where, when two people come together, it’s not just two bodies or two stories brushing against each other.
In the space between them, something new appears—something neither of them possessed alone.
It’s as if the universe, for a moment, whispers: “Look what we can create when you truly see each other.”
We call that synergy.
And it feels mathematically like this: 1 + 1 = 3… or perhaps infinity. But there are others too.
The ones that don’t add—they subtract.
The ones that leave you smaller than you were before you stepped in.
Where the air grows heavy, energy leaks through invisible cracks, and without realizing it, you start walking hunched inside yourself.
There the result isn’t 2.
It’s less than 1.
And it hurts because you feel it: something in both of you is slowly going out. Over the years I’ve learned to tell them apart not with my mind, but with my body:
Do I feel freer or more trapped?
Is there peace, or an unexplained anxiety humming underneath?
Do I expand toward something bigger, or shrink to fit the other?
Synergy smells like peace + freedom + shared purpose. Entropy smells like attachment + control + constant leaking of light.
And here’s the beautiful (and sometimes hardest) part to accept: Even an entropic relationship—one that tears at you—can become the most powerful portal of your life... If you choose to see it as a merciless yet loving mirror.
Chaos isn’t always something to run from.
Sometimes chaos is the fire that melts the old so something new can be born inside you.And then Jacobo Grinberg steps in with his scientist-mystic gaze and tells us:
“What happens between you isn’t just psychological. It’s physical. It’s neuronal. It’s an entanglement of fields.”
He called syntergy (or sintergia) that beautiful coherence a brain can reach when it’s at peace with itself. A brain with high syntergy is like a still lake reflecting the entire sky. One with low syntergy is a stirred swamp: fragments, noise, dispersion. And he found ways to raise that coherence:
Sitting to watch your thoughts without fighting them (auto-referential meditation).
Letting your heart beat in a soft, orderly rhythm (cardiac coherence).
Losing yourself in something you love until time disappears (that blessed state of flow).
But what shakes me most about his theory is this: The reality you see isn’t “out there” waiting for you to discover it. It’s a co-creation between your neuronal field and that invisible matrix he called the Lattice.
Change your syntergy → and the reality you inhabit rewrites itself. So… what happens when two people truly connect? You’re not just meeting “someone.” You’re intertwining your neuronal field with another soul’s. And from that dance emerges a shared reality that can be:
a garden where both of you bloom, or
a field of destructive interference where both wear each other down.
The great news (and the great responsibility): you don’t need to change the other person. You just need to return to your center, raise your own coherence… and from there, like a perfectly tuned tuning fork, invite the shared field to resonate at a higher frequency.
And here’s the part that’s taken me the longest to accept (maybe for you too): you can’t hold many deep connections at the same time without paying a huge price in syntergy. A truly synergic bond asks for full presence, density, quality time.
It’s like playing a very deep string: it won’t sing if you strum it frantically alongside twenty others.
It needs space, silence around it, sustained attention.When we scatter our attention in too many directions, the field becomes thin.
The resonance turns shallow.
And we end up with lots of “contacts”… but almost no real portals.It’s not that having many friends or connections is “bad.”
It’s that there’s an enormous difference between
holding a wide network of low syntergy (beautiful noise, but noise nonetheless),
and
choosing a few bonds where 1 + 1 = ∞.
Choosing depth isn’t closing your heart. It’s opening it selectively, with reverence, toward those who can truly enter the dance without stepping on the rhythm.And when you hear that quiet inner voice saying “I can’t take any more,” don’t judge it as selfishness or fear. Listen to it with tenderness.
Maybe it’s your soul reminding you: “I want portals, not noise. I want sacred intensity, not exhausted omnipresence.”Because in the end, every deep bond you choose to hold is also an act of love toward yourself…
and a silent way of telling the universe: “Here I am, ready to co-create something immense… but only with those who vibrate on the same note.”
There are relationships where, when two people come together, it’s not just two bodies or two stories brushing against each other.
In the space between them, something new appears—something neither of them possessed alone.
It’s as if the universe, for a moment, whispers: “Look what we can create when you truly see each other.”
We call that synergy.
And it feels mathematically like this: 1 + 1 = 3… or perhaps infinity. But there are others too.
The ones that don’t add—they subtract.
The ones that leave you smaller than you were before you stepped in.
Where the air grows heavy, energy leaks through invisible cracks, and without realizing it, you start walking hunched inside yourself.
There the result isn’t 2.
It’s less than 1.
And it hurts because you feel it: something in both of you is slowly going out. Over the years I’ve learned to tell them apart not with my mind, but with my body:
Do I feel freer or more trapped?
Is there peace, or an unexplained anxiety humming underneath?
Do I expand toward something bigger, or shrink to fit the other?
Synergy smells like peace + freedom + shared purpose. Entropy smells like attachment + control + constant leaking of light.
And here’s the beautiful (and sometimes hardest) part to accept: Even an entropic relationship—one that tears at you—can become the most powerful portal of your life... If you choose to see it as a merciless yet loving mirror.
Chaos isn’t always something to run from.
Sometimes chaos is the fire that melts the old so something new can be born inside you.And then Jacobo Grinberg steps in with his scientist-mystic gaze and tells us:
“What happens between you isn’t just psychological. It’s physical. It’s neuronal. It’s an entanglement of fields.”
He called syntergy (or sintergia) that beautiful coherence a brain can reach when it’s at peace with itself. A brain with high syntergy is like a still lake reflecting the entire sky. One with low syntergy is a stirred swamp: fragments, noise, dispersion. And he found ways to raise that coherence:
Sitting to watch your thoughts without fighting them (auto-referential meditation).
Letting your heart beat in a soft, orderly rhythm (cardiac coherence).
Losing yourself in something you love until time disappears (that blessed state of flow).
But what shakes me most about his theory is this: The reality you see isn’t “out there” waiting for you to discover it. It’s a co-creation between your neuronal field and that invisible matrix he called the Lattice.
Change your syntergy → and the reality you inhabit rewrites itself. So… what happens when two people truly connect? You’re not just meeting “someone.” You’re intertwining your neuronal field with another soul’s. And from that dance emerges a shared reality that can be:
a garden where both of you bloom, or
a field of destructive interference where both wear each other down.
The great news (and the great responsibility): you don’t need to change the other person. You just need to return to your center, raise your own coherence… and from there, like a perfectly tuned tuning fork, invite the shared field to resonate at a higher frequency.
And here’s the part that’s taken me the longest to accept (maybe for you too): you can’t hold many deep connections at the same time without paying a huge price in syntergy. A truly synergic bond asks for full presence, density, quality time.
It’s like playing a very deep string: it won’t sing if you strum it frantically alongside twenty others.
It needs space, silence around it, sustained attention.When we scatter our attention in too many directions, the field becomes thin.
The resonance turns shallow.
And we end up with lots of “contacts”… but almost no real portals.It’s not that having many friends or connections is “bad.”
It’s that there’s an enormous difference between
holding a wide network of low syntergy (beautiful noise, but noise nonetheless),
and
choosing a few bonds where 1 + 1 = ∞.
Choosing depth isn’t closing your heart. It’s opening it selectively, with reverence, toward those who can truly enter the dance without stepping on the rhythm.And when you hear that quiet inner voice saying “I can’t take any more,” don’t judge it as selfishness or fear. Listen to it with tenderness.
Maybe it’s your soul reminding you: “I want portals, not noise. I want sacred intensity, not exhausted omnipresence.”Because in the end, every deep bond you choose to hold is also an act of love toward yourself…
and a silent way of telling the universe: “Here I am, ready to co-create something immense… but only with those who vibrate on the same note.”
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