A young girl asked me, "Mr. Ye, have you ever encountered such a situation where you are willing to go out to socialize, but suffer from the fact that your social circle is too small, what should you do?" To be honest, 30 years ago, I listened to it every day. People talk about "small circles": of course, students have small circles and are trapped on campus every day; office workers can only see colleagues most of the time every day; stay-at-home mothers' circles are so small that almost only families...even some industries that are called "big circles" , such as reporters, flight attendants, etc., are not as widely social as rumored. I was always puzzled by this, until I went to work in a newspaper office, only to find that in the same position, reporters are different from reporters. A who likes to socialize can get a lot of contact information by doing an interview; he likes a certain band, and would rather pay for tickets to attract audiences for the band; a certain industry celebrity came to the newspaper, and he immediately went to make friends. B, who is very clean, always sits in the same position, and the interview is just an interview, completed step by step; he gets along well with people in the unit, but it is only limited to those who work with people, and he will definitely not chat with people. A and B are in the same newspaper, doing the same job, and their development is very different. When the paper media industry was about to go downhill, A started to start a business, and he knew the investors and partners when he was a reporter; B, after the newspaper closed down, submitted his resume and looked for a job online, and asked him why he didn’t ask his peers to help him. When he pushed himself inside, he replied, "The circle is small, and I don't know people." B didn't lie, no matter what job he did, if he only dealt with fixed people every day, how could the circle get bigger?

B, who is very clean, always sits in the same position, and the interview is just an interview, completed step by step; he gets along well with people in the unit, but it is only limited to those who work with people, and he will definitely not chat with people. A and B are in the same newspaper, doing the same job, and their development is very different. When the paper media industry was about to go downhill, A started to start a business, and he knew the investors and partners when he was a reporter; B, after the newspaper closed down, submitted his resume and looked for a job online, and asked him why he didn’t ask his peers to help him. When he pushed himself inside, he replied, "The circle is small, and I don't know people." B didn't lie, no matter what job he did, if he only dealt with fixed people every day, how could the circle get bigger? Similarly, if you only know classmates, colleagues, and relatives in your life, and you don’t talk to your neighbors, and you’re not willing to contact netizens, how can you have a big circle? Young people, many times you may think that there will be a "circle": a grand playground, all the facilities are arranged properly, you just need to find the door, buy a ticket, and line up to enter. Unfortunately, it is not. Everyone's circle is actually a "solar system with itself as the sun", which is built around one's own abilities, personality, and connections. Don't take the current example. If you were born decades earlier and wanted to study literature, someone brought you to know a famous writer, but you didn't know anything about it, can you have a common language with him? Can you establish an effective connection with him? Even if you publish a book later and ask him to write the preface, does he care about you?

Therefore, the circle is to be created by oneself. At work, do more things, participate more in industry exchanges, get to know more people in the upstream and downstream of the industry, and help people more - only if you help others, people can help you. In this way, sooner or later a circle will be established. If you feel that "there is no real friend in the workplace" every day, and you are on guard against everyone, it is impossible to build a circle. To fall in love and make friends, you must have a circle of life; to play badminton, you must find a circle of golfers; to hike outdoors, you must enter the outdoor circle; to watch musicals, you must enter the circle of musical lovers. Not kidding me at all, I have a female friend who only got married in her 30s. When her uncle was playing football, he told his golf mates that he had a 30-year-old niece; another said that he had a 30-year-old nephew. , just a little further away, serving in Tibet. They got to know each other, got married, and had two children. The man has also changed his career and returned, and he is very happy. This is the circle of ordinary people: oneself is linked to others, others are linked to others, interlocking, extending, forming a big circle. The circle is bigger, and naturally everything is there.

A young girl asked me, "Mr. Ye, have you ever encountered such a situation where you are willing to go out to socialize, but suffer from the fact that your social circle is too small, what should you do?" To be honest, 30 years ago, I listened to it every day. People talk about "small circles": of course, students have small circles and are trapped on campus every day; office workers can only see colleagues most of the time every day; stay-at-home mothers' circles are so small that almost only families...even some industries that are called "big circles" , such as reporters, flight attendants, etc., are not as widely social as rumored. I was always puzzled by this, until I went to work in a newspaper office, only to find that in the same position, reporters are different from reporters. A who likes to socialize can get a lot of contact information by doing an interview; he likes a certain band, and would rather pay for tickets to attract audiences for the band; a certain industry celebrity came to the newspaper, and he immediately went to make friends. B, who is very clean, always sits in the same position, and the interview is just an interview, completed step by step; he gets along well with people in the unit, but it is only limited to those who work with people, and he will definitely not chat with people. A and B are in the same newspaper, doing the same job, and their development is very different. When the paper media industry was about to go downhill, A started to start a business, and he knew the investors and partners when he was a reporter; B, after the newspaper closed down, submitted his resume and looked for a job online, and asked him why he didn’t ask his peers to help him. When he pushed himself inside, he replied, "The circle is small, and I don't know people." B didn't lie, no matter what job he did, if he only dealt with fixed people every day, how could the circle get bigger?

B, who is very clean, always sits in the same position, and the interview is just an interview, completed step by step; he gets along well with people in the unit, but it is only limited to those who work with people, and he will definitely not chat with people. A and B are in the same newspaper, doing the same job, and their development is very different. When the paper media industry was about to go downhill, A started to start a business, and he knew the investors and partners when he was a reporter; B, after the newspaper closed down, submitted his resume and looked for a job online, and asked him why he didn’t ask his peers to help him. When he pushed himself inside, he replied, "The circle is small, and I don't know people." B didn't lie, no matter what job he did, if he only dealt with fixed people every day, how could the circle get bigger? Similarly, if you only know classmates, colleagues, and relatives in your life, and you don’t talk to your neighbors, and you’re not willing to contact netizens, how can you have a big circle? Young people, many times you may think that there will be a "circle": a grand playground, all the facilities are arranged properly, you just need to find the door, buy a ticket, and line up to enter. Unfortunately, it is not. Everyone's circle is actually a "solar system with itself as the sun", which is built around one's own abilities, personality, and connections. Don't take the current example. If you were born decades earlier and wanted to study literature, someone brought you to know a famous writer, but you didn't know anything about it, can you have a common language with him? Can you establish an effective connection with him? Even if you publish a book later and ask him to write the preface, does he care about you?

Therefore, the circle is to be created by oneself. At work, do more things, participate more in industry exchanges, get to know more people in the upstream and downstream of the industry, and help people more - only if you help others, people can help you. In this way, sooner or later a circle will be established. If you feel that "there is no real friend in the workplace" every day, and you are on guard against everyone, it is impossible to build a circle. To fall in love and make friends, you must have a circle of life; to play badminton, you must find a circle of golfers; to hike outdoors, you must enter the outdoor circle; to watch musicals, you must enter the circle of musical lovers. Not kidding me at all, I have a female friend who only got married in her 30s. When her uncle was playing football, he told his golf mates that he had a 30-year-old niece; another said that he had a 30-year-old nephew. , just a little further away, serving in Tibet. They got to know each other, got married, and had two children. The man has also changed his career and returned, and he is very happy. This is the circle of ordinary people: oneself is linked to others, others are linked to others, interlocking, extending, forming a big circle. The circle is bigger, and naturally everything is there.