Whenever you notice judgmental, judgmental voices in your head (they're always there, but we're not used to paying attention to them), say to yourself, "Stop! It's an old movie from my childhood. It has nothing to do with my current reality." Because it's the truth. The criticism that you picked up as a child continues throughout your life, making you repeat it all over again. You think it's your voice, the result of your observations, but if you pay close attention, you'll recognize that it's actually your dad's voice or your mom's voice, or whoever had an influence on you as a child.

Maybe they didn't say exactly what you're thinking right now, and maybe they didn't say anything like that to you at all, but the way you were treated made you believe the information was true. With this in mind, you can remind yourself lovingly, "Just as I am, that's fine. I am good enough, for I have been invited into this world. Do I need permission from others?" See what happens when you say that. This "stop" technique can help you get out of your past unconscious thoughts and into the present moment. It's a way of getting rid of past information, getting rid of past programs. In this moment, you can really look at, do they really make sense? Is it real? Is it really relevant to your life today? You can even look for your accomplishments and positive parts of yourself and focus on them instead of constantly beating yourself up. We all know how to torture ourselves. It's so easy for us. We don't know how to release. We find it too difficult. The reason it's hard to enforce is because we believe the information is true, not just an idea. But do you think you were born with this idea that you're not good enough? Do you think the moment you come out of your mother's belly you're like, "Oh my God, I'm a mistake, I'm not right, I'm not good enough, I need to be different in order for people to love and respect me"? Of course not. These are the ideas you learned after you were born, not your own truths. This is called conditioning -- the unconscious program that society gives you.

Whenever you notice judgmental, judgmental voices in your head (they're always there, but we're not used to paying attention to them), say to yourself, "Stop! It's an old movie from my childhood. It has nothing to do with my current reality." Because it's the truth. The criticism that you picked up as a child continues throughout your life, making you repeat it all over again. You think it's your voice, the result of your observations, but if you pay close attention, you'll recognize that it's actually your dad's voice or your mom's voice, or whoever had an influence on you as a child. Maybe they didn't say exactly what you're thinking right now, and maybe they didn't say anything like that to you at all, but the way you were treated made you believe the information was true. With this in mind, you can remind yourself lovingly, "Just as I am, that's fine. I am good enough, for I have been invited into this world. Do I need permission from others?" See what happens when you say that. This "stop" technique can help you get out of your past unconscious thoughts and into the present moment. It's a way of getting rid of past information, getting rid of past programs.

In this moment, you can really look at, do they really make sense? Is it real? Is it really relevant to your life today? You can even look for your accomplishments and positive parts of yourself and focus on them instead of constantly beating yourself up. We all know how to torture ourselves. It's so easy for us. We don't know how to release. We find it too difficult. The reason it's hard to enforce is because we believe the information is true, not just an idea. But do you think you were born with this idea that you're not good enough? Do you think the moment you come out of your mother's belly you're like, "Oh my God, I'm a mistake, I'm not right, I'm not good enough, I need to be different in order for people to love and respect me"? Of course not. These are the ideas you learned after you were born, not your own truths. This is called conditioning -- the unconscious program that society gives you. To put this into perspective, let's imagine that family A and Family B both gave birth to a son on the same day and in the same hospital. But negligence led to the child being switched. The B child was taken to the A family and grew up fully convinced that he belonged to the A family. All ideas of the self, what one should do, what others should do, what the outside world is like, all likes and dislikes, are A family. It's who he is, who he believes to the end. However, this is not his identity, he was not born into A family. The same goes for children born in A family who grow up in B family. This fictional example helps us understand that all of these boys' beliefs, their notions of self, are given by outsiders, not born with them. The same goes for you. The idea of identity, the idea of who you are, what you think you should be, the idea that you're not good enough as you are, is all imposed on you by the outside world. They're not something you were born with, which is good news, because it means you can let go of them, too. When you become aware of your present self, out of the identity of the past program, they are laid down. If we can see clearly, without judgment or rationalization, then awareness alone is enough -- so you may have heard that awareness is like a sword. In the face of all this, questioning your identity, showing the courage to refuse. Because your identity is your comfort zone. It's what you know. It's where you live. Maybe you're not happy, but you're safe -- because you know it. It's very difficult to step out of our comfort zone unless we're really fed up with our lifestyle. Because stepping out of your comfort zone is scary, like stepping into the unknown. In our comfort zones, we already know how to react to people, things, and things. We already know how we're going to feel. We know where we can and where we can't. We have countless legitimate excuses for why we didn't make the most of our lives, why we didn't reach the moon, why we were unlucky. If we let go of our comfort zones, if we let go of our notions of self, none of this will happen. But we also throw away the limits, the chains that hold us back, that bind us to a life of unfulfillment. If you're ready, if you've had enough of your current lifestyle, you can start now. You just have to question all your beliefs about yourself -- is it true, or is it just an unconscious belief you're feeding, and you don't even care about the things in your life that completely contradict those beliefs. Your mind says, "These judgments I make about myself are true. They are facts." The difference between fact and judgment is whether there is emotional support. Here's an example. The years may be beginning to take their toll on my face. If I accept it, it's just a fact, a peaceful truth for a man who doesn't mind his own skin getting old. It doesn't bother me, it's not a "problem" to me. So I can enjoy and respect my age. If I don't accept that, then judgment comes in. When I talk about it, I get the implication that I should look younger. This situation is a constraint -- you have a perception that the way you are right now is not okay. Being yourself naturally is not an option. Judging puts pressure on us and makes us feel uncomfortable. To judge is to fight against ourselves and deny our present reality. In a struggle, all work is in vain. It's like a fight between the right and the left, and there's no winner. On the contrary, if you accept the fact of old age, you also accept the grace and dignity of the years. If you respect yourself as much as you do, it gives you a sense of authority and allows others to accept and respect you. This doesn't mean you don't need to take care of your appearance. Taking care of your appearance is part of your self-respect. It's about not trying to pretend that you can still dress like your child, trying to be a sibling, not a parent. What do you think the child will think? Isn't it better for children to have the freedom to make friends their own age and to have supportive parents they can rely on and rely on?

Whenever you notice judgmental, judgmental voices in your head (they're always there, but we're not used to paying attention to them), say to yourself, "Stop! It's an old movie from my childhood. It has nothing to do with my current reality." Because it's the truth. The criticism that you picked up as a child continues throughout your life, making you repeat it all over again. You think it's your voice, the result of your observations, but if you pay close attention, you'll recognize that it's actually your dad's voice or your mom's voice, or whoever had an influence on you as a child.

Maybe they didn't say exactly what you're thinking right now, and maybe they didn't say anything like that to you at all, but the way you were treated made you believe the information was true. With this in mind, you can remind yourself lovingly, "Just as I am, that's fine. I am good enough, for I have been invited into this world. Do I need permission from others?" See what happens when you say that. This "stop" technique can help you get out of your past unconscious thoughts and into the present moment. It's a way of getting rid of past information, getting rid of past programs. In this moment, you can really look at, do they really make sense? Is it real? Is it really relevant to your life today? You can even look for your accomplishments and positive parts of yourself and focus on them instead of constantly beating yourself up. We all know how to torture ourselves. It's so easy for us. We don't know how to release. We find it too difficult. The reason it's hard to enforce is because we believe the information is true, not just an idea. But do you think you were born with this idea that you're not good enough? Do you think the moment you come out of your mother's belly you're like, "Oh my God, I'm a mistake, I'm not right, I'm not good enough, I need to be different in order for people to love and respect me"? Of course not. These are the ideas you learned after you were born, not your own truths. This is called conditioning -- the unconscious program that society gives you.

Whenever you notice judgmental, judgmental voices in your head (they're always there, but we're not used to paying attention to them), say to yourself, "Stop! It's an old movie from my childhood. It has nothing to do with my current reality." Because it's the truth. The criticism that you picked up as a child continues throughout your life, making you repeat it all over again. You think it's your voice, the result of your observations, but if you pay close attention, you'll recognize that it's actually your dad's voice or your mom's voice, or whoever had an influence on you as a child. Maybe they didn't say exactly what you're thinking right now, and maybe they didn't say anything like that to you at all, but the way you were treated made you believe the information was true. With this in mind, you can remind yourself lovingly, "Just as I am, that's fine. I am good enough, for I have been invited into this world. Do I need permission from others?" See what happens when you say that. This "stop" technique can help you get out of your past unconscious thoughts and into the present moment. It's a way of getting rid of past information, getting rid of past programs.

In this moment, you can really look at, do they really make sense? Is it real? Is it really relevant to your life today? You can even look for your accomplishments and positive parts of yourself and focus on them instead of constantly beating yourself up. We all know how to torture ourselves. It's so easy for us. We don't know how to release. We find it too difficult. The reason it's hard to enforce is because we believe the information is true, not just an idea. But do you think you were born with this idea that you're not good enough? Do you think the moment you come out of your mother's belly you're like, "Oh my God, I'm a mistake, I'm not right, I'm not good enough, I need to be different in order for people to love and respect me"? Of course not. These are the ideas you learned after you were born, not your own truths. This is called conditioning -- the unconscious program that society gives you. To put this into perspective, let's imagine that family A and Family B both gave birth to a son on the same day and in the same hospital. But negligence led to the child being switched. The B child was taken to the A family and grew up fully convinced that he belonged to the A family. All ideas of the self, what one should do, what others should do, what the outside world is like, all likes and dislikes, are A family. It's who he is, who he believes to the end. However, this is not his identity, he was not born into A family. The same goes for children born in A family who grow up in B family. This fictional example helps us understand that all of these boys' beliefs, their notions of self, are given by outsiders, not born with them. The same goes for you. The idea of identity, the idea of who you are, what you think you should be, the idea that you're not good enough as you are, is all imposed on you by the outside world. They're not something you were born with, which is good news, because it means you can let go of them, too. When you become aware of your present self, out of the identity of the past program, they are laid down. If we can see clearly, without judgment or rationalization, then awareness alone is enough -- so you may have heard that awareness is like a sword. In the face of all this, questioning your identity, showing the courage to refuse. Because your identity is your comfort zone. It's what you know. It's where you live. Maybe you're not happy, but you're safe -- because you know it. It's very difficult to step out of our comfort zone unless we're really fed up with our lifestyle. Because stepping out of your comfort zone is scary, like stepping into the unknown. In our comfort zones, we already know how to react to people, things, and things. We already know how we're going to feel. We know where we can and where we can't. We have countless legitimate excuses for why we didn't make the most of our lives, why we didn't reach the moon, why we were unlucky. If we let go of our comfort zones, if we let go of our notions of self, none of this will happen. But we also throw away the limits, the chains that hold us back, that bind us to a life of unfulfillment. If you're ready, if you've had enough of your current lifestyle, you can start now. You just have to question all your beliefs about yourself -- is it true, or is it just an unconscious belief you're feeding, and you don't even care about the things in your life that completely contradict those beliefs. Your mind says, "These judgments I make about myself are true. They are facts." The difference between fact and judgment is whether there is emotional support. Here's an example. The years may be beginning to take their toll on my face. If I accept it, it's just a fact, a peaceful truth for a man who doesn't mind his own skin getting old. It doesn't bother me, it's not a "problem" to me. So I can enjoy and respect my age. If I don't accept that, then judgment comes in. When I talk about it, I get the implication that I should look younger. This situation is a constraint -- you have a perception that the way you are right now is not okay. Being yourself naturally is not an option. Judging puts pressure on us and makes us feel uncomfortable. To judge is to fight against ourselves and deny our present reality. In a struggle, all work is in vain. It's like a fight between the right and the left, and there's no winner. On the contrary, if you accept the fact of old age, you also accept the grace and dignity of the years. If you respect yourself as much as you do, it gives you a sense of authority and allows others to accept and respect you. This doesn't mean you don't need to take care of your appearance. Taking care of your appearance is part of your self-respect. It's about not trying to pretend that you can still dress like your child, trying to be a sibling, not a parent. What do you think the child will think? Isn't it better for children to have the freedom to make friends their own age and to have supportive parents they can rely on and rely on?