Seriously, the longer I stay alive, the more I realize willpower is not what drives me (or people).

First of all, there’s a book by Dr. Benjamin Hardy called “Willpower Doesn’t Work”, and if I were to summarise it in one sentence, it’s this:

Environment determines your success – not your “willpower”.

He shares a lot of case studies and solid science to prove it, and it’s legit.

I believe it.

Secondly, if there’s one thing I can say has helped me achieve stuff like publishing a book, getting into medical school and still being an after 5 years in the game, it’s consistency.

I just keep showing up, and it’s not because of “willpower” — it’s internal motivation.

The difference?

Well, in my opinion, willpower feels like the mean parent using force and yelling to make you do shit. 

Internal motivation is the parent who leads with curiosity, tries to find what drives you naturally, and helps you tap into that.

So if you’re at a place where you’re blaming yourself for not having “willpower”… don’t. 

It’s useless. 

It’s not what you need.

This is what you need:

• An environment with high performers (studies show you increase productivity by 15% if you sit close to someone who is a high-performer) (Check out this 30-second video if you don’t believe me) 

• Know your why (internal motivation). And in case you struggle to find out what that is…

Here are two simple ways to find it: 

1. 7 Levels of Why: Write down what you say you want and ask “why?” seven times – you’ll get to the core.

2. Or ask yourself: “What would I do even if I knew I wouldn’t get money or applause from doing it?”

✨ Go do it - and watch the magic happen.

Life update:

Business: Ah, finallyyy… I’m back in flow (because my life isn’t as hectic anymore). I’m finally back to “productizing myself”. I focus on what’s high leverage and in my zone of genius (ads + creating assets: tools and content).

Dance:
Hahah, my hamstring is still hanging in there. I think. My hamstring tendonitis has been around for 6–7 weeks, but honestly… it’s my fault. I’m addicted to stretching and wanting to get more flexible, so yeah. I’m the one to blame – and I’m okay with that, so dooon’t you come for me, ok?!!?! 😂

Relationships:
I was walking past a restaurant this week, and I remembered that I once sat there with a big group of girls – and the lonely feeling I had with them. It felt very fake and very “soul-less”. And I just realised how far I’ve come. Finally, I have multiple people in my life who feel like medicine for my soul. They’re so wise, so giving, so present, and it makes me so so SO grateful 💛

And I wanted to share that in case you needed hope or proof that your people are out there. 

They totally are. 

I promise.

OK?

Now go get yourself the most magnificent weekend! 

Talk next week!!

/Sara <3