I've had some thoughts relating to cultural(?) (colloquialisms theories/practices), like, Assumption of Honor, Modern Millennial Dynamics or (my) Standards of Polite Behavior.

We both want to know that when we ask for cheese on a sandwich, that we get a consistent result every time we order it.

I think the same is true for human behavior in some instances. Things that upset me (disproportionately) are often born of miscommunication and/or achieved by one (or both parties) behaving in accordance with some incorrect assumption.

Okay, so let's review.

Nobody wants to be a fuck up. Take it from me. I have a fucked up some of the coolest things. Some of the coolest things have been fucked up.

Some of the most fucked up things have affected me the least. And some of the least fucked up things have affected me the most.

I was probably around 23 when I realized all that I have mentioned above is true. And it was at that age that I also noticed how other people didn't realize this same thing.

Maybe it is a sense of knowing, a symptom of an old soul. Or maybe, it is more efficient behavior patterning, different varieties of lived experience and relationship types. Greater exposure to different personality types to interact with would add to a person's insights as well.

All this being said means nothing. If you cannot first admit where you fucked up or that you even ever fucked up at all.

You can be super fucking smart. Or you can have melons as perfect as a peach in the shade, but if you cannot admit that you fucked up over the smallest, littlest thing, people will start to give up on you. Because if you can't take an L and correct, you are some fuck shit. But just because you choose not to work on yourself does not make you my problem. I have the look and feel of a person who knows their truth and self pretty mathematically. Statistically.

People like me will sniff you out, smell that special twang of shame. That specialized self loathing that comes from truly knowing you were wrong, no if, ands, or buts about it, has a wreak, a stain, a stain, a smell, a colour.

Get it?

The reason for this abandonment, (when you meet new people have a short and semi intense relationship with them (platonic or romantic), it lives out it's whole life quickly simply because you know each other better now. For some teams, the only time they get along is during the initial discovery phase.

Because they were both fast learners.

I think it's because they recognize in you your own moral weights, limits, boundaries and conviction. From this, the person either consciously or subconsciously decides whether or not the trouble is worth the effort.

Who you are and what you will allow inadvertently betray your motives somehow affecting the way you are treated by those who like to take. If they sense you have no play in you, if you are no fun to torture they will abandon you.

If you showed doubt in your emotional aptitude, your psychological autonomy and command of presence, you're surety is the very thing they are scanning you for.

I have the presence of a person who knows, but that they are not pleased to know nor must they prove to anyone that they know, but they know. It's not worth arguing about if they have decided what they will or will not do, you should trust what they say. You have to trust people to make apt decisions for themselves even if you do not agree with those decisions.

We must all advocate for the right to make these personal choices. In our friendships, and our allies, even when trying to communicate with our enemies, this type of shared perspective, this behavior that allows us to recognize the pattern of a person who will or of a person who won't (be easily swayed).

People struggle with me. They misread me because I allow my body to mis-speak. I want to believe what they're saying, and the hope that they see on my face conveys this. Giving them the informed notion that what they are saying has any weight in my final decision.

If my personality type truly does use in intuitive intuition to judge whether or not person is "safe", "trustworthy" or "ok", then losing hope and allowing biased views to guide me wouldn't give me accurate data, but I do believe there is both causation and correlation here.

Effective communication strategies that have worked (possibly ?) for me would be paying appreciation instead of saying it. Show don't tell, grow don't swell. Ya know?

Compromise and understanding is hard to find consistently. In fact, I'm one of like 3 people who have balls enough to even entertain the idea that they fucked up.

It makes me a target. In relationships, admitting mistakes is crucial for growth and understanding. Recognizing where you've gone wrong allows for genuine connection and improvement. It's not about being perfect, but about being honest with yourself and others.

This vulnerability builds trust and respect. Rapport. Good rapport and consistency in at least one are lead to stronger bonds. Without this admission, miscommunications fester, causing unnecessary conflicts. People who can't own up to their errors often find themselves isolated, as others lose patience with their inability to grow. Embrace your faults, learn from them, and watch your relationships flourish.

• This world is getting weird. In a time where superficial interactions often replace genuine connections, the ability to admit our own mistakes becomes even more crucial.

• Shared values and principles act as anchors in tumultuous times, guiding us towards understanding and cooperation. When we acknowledge our faults, we're not just owning up to personal failures; we're also opening doors to deeper, more meaningful relationships. Doors that desperately need to be opened and further explored.

• This honesty fosters trust, creating a foundation that can withstand misunderstandings and conflicts. So, embrace vulnerability, strive for authenticity, and watch as your relationships transform into resilient bonds built on mutual respect and shared principles.

• Always trust your instincts though. It's probably in your DNA to at least subconsciously pick up on innate patterns of behavior to better enable your predecessors to survive. The recognition of a trigger may be some type of genetically viable predisposition to recognize disappointment, disagreeability or loss of contentment.

• I don't know. I'm just throwing out cards for closure at this point. sometimes, all we have is who we are. To some of us that is our greatest shame. To others, it is their greatest project, their most prized piece of art. Who I am is my most valued possession.

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I've had some thoughts relating to cultural(?) (colloquialisms theories/practices), like, Assumption of Honor, Modern Millennial Dynamics or (my) Standards of Polite Behavior.

We both want to know that when we ask for cheese on a sandwich, that we get a consistent result every time we order it.

I think the same is true for human behavior in some instances. Things that upset me (disproportionately) are often born of miscommunication and/or achieved by one (or both parties) behaving in accordance with some incorrect assumption.

Okay, so let's review.

Nobody wants to be a fuck up. Take it from me. I have a fucked up some of the coolest things. Some of the coolest things have been fucked up.

Some of the most fucked up things have affected me the least. And some of the least fucked up things have affected me the most.

I was probably around 23 when I realized all that I have mentioned above is true. And it was at that age that I also noticed how other people didn't realize this same thing.

Maybe it is a sense of knowing, a symptom of an old soul. Or maybe, it is more efficient behavior patterning, different varieties of lived experience and relationship types. Greater exposure to different personality types to interact with would add to a person's insights as well.

All this being said means nothing. If you cannot first admit where you fucked up or that you even ever fucked up at all.

You can be super fucking smart. Or you can have melons as perfect as a peach in the shade, but if you cannot admit that you fucked up over the smallest, littlest thing, people will start to give up on you. Because if you can't take an L and correct, you are some fuck shit. But just because you choose not to work on yourself does not make you my problem. I have the look and feel of a person who knows their truth and self pretty mathematically. Statistically.

People like me will sniff you out, smell that special twang of shame. That specialized self loathing that comes from truly knowing you were wrong, no if, ands, or buts about it, has a wreak, a stain, a stain, a smell, a colour.

Get it?

The reason for this abandonment, (when you meet new people have a short and semi intense relationship with them (platonic or romantic), it lives out it's whole life quickly simply because you know each other better now. For some teams, the only time they get along is during the initial discovery phase.

Because they were both fast learners.

I think it's because they recognize in you your own moral weights, limits, boundaries and conviction. From this, the person either consciously or subconsciously decides whether or not the trouble is worth the effort.

Who you are and what you will allow inadvertently betray your motives somehow affecting the way you are treated by those who like to take. If they sense you have no play in you, if you are no fun to torture they will abandon you.

If you showed doubt in your emotional aptitude, your psychological autonomy and command of presence, you're surety is the very thing they are scanning you for.

I have the presence of a person who knows, but that they are not pleased to know nor must they prove to anyone that they know, but they know. It's not worth arguing about if they have decided what they will or will not do, you should trust what they say. You have to trust people to make apt decisions for themselves even if you do not agree with those decisions.

We must all advocate for the right to make these personal choices. In our friendships, and our allies, even when trying to communicate with our enemies, this type of shared perspective, this behavior that allows us to recognize the pattern of a person who will or of a person who won't (be easily swayed).

People struggle with me. They misread me because I allow my body to mis-speak. I want to believe what they're saying, and the hope that they see on my face conveys this. Giving them the informed notion that what they are saying has any weight in my final decision.

If my personality type truly does use in intuitive intuition to judge whether or not person is "safe", "trustworthy" or "ok", then losing hope and allowing biased views to guide me wouldn't give me accurate data, but I do believe there is both causation and correlation here.

Effective communication strategies that have worked (possibly ?) for me would be paying appreciation instead of saying it. Show don't tell, grow don't swell. Ya know?

Compromise and understanding is hard to find consistently. In fact, I'm one of like 3 people who have balls enough to even entertain the idea that they fucked up.

It makes me a target. In relationships, admitting mistakes is crucial for growth and understanding. Recognizing where you've gone wrong allows for genuine connection and improvement. It's not about being perfect, but about being honest with yourself and others.

This vulnerability builds trust and respect. Rapport. Good rapport and consistency in at least one are lead to stronger bonds. Without this admission, miscommunications fester, causing unnecessary conflicts. People who can't own up to their errors often find themselves isolated, as others lose patience with their inability to grow. Embrace your faults, learn from them, and watch your relationships flourish.

• This world is getting weird. In a time where superficial interactions often replace genuine connections, the ability to admit our own mistakes becomes even more crucial.

• Shared values and principles act as anchors in tumultuous times, guiding us towards understanding and cooperation. When we acknowledge our faults, we're not just owning up to personal failures; we're also opening doors to deeper, more meaningful relationships. Doors that desperately need to be opened and further explored.

• This honesty fosters trust, creating a foundation that can withstand misunderstandings and conflicts. So, embrace vulnerability, strive for authenticity, and watch as your relationships transform into resilient bonds built on mutual respect and shared principles.

• Always trust your instincts though. It's probably in your DNA to at least subconsciously pick up on innate patterns of behavior to better enable your predecessors to survive. The recognition of a trigger may be some type of genetically viable predisposition to recognize disappointment, disagreeability or loss of contentment.

• I don't know. I'm just throwing out cards for closure at this point. sometimes, all we have is who we are. To some of us that is our greatest shame. To others, it is their greatest project, their most prized piece of art. Who I am is my most valued possession.

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