People all over the world are loving themselves more and more. Search "how to love yourself" on the Internet, and you will get more than 200,000 search results. The solutions provided include "accept everything about yourself", "just be yourself", "even if you don't do anything today, you have to endure it again." One day's self-clapping", etc. Everyone has been told the importance of self - you don't have to force a smile to socialize with people you don't like, you don't have to give up your choice because of other people's opinions, other people's eyes and opinions are all in count, your own life is up to you ,and many more. All kinds of social media seem to be too rich in the sea, as long as we want, it is easy to find people who agree with us - whether it is to send a refined selfie, or to publish a very self-declaration, it is not difficult to find in this film. Echoes are heard in the wide sea. "Believe yourself the best no matter what" is so deeply rooted in people's minds that in this age where everyone advocates and practices "loving yourself", our lives seem to be so much simpler - starting with self-study , ends with self-actualization, where nothing else matters but the ego. But the question is, are we really happier because of it?

Don't cross the border of narcissism I don't - at least when I'm pissed at the supermarket for the delays in the long lines, when my carefully prepared speeches have to be cut down because of the delays of the previous speakers At that time, when the lost delivery boy finally delivered the spilled soup to me after half an hour overtime. If I hadn't loved myself that much, I'd probably just sighed in self-confidence. But when I've decided "I'm important," "I'm special," and "I deserve service that makes me happy," all normal wear and tear in relationships is taken offense by me. A person who always feels offended and let down cannot be happy no matter what. Accepting oneself and seeing oneself is important, but if a person only cares about accepting oneself, he will forget to accept the friction, pain and trouble that should be in life, and blame these discomforts on being bullied by life, and then question the world. Why don't you make yourself feel better, but forget that it never promises that anyone will be happy. The line between "loving yourself" and "narcissism" is so blurry that we often find ourselves on that side when we first realize the problem - see me, like me, give me special treatment , listen to my opinion carefully and implement it immediately; I can't ignore me, can't deny me, not even objective criticism; I deserve the best, I only listen to my inner voice, and everything else is not important. These are not true love of oneself, but a foolish robbery.

The desire for power, superiority, vanity, ego, and self-expression, are the ideas of the American psychologist Jane M. Teng and W. The five "tentacles" of narcissism outlined by Keith Campbell in "The Age of Narcissism", once the boundaries of narcissism are crossed, happiness becomes unusually difficult. It's cool to have the self as the measure of all things, but it also means that to gain this freedom, you have to carry the weight of all things.