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The world is noisy. If I got a penny for every time I heard “I QUIT MY 9-5 BY SELLING THIS PRODUCT!” on a YouTube ad, we’d all make enough to quit a 9-5. You have pressure from your parents, the media, and yet ANOTHER friend on Facebook who just got engaged to the love of their life. But how do you know what you’re supposed to do?
I quit my 9-5 last year. I’m not sure if it was for the right reasons but along the way, I’ve developed an internal compass which helps my decision-making. For the first time in my life, I began correctly distinguishing between what I’ve been conditioned to do Vs what my intuition is telling me to do. Perhaps I reached this stage later than most because third culture kids have contesting expectations, so there’s more mess to work through before reaching our inner voice.
For me, following my intuition feels like leaving no space for doubts. I don’t think it’s natural for us to question the same thing every day, “is this the right job for me?”, “Should I be in this relationship?” if you’re asking yourself the same question for 6 weeks, consider tapping out. So much could change in 6 weeks (a whole summer holiday!!!!!), and if none of those changes silences your doubts, then move on.
There are so many reasons why we avoid change, sometimes it’s hard to face the truth because you’re embarrassed to have gone this far to not make something work, other times it’s because uncertainty feels uncomfortable. But beyond that, we really have to believe that we deserve pure goodness in order to trust our intuition. After all, you wouldn’t leave a partner who puts you down if you think you’re hard to love.
Over time, avoidance causes heaps of issues: you get covered under more layers of doubt, resentment piles up, you hate waking up to work, you’re jealous of people who are doing well, and you’re no longer a version of yourself that you’re proud of.
Not listening to my intuition lead to my rock bottom in February this year. You can read about that here. After beginning to make decisions based on my gut, I found myself skating in Venice Beach with some incredibly cool people- music was blasting and bubbles were flying. Everything felt saturated and vivid, I was writing myself into the life I wanted to be in and it felt like a movie. Following the same voice that had led me there, over time, I no longer cared about the judgement of other people because I was only measuring myself against a better version of myself. I had a chat with my best friend about this where she shared the same sentiment, “when you’re doing what you want to do and being who you want to be, you can’t get anxious”. It gets easier and easier.
The world is noisy. If I got a penny for every time I heard “I QUIT MY 9-5 BY SELLING THIS PRODUCT!” on a YouTube ad, we’d all make enough to quit a 9-5. You have pressure from your parents, the media, and yet ANOTHER friend on Facebook who just got engaged to the love of their life. But how do you know what you’re supposed to do?
I quit my 9-5 last year. I’m not sure if it was for the right reasons but along the way, I’ve developed an internal compass which helps my decision-making. For the first time in my life, I began correctly distinguishing between what I’ve been conditioned to do Vs what my intuition is telling me to do. Perhaps I reached this stage later than most because third culture kids have contesting expectations, so there’s more mess to work through before reaching our inner voice.
For me, following my intuition feels like leaving no space for doubts. I don’t think it’s natural for us to question the same thing every day, “is this the right job for me?”, “Should I be in this relationship?” if you’re asking yourself the same question for 6 weeks, consider tapping out. So much could change in 6 weeks (a whole summer holiday!!!!!), and if none of those changes silences your doubts, then move on.
There are so many reasons why we avoid change, sometimes it’s hard to face the truth because you’re embarrassed to have gone this far to not make something work, other times it’s because uncertainty feels uncomfortable. But beyond that, we really have to believe that we deserve pure goodness in order to trust our intuition. After all, you wouldn’t leave a partner who puts you down if you think you’re hard to love.
Over time, avoidance causes heaps of issues: you get covered under more layers of doubt, resentment piles up, you hate waking up to work, you’re jealous of people who are doing well, and you’re no longer a version of yourself that you’re proud of.
Not listening to my intuition lead to my rock bottom in February this year. You can read about that here. After beginning to make decisions based on my gut, I found myself skating in Venice Beach with some incredibly cool people- music was blasting and bubbles were flying. Everything felt saturated and vivid, I was writing myself into the life I wanted to be in and it felt like a movie. Following the same voice that had led me there, over time, I no longer cared about the judgement of other people because I was only measuring myself against a better version of myself. I had a chat with my best friend about this where she shared the same sentiment, “when you’re doing what you want to do and being who you want to be, you can’t get anxious”. It gets easier and easier.
The first thing I do to access my intuitions is practice self-honesty through journaling. When I first began doing this it was alarmingly scary to write down the truth on paper, even though I was my only audience. This is a huge red flag that says I’d been suppressing my intuition.
Secondly, spending time in nature. When my brain is occupied by the way the waves move, I no longer have space for self-criticism/self-doubt. At this point, instead of thinking “why did I say that thing to that person at the party yesterday?”, my gut will feel things, such as uneasiness when I think about that person, which tells me that we’re incompatible. The quieter my thoughts are, the louder and more defined my feelings are.
Thirdly, I think that to listen to your intuition you also need to believe that there’s always a better version of yourself. This doesn’t mean a richer version or a version that runs faster ect, it just means a version where you feel like you’re in the right story. When you’re aligned with your better self, your intuitions can guide you towards it.
I don’t believe humans are supposed to do things that we don’t like to do (other than basic duties eg laundry and being a considerate person). If everyone did what they wanted to do we’d still fit all the roles that exist, data analysts who always wanted to be a carpenter would do it, same vice versa. I think we’d all be happier if we made the difficult changes we’re avoiding.
The first thing I do to access my intuitions is practice self-honesty through journaling. When I first began doing this it was alarmingly scary to write down the truth on paper, even though I was my only audience. This is a huge red flag that says I’d been suppressing my intuition.
Secondly, spending time in nature. When my brain is occupied by the way the waves move, I no longer have space for self-criticism/self-doubt. At this point, instead of thinking “why did I say that thing to that person at the party yesterday?”, my gut will feel things, such as uneasiness when I think about that person, which tells me that we’re incompatible. The quieter my thoughts are, the louder and more defined my feelings are.
Thirdly, I think that to listen to your intuition you also need to believe that there’s always a better version of yourself. This doesn’t mean a richer version or a version that runs faster ect, it just means a version where you feel like you’re in the right story. When you’re aligned with your better self, your intuitions can guide you towards it.
I don’t believe humans are supposed to do things that we don’t like to do (other than basic duties eg laundry and being a considerate person). If everyone did what they wanted to do we’d still fit all the roles that exist, data analysts who always wanted to be a carpenter would do it, same vice versa. I think we’d all be happier if we made the difficult changes we’re avoiding.
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