It’s not real.
That’s the problem

• Dating feels easier than long-term relationships because you don’t yet know all the annoying things about the person.

• And most people are talkers, not doers, because the doers know all the problems that come with the work.

• Having arguments with someone in your head is safer than in real life, because it is safer and… you always win the argument.

I guess I’ve been thinking about this in many ways, many times.
But how do we deal with the imperfection of life?
Our own weaknesses?
Our own ugliness?

Just gonna be honest — I´m still exploring this topic — because most of my life I´ve just been optimizing:

become prettier,
more educated,
earn more,
publish more books.

Now, I don’t believe in stopping doing that, because that´ll be stagnation.
But I guess I’m trying to learn how to keep going and grow when life gives you problems, grief, ugliness, quirks, and things that feels anything but effortless.

Dating coach Matthew Hussey said:

"You won’t find anyone without problems, so you've got to decide what problems you’re willing to put up with from your partner."

The same goes for life.

And the older I get, the more I realize that true beauty is found in what’s unique.
And for something to be unique, it cannot look or feel like everything else.

So I´ve started to think "hey, they might be right... There is beauty in the imperfection."

You can watch it here:

/ Sara < 3

It’s not real.
That’s the problem

• Dating feels easier than long-term relationships because you don’t yet know all the annoying things about the person.

• And most people are talkers, not doers, because the doers know all the problems that come with the work.

• Having arguments with someone in your head is safer than in real life, because it is safer and… you always win the argument.

I guess I’ve been thinking about this in many ways, many times.
But how do we deal with the imperfection of life?
Our own weaknesses?
Our own ugliness?

Just gonna be honest — I´m still exploring this topic — because most of my life I´ve just been optimizing:

become prettier,
more educated,
earn more,
publish more books.

Now, I don’t believe in stopping doing that, because that´ll be stagnation.
But I guess I’m trying to learn how to keep going and grow when life gives you problems, grief, ugliness, quirks, and things that feels anything but effortless.

Dating coach Matthew Hussey said:

"You won’t find anyone without problems, so you've got to decide what problems you’re willing to put up with from your partner."

The same goes for life.

And the older I get, the more I realize that true beauty is found in what’s unique.
And for something to be unique, it cannot look or feel like everything else.

So I´ve started to think "hey, they might be right... There is beauty in the imperfection."

You can watch it here:

/ Sara < 3