Anxiety must be an old friend of yours. It always accompanies you like background music. We know it so well that we never know who it really is. After many years of suffering in silence, I finally got up my strength and looked it in the eye. Since then, it has moved away from me little by little. Although occasionally it pounced, it could not come near me any more. Today, I give you this cognitive weapon, and may you never suffer from anxiety again in your life. Before turning 36, my "first year of awakening," I had lived in a muddled state. As mentioned above, while I was very committed to my job, my spare time was mostly mindless. After all, the security of human beings, whether as individuals or as a group, comes from a unique advantage in one area: ability, wealth, power or influence. However, after a busy time, I found that I had no way to start, nor did I see any changes and turnaround. The feeling of seeking for unique advantages was just like that of a child facing his favorite toy but unable to have it. Especially every time I receive a book at that moment, I always have a kind of illusion as if I already have these knowledge, but only later found that the "hard" of reading books and the "comfortable" of buying books is a million miles away. In order to relieve my anxiety, I began to unconsciously strive for more and faster, only to fall back into a low level of diligence focused only on the amount of reading -- reading every book quickly, only to find that I remembered nothing when I looked back. When you look up, the gap between you and some of your peers is already far away. Even some people who are younger than you have achieved great things, but you have to start from scratch. This situation made me irritable and anxious, and my mood was once low. During that time, I always echoed a word in my heart: It's too late, it's too late, everything is too late... I was like a drowning man, enveloped in anxiety, as if I were slowly sinking to the bottom of the river. Watching the waves on the river gradually disappear, I finally thought of one thing at a time of despair: doing is better than not doing! Wang Deshun walked on the catwalk at 79, and Chu Shijian started growing oranges at 74.

These are real examples, but I am still in my 30s and have a long life ahead of me. It is not too late to start. So I shouldn't compare myself to people who are so successful. If anything, I should compare myself to where they were when they started. In fact, I should be more than their own past, even a little better, is worth it! Probably hit the bottom of the rebound, the anxiety slowly disappeared, then I realized that I have always been passive in the face of anxiety, the initiative is never in their own hands. I don't know when it will show up, and I don't know how to ask it to go. In order not to have this kind of emotional ups and downs in the future, I must face it and solve this problem once and for all. One afternoon, I took out a pen and paper and made a list of all my worries, worries, concerns and desires, from my life vision to what I had to do in 10 minutes. Slowly, I sketched out several forms of anxiety. First, the anxiety of completion. You overschedule yourself and live against deadlines, like trying to learn a lot at the same time but not having enough time; Every day to routine to complete too many things, delay one day will feel out of breath; Make random commitments, get your schedule thrown off by unimportant things... In short, as long as the internal desires are too broad or the external schedule is too tight, it is difficult for me to be deep and calm. Second, positioning anxiety. It would have been impossible to look directly at what people in the field are doing at the zero-based stage without worrying: so much influence at such a young age! They've got a head start. Why should I? I thought I was the only one who could come up with this brilliant idea, but they actually made the product... Mispositioning makes it seem like it's too late. In fact, it's a misalignment. Third, choose anxiety. Sometimes too many choices can make people anxious. For example, when they suddenly have some free time, but they want to do too many things, they end up wasting their time in wavering, unable to calm down to do the most important thing, or don't know what the most important thing is. In addition, many talented people's opinions are also confusing. For example, A said that reading should be perfect, while B said that reading should be done according to the topic. It seems that both of them are right, but their practices are completely opposite. People like uniqueness and certainty. Faced with diversity and uncertainty, it is difficult to rely on natural habits to cope. Fourth, environmental anxiety. Sometimes we have to face some external constraints, such as family and work, some things we want to do but can't do, and some things we don't want to do but have to spend a lot of time doing. This inefficiency or inability can be maddening at times. Fifth, difficulty anxiety. Some books are just hard to read, some articles are just hard to write, some knowledge is just hard to understand, some skills are just hard to learn... Really can make you stronger, its core difficulty is unable to avoid, do not make up your mind to knock it to death, always around, the longer the time the more anxious.

Anxiety must be an old friend of yours. It always accompanies you like background music. We know it so well that we never know who it really is. After many years of suffering in silence, I finally got up my strength and looked it in the eye. Since then, it has moved away from me little by little. Although occasionally it pounced, it could not come near me any more. Today, I give you this cognitive weapon, and may you never suffer from anxiety again in your life. Before turning 36, my "first year of awakening," I had lived in a muddled state. As mentioned above, while I was very committed to my job, my spare time was mostly mindless. After all, the security of human beings, whether as individuals or as a group, comes from a unique advantage in one area: ability, wealth, power or influence. However, after a busy time, I found that I had no way to start, nor did I see any changes and turnaround. The feeling of seeking for unique advantages was just like that of a child facing his favorite toy but unable to have it. Especially every time I receive a book at that moment, I always have a kind of illusion as if I already have these knowledge, but only later found that the "hard" of reading books and the "comfortable" of buying books is a million miles away. In order to relieve my anxiety, I began to unconsciously strive for more and faster, only to fall back into a low level of diligence focused only on the amount of reading -- reading every book quickly, only to find that I remembered nothing when I looked back. When you look up, the gap between you and some of your peers is already far away. Even some people who are younger than you have achieved great things, but you have to start from scratch. This situation made me irritable and anxious, and my mood was once low. During that time, I always echoed a word in my heart: It's too late, it's too late, everything is too late... I was like a drowning man, enveloped in anxiety, as if I were slowly sinking to the bottom of the river. Watching the waves on the river gradually disappear, I finally thought of one thing at a time of despair: doing is better than not doing! Wang Deshun walked on the catwalk at 79, and Chu Shijian started growing oranges at 74.

These are real examples, but I am still in my 30s and have a long life ahead of me. It is not too late to start. So I shouldn't compare myself to people who are so successful. If anything, I should compare myself to where they were when they started. In fact, I should be more than their own past, even a little better, is worth it! Probably hit the bottom of the rebound, the anxiety slowly disappeared, then I realized that I have always been passive in the face of anxiety, the initiative is never in their own hands. I don't know when it will show up, and I don't know how to ask it to go. In order not to have this kind of emotional ups and downs in the future, I must face it and solve this problem once and for all. One afternoon, I took out a pen and paper and made a list of all my worries, worries, concerns and desires, from my life vision to what I had to do in 10 minutes. Slowly, I sketched out several forms of anxiety. First, the anxiety of completion. You overschedule yourself and live against deadlines, like trying to learn a lot at the same time but not having enough time; Every day to routine to complete too many things, delay one day will feel out of breath; Make random commitments, get your schedule thrown off by unimportant things... In short, as long as the internal desires are too broad or the external schedule is too tight, it is difficult for me to be deep and calm. Second, positioning anxiety. It would have been impossible to look directly at what people in the field are doing at the zero-based stage without worrying: so much influence at such a young age! They've got a head start. Why should I? I thought I was the only one who could come up with this brilliant idea, but they actually made the product... Mispositioning makes it seem like it's too late. In fact, it's a misalignment. Third, choose anxiety. Sometimes too many choices can make people anxious. For example, when they suddenly have some free time, but they want to do too many things, they end up wasting their time in wavering, unable to calm down to do the most important thing, or don't know what the most important thing is. In addition, many talented people's opinions are also confusing. For example, A said that reading should be perfect, while B said that reading should be done according to the topic. It seems that both of them are right, but their practices are completely opposite. People like uniqueness and certainty. Faced with diversity and uncertainty, it is difficult to rely on natural habits to cope. Fourth, environmental anxiety. Sometimes we have to face some external constraints, such as family and work, some things we want to do but can't do, and some things we don't want to do but have to spend a lot of time doing. This inefficiency or inability can be maddening at times. Fifth, difficulty anxiety. Some books are just hard to read, some articles are just hard to write, some knowledge is just hard to understand, some skills are just hard to learn... Really can make you stronger, its core difficulty is unable to avoid, do not make up your mind to knock it to death, always around, the longer the time the more anxious.