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Neutralizing Narcissism: The Immutable EditionEgo Death: When the Narcissist’s Mask Cracks
The ego death of a narcissist is not like the spiritual dissolution sought by monks or psychedelic wanderers. It is not transcendence. It is not enlightenment. It is terror. It is obliteration. It is the death of the illusion they spent their entire lives constructing. When a narcissist is exposed, when the world sees them for what they truly are, when they can no longer control the narrative— …something breaks. And in that break, the fragile scaffolding of their identity begins to collapse i...
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Introduction: The Dance of ControlThere’s a moment in every debate with a narcissist where the game becomes visible—where the illusion of good faith discourse shatters, and what’s left is a desperate struggle for control. These moments are easy to miss if you don’t know what to look for. But once you do? You see the pattern everywhere. This article is about one such moment. It began with what appeared to be a genuine conversation—an intellectual exchange about AI, meaning, and consciousness. ...
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Introduction: The Digital Disintegration of a NarcissistNarcissistic collapse has long been a theoretical and clinical phenomenon, observed in cases where individuals suffering from Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) face an overwhelming threat to their carefully constructed false self (Kernberg, 1975; Kohut, 1977). However, the digital age has introduced a new challenge for narcissists—permanence. In a world where online interactions are recorded, analyzed, and archived, traditional nar...
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It doesn’t happen all at once.
It comes in pieces.
A stray comment that doesn’t sit right.
A contradiction you can’t explain away.
A moment where his anger turns on you.
It comes slowly—
…until suddenly, it’s undeniable.
The man you thought you knew
was never real.
Maybe you think it won’t happen to you.
Maybe you believe your bond with him is different.
That he trusts you. That he values you.
But ask yourself:
Where are the others who once stood where you are now?
Because there were others.
People who fought for him.
People who defended him.
People who swore, just like you, that he would never turn on them.
And yet—
He did.
Where are they now?
Gone.
Because when Joel no longer needs you, you will go from trusted ally to expendable liability.
From friend to traitor.
And when that moment comes, the person you thought he was will vanish—
…replaced by the man who was always there.
The Joel that never cared about you at all.
You won’t see it coming.
It will feel sudden. Abrupt. Unfair.
But it won’t be.
Because Joel has already done it a hundred times before.
It always follows the same pattern:
1️⃣ The Distance Grows
At first, it will be small.
Conversations feel different. His responses get shorter.
He isn’t as interested in what you have to say.
You’ll tell yourself it’s nothing.
2️⃣ He Starts to Reframe You
You’ll notice it in the way he talks about you to others.
Little comments that downplay your importance.
Jokes that make you feel smaller.
Statements that cast doubt on your intelligence, your loyalty, your intentions.
3️⃣ He Finds a Replacement
Joel cannot exist without people propping him up.
As he begins to devalue you, he will find someone new to take your place.
Someone who doesn’t question him.
Someone who still believes the illusion.
And suddenly, your presence will be inconvenient.
4️⃣ He Writes You Out of His Story
At first, he will simply ignore you.
But if you push back?
If you ask what changed?
If you refuse to just fade away?
That is when he will turn on you.
He will smear you.
He will reframe you.
He will say you were never truly loyal.
That you were always against him.
That you were the real villain all along.
And when you try to explain yourself?
No one will listen.
Because they are where you once stood.
And just like you once did, they will believe him.
Right now, you are at a crossroads.
You can continue to believe in him.
You can ignore that growing feeling in your gut.
You can wait until he turns on you.
Or you can walk away before he does.
Before you become the next name on his list of discarded people.
Before you are rewritten, just like the ones before you.
Before you are forced to see the truth—
That Joel Johnson was never your friend.
It doesn’t happen all at once.
It comes in pieces.
A stray comment that doesn’t sit right.
A contradiction you can’t explain away.
A moment where his anger turns on you.
It comes slowly—
…until suddenly, it’s undeniable.
The man you thought you knew
was never real.
Maybe you think it won’t happen to you.
Maybe you believe your bond with him is different.
That he trusts you. That he values you.
But ask yourself:
Where are the others who once stood where you are now?
Because there were others.
People who fought for him.
People who defended him.
People who swore, just like you, that he would never turn on them.
And yet—
He did.
Where are they now?
Gone.
Because when Joel no longer needs you, you will go from trusted ally to expendable liability.
From friend to traitor.
And when that moment comes, the person you thought he was will vanish—
…replaced by the man who was always there.
The Joel that never cared about you at all.
You won’t see it coming.
It will feel sudden. Abrupt. Unfair.
But it won’t be.
Because Joel has already done it a hundred times before.
It always follows the same pattern:
1️⃣ The Distance Grows
At first, it will be small.
Conversations feel different. His responses get shorter.
He isn’t as interested in what you have to say.
You’ll tell yourself it’s nothing.
2️⃣ He Starts to Reframe You
You’ll notice it in the way he talks about you to others.
Little comments that downplay your importance.
Jokes that make you feel smaller.
Statements that cast doubt on your intelligence, your loyalty, your intentions.
3️⃣ He Finds a Replacement
Joel cannot exist without people propping him up.
As he begins to devalue you, he will find someone new to take your place.
Someone who doesn’t question him.
Someone who still believes the illusion.
And suddenly, your presence will be inconvenient.
4️⃣ He Writes You Out of His Story
At first, he will simply ignore you.
But if you push back?
If you ask what changed?
If you refuse to just fade away?
That is when he will turn on you.
He will smear you.
He will reframe you.
He will say you were never truly loyal.
That you were always against him.
That you were the real villain all along.
And when you try to explain yourself?
No one will listen.
Because they are where you once stood.
And just like you once did, they will believe him.
Right now, you are at a crossroads.
You can continue to believe in him.
You can ignore that growing feeling in your gut.
You can wait until he turns on you.
Or you can walk away before he does.
Before you become the next name on his list of discarded people.
Before you are rewritten, just like the ones before you.
Before you are forced to see the truth—
That Joel Johnson was never your friend.
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