If we don't think clearly at these points of choice, we fall into a state of vagueness, and vagueness is the domain of the unconscious mind, which leads us to our instinctive response -- amusement. So the basic coping strategy is to look at your first reaction at the point of choice and come up with a clear proposition. For example, if we want to become a good talker, then follow the rule: Think twice before you speak. The words that come out of the mouth are often instinctive. If we could pause for a second or two before the words come out, and examine them with our rational minds, we might immediately change our minds, say something else, or even choose to remain silent. After all, sometimes the best answer is not to answer. Similarly, the moment you wake up in the morning, the moment you pick up your phone, the moment you get home... We all have to face new choices and actively expend our brain power to examine them. It may be more tiring, but this is the perfect time to exercise your metacognitive abilities, as if you were lifting a dumbbell to strengthen your rational brain. To think clearly, it is important not only to examine the first reaction, but also to have a clear and unequivocal opinion. On weekends, for example, our first choice might be to sleep in; After awareness and scrutiny, we may switch to this time for learning. But our choices are vague, because all the things we want to do but don't have time for are piled up together: reading this book, reading that book, writing articles, exercising, etc. Because everything seems to have the same weight, you end up wasting time in indecision. Obviously, this is not a sign of metacognitive ability, because one is again in a state of ambiguity between multiple options. One of the most prominent manifestations of metacognitive ability is zero tolerance for ambiguity. In other words, do everything you can to make yourself find the most important and only option, so that there is only one way to go at a certain time. It's very simple. Since the weights are all the same, you don't lose anything by doing anything. Hesitancy, want to do everything and do nothing well, is the biggest loss. We can recall that when we were weak in action, our minds must have been vague about specific future actions. At this point, the best way to save yourself is to make a list of all the things you want to do, prioritize them, find the most important thing, and clear your mind. Ambiguity needs to be eliminated not only in these small things, but also in the big things like choosing your life's purpose. In real life, we often jump into specific things without thinking about it, with little idea of what's more important, what's most important, and what it means to us in the long run. For example, reading in your eyes may be just scanning the text with your eyes and quickly finishing the book, while in some people's eyes, reading is chatting with high-level people, they give reading such a meaning, internal motivation will be completely different.

If we don't see meaning clearly, we fall into a state of "what others say we want, but we also want", so we want to learn everything and see the results right away. Naturally, we jump into action blindly, only to achieve nothing and become more anxious. Anxious people seldom have the consciousness of "meta-time". They are used to acting directly without thinking, and like to move themselves with saturated actions. There is a big difference between what they want to do and what they want to do. It's easy to be on autopilot, but it leaves us with no idea where we're going or where we're going. It would be sad to be in this state of uncontrollable life all the time. To sum up, there are three ways to become a thinking helmsman. · Be aware of the present moment, examine the first reaction, and make a clear claim; · Stay awake for the whole day's schedule and always know what to do next; · Keep thinking about long-term goals, and think clearly about long-term meaning and intrinsic motivation. Metacognitive people are just that: they strive for meaning, self-examination, and active control over their immediate attention, their daily schedule, and their long-term life goals, rather than just following the flow. If life is a sea, then each of us is a boat. People with strong metacognitive ability will always master the rudder and take the initiative to control the direction of the ship of life, while people with weak metacognitive ability always like to stay on the deck as a busy sailor. As for the ship, it is where it floats... Gorky once said: every time you restrain yourself, you are stronger than before. I didn't really understand that before, but I do now. Because every time you restrain yourself, you're engaging in self-examination and active control, you're engaging in exercise. If the metacognitive ability can be exercised regularly, the self-control of our rational brain will become more and more powerful!

If we don't think clearly at these points of choice, we fall into a state of vagueness, and vagueness is the domain of the unconscious mind, which leads us to our instinctive response -- amusement. So the basic coping strategy is to look at your first reaction at the point of choice and come up with a clear proposition. For example, if we want to become a good talker, then follow the rule: Think twice before you speak. The words that come out of the mouth are often instinctive. If we could pause for a second or two before the words come out, and examine them with our rational minds, we might immediately change our minds, say something else, or even choose to remain silent. After all, sometimes the best answer is not to answer. Similarly, the moment you wake up in the morning, the moment you pick up your phone, the moment you get home... We all have to face new choices and actively expend our brain power to examine them. It may be more tiring, but this is the perfect time to exercise your metacognitive abilities, as if you were lifting a dumbbell to strengthen your rational brain. To think clearly, it is important not only to examine the first reaction, but also to have a clear and unequivocal opinion. On weekends, for example, our first choice might be to sleep in; After awareness and scrutiny, we may switch to this time for learning. But our choices are vague, because all the things we want to do but don't have time for are piled up together: reading this book, reading that book, writing articles, exercising, etc. Because everything seems to have the same weight, you end up wasting time in indecision. Obviously, this is not a sign of metacognitive ability, because one is again in a state of ambiguity between multiple options. One of the most prominent manifestations of metacognitive ability is zero tolerance for ambiguity. In other words, do everything you can to make yourself find the most important and only option, so that there is only one way to go at a certain time. It's very simple. Since the weights are all the same, you don't lose anything by doing anything. Hesitancy, want to do everything and do nothing well, is the biggest loss. We can recall that when we were weak in action, our minds must have been vague about specific future actions. At this point, the best way to save yourself is to make a list of all the things you want to do, prioritize them, find the most important thing, and clear your mind. Ambiguity needs to be eliminated not only in these small things, but also in the big things like choosing your life's purpose. In real life, we often jump into specific things without thinking about it, with little idea of what's more important, what's most important, and what it means to us in the long run. For example, reading in your eyes may be just scanning the text with your eyes and quickly finishing the book, while in some people's eyes, reading is chatting with high-level people, they give reading such a meaning, internal motivation will be completely different.

If we don't see meaning clearly, we fall into a state of "what others say we want, but we also want", so we want to learn everything and see the results right away. Naturally, we jump into action blindly, only to achieve nothing and become more anxious. Anxious people seldom have the consciousness of "meta-time". They are used to acting directly without thinking, and like to move themselves with saturated actions. There is a big difference between what they want to do and what they want to do. It's easy to be on autopilot, but it leaves us with no idea where we're going or where we're going. It would be sad to be in this state of uncontrollable life all the time. To sum up, there are three ways to become a thinking helmsman. · Be aware of the present moment, examine the first reaction, and make a clear claim; · Stay awake for the whole day's schedule and always know what to do next; · Keep thinking about long-term goals, and think clearly about long-term meaning and intrinsic motivation. Metacognitive people are just that: they strive for meaning, self-examination, and active control over their immediate attention, their daily schedule, and their long-term life goals, rather than just following the flow. If life is a sea, then each of us is a boat. People with strong metacognitive ability will always master the rudder and take the initiative to control the direction of the ship of life, while people with weak metacognitive ability always like to stay on the deck as a busy sailor. As for the ship, it is where it floats... Gorky once said: every time you restrain yourself, you are stronger than before. I didn't really understand that before, but I do now. Because every time you restrain yourself, you're engaging in self-examination and active control, you're engaging in exercise. If the metacognitive ability can be exercised regularly, the self-control of our rational brain will become more and more powerful!