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Talk about "Nighthawk" | people in the city. Where are your emotions stored?
Edward Hopper’s nighthawks is one of the most famous works in American Art in the 20th century, and it is also one of the scenes most imitated by film and television works. It is said that the painting was inspired by a small restaurant on Greenwich Avenue in New York City. Hope completely simplified the pattern of the painting to highlight the suffocating atmosphere of loneliness and isolation. The street outside the restaurant was empty and there was not even a trace of waste on the road to...
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Dr. Zhang Silai
This is the most effective way to discipline a two-year-old child
A few months old babies don’t have a clear sense of self. They often chew on their little feet because they don’t know it’s part of their body. After the age of 1, children’s self-consciousness gradually becomes clear, and they begin to realize the difference between “I” and others. As parents become more and more aware of their “initial desire to explore” and their “self-development”, they will become more and more aware of their “initial desire to explore” and their “self-development”.
Parents should understand and discipline their children’s behaviors at this stage. John Rosemond, an American family psychologist, believes that the first period of resistance is also a key period of character formation. I particularly agree with this view. If parents indulge their children in the first period of resistance, the children will develop a very selfish and self-centered thought. In the first stage of resistance, children’s task is to slowly learn to be independent, because our children will eventually become an independent person and survive in our society; The task of parents is to begin to properly discipline their children, so that children can understand what rules are and what rules are.
After the age of two, the family can no longer be child-centered. The mother must draw a psychological and emotional line with the child. When the mother is busy, the child can’t disturb at will. The child should be able to play by himself most of the time. No matter what problems the child encounters, he should be guided to solve them by himself. He really can’t solve it by himself. His parents will help him solve it again. Only in this way can children gradually become independent and respect their parents.
Only when children know to respect their parents can they do according to their parents’ requirements, and internalize their parents’ requirements into conscious actions. This is the beginning of children’s self-management.
Rebellion in adolescence is not the result of brain development, but the result of lack of discipline! To avoid problems in adolescence, the key lies in effective discipline at the age of two or three.
How to discipline
1、 When communicating with a two-year-old, use the tone of command, not the tone of request
For example, don’t say to your child, “when shopping, mom wants you to be obedient”. This is the tone of request, and two-year-old children may not understand what “obedient” means. You should put forward specific requirements to him in an ordered tone. You can say “you must sit in the stroller”, or “you must hold your mother’s hand”, or “don’t cry in the mall”
Parents need to be reminded that the “command tone” means that the attitude should be firm, but the tone should be gentle, not to make you black face or raise your voice to frighten your children.
Moreover, children around the age of two can’t remember too many requirements, so they must make 1 ~ 2 requirements at a time. Don’t make too many requirements.
2、 Punishment should not be the focus of discipline
Most parents first think about how to punish their children when they find that their children have misbehavior. The author doesn’t think so. He believes that this is wrong. Parents should not focus on punishment, but on preventing their children’s misconduct.
But why do you say that? Because the punishment is antagonistic, it is likely to affect the suggestions of parent-child relationship and put parents and children in a state of opposition. Moreover, some parents will show regret and guilt after punishing their children. This contradictory state of parents will make their children unable to judge whether their behavior is right or wrong. They don’t know how to adjust their behavior and can’t form self-control.
For example, if you want to take your child to the park, don’t wait for the child to be punished for misconduct. Instead, tell your child “if you run away from me today, we’ll go home” before going to the park. This is not a threat to the child. The threat is affected by emotion. You should say it calmly, because you are just conveying a message to the child that he cannot run away from his parents. If the result of running away is what, let him have a prior and clear understanding of the result of his behavior, and let him choose and adjust his behavior. This is self-control.
3、 We should stick to principles when disciplining children
Parents should adhere to principles when discipline their children, otherwise the children will not be able to predict the consequences of their actions. If parents make rules, sometimes implement them, sometimes don’t implement them, sometimes strict and sometimes loose, children will constantly test their parents’ bottom line. So we say that only when parents adhere to principles can children learn to strictly manage themselves.
For example, a child makes a big noise in the mall and affects others. Tell him “don’t buy what you like today, go home immediately”. You should do what you say. Don’t talk about going home. As soon as the child begged or the family persuaded, he changed his mind. The whole family must reach a consensus. When one person is disciplining their children, other people should keep the same. Don’t have two attitudes in front of their children.
We all know that children can find this gap. So you will find that when his mother is strict in discipline, he will always find what he needs in front of the next generation who dotes on him. So we say that it is very important for the whole family to have a unified understanding.
Dr. Zhang Silai
This is the most effective way to discipline a two-year-old child
A few months old babies don’t have a clear sense of self. They often chew on their little feet because they don’t know it’s part of their body. After the age of 1, children’s self-consciousness gradually becomes clear, and they begin to realize the difference between “I” and others. As parents become more and more aware of their “initial desire to explore” and their “self-development”, they will become more and more aware of their “initial desire to explore” and their “self-development”.
Parents should understand and discipline their children’s behaviors at this stage. John Rosemond, an American family psychologist, believes that the first period of resistance is also a key period of character formation. I particularly agree with this view. If parents indulge their children in the first period of resistance, the children will develop a very selfish and self-centered thought. In the first stage of resistance, children’s task is to slowly learn to be independent, because our children will eventually become an independent person and survive in our society; The task of parents is to begin to properly discipline their children, so that children can understand what rules are and what rules are.
After the age of two, the family can no longer be child-centered. The mother must draw a psychological and emotional line with the child. When the mother is busy, the child can’t disturb at will. The child should be able to play by himself most of the time. No matter what problems the child encounters, he should be guided to solve them by himself. He really can’t solve it by himself. His parents will help him solve it again. Only in this way can children gradually become independent and respect their parents.
Only when children know to respect their parents can they do according to their parents’ requirements, and internalize their parents’ requirements into conscious actions. This is the beginning of children’s self-management.
Rebellion in adolescence is not the result of brain development, but the result of lack of discipline! To avoid problems in adolescence, the key lies in effective discipline at the age of two or three.
How to discipline
1、 When communicating with a two-year-old, use the tone of command, not the tone of request
For example, don’t say to your child, “when shopping, mom wants you to be obedient”. This is the tone of request, and two-year-old children may not understand what “obedient” means. You should put forward specific requirements to him in an ordered tone. You can say “you must sit in the stroller”, or “you must hold your mother’s hand”, or “don’t cry in the mall”
Parents need to be reminded that the “command tone” means that the attitude should be firm, but the tone should be gentle, not to make you black face or raise your voice to frighten your children.
Moreover, children around the age of two can’t remember too many requirements, so they must make 1 ~ 2 requirements at a time. Don’t make too many requirements.
2、 Punishment should not be the focus of discipline
Most parents first think about how to punish their children when they find that their children have misbehavior. The author doesn’t think so. He believes that this is wrong. Parents should not focus on punishment, but on preventing their children’s misconduct.
But why do you say that? Because the punishment is antagonistic, it is likely to affect the suggestions of parent-child relationship and put parents and children in a state of opposition. Moreover, some parents will show regret and guilt after punishing their children. This contradictory state of parents will make their children unable to judge whether their behavior is right or wrong. They don’t know how to adjust their behavior and can’t form self-control.
For example, if you want to take your child to the park, don’t wait for the child to be punished for misconduct. Instead, tell your child “if you run away from me today, we’ll go home” before going to the park. This is not a threat to the child. The threat is affected by emotion. You should say it calmly, because you are just conveying a message to the child that he cannot run away from his parents. If the result of running away is what, let him have a prior and clear understanding of the result of his behavior, and let him choose and adjust his behavior. This is self-control.
3、 We should stick to principles when disciplining children
Parents should adhere to principles when discipline their children, otherwise the children will not be able to predict the consequences of their actions. If parents make rules, sometimes implement them, sometimes don’t implement them, sometimes strict and sometimes loose, children will constantly test their parents’ bottom line. So we say that only when parents adhere to principles can children learn to strictly manage themselves.
For example, a child makes a big noise in the mall and affects others. Tell him “don’t buy what you like today, go home immediately”. You should do what you say. Don’t talk about going home. As soon as the child begged or the family persuaded, he changed his mind. The whole family must reach a consensus. When one person is disciplining their children, other people should keep the same. Don’t have two attitudes in front of their children.
We all know that children can find this gap. So you will find that when his mother is strict in discipline, he will always find what he needs in front of the next generation who dotes on him. So we say that it is very important for the whole family to have a unified understanding.
Talk about "Nighthawk" | people in the city. Where are your emotions stored?
Edward Hopper’s nighthawks is one of the most famous works in American Art in the 20th century, and it is also one of the scenes most imitated by film and television works. It is said that the painting was inspired by a small restaurant on Greenwich Avenue in New York City. Hope completely simplified the pattern of the painting to highlight the suffocating atmosphere of loneliness and isolation. The street outside the restaurant was empty and there was not even a trace of waste on the road to...
Can technology turn things around for New York Fashion week?
As early as before the epidemic, the continuous organizational problems such as “big brand running away” and the constant storm of cultural public opinion have always made New York Fashion Week face many doubts such as the shrinkage of scale and value. Under the influence of the epidemic in the past two years, the physical show and the fashion industry have suffered a severe impact. For New York Fashion Week, after a series of model and organizational innovation measures, it is still urgent t...
CSRC: maintain the administrative punishment decision and market prohibition decision against Jia Yu…
According to the news from Red Star capital Bureau on April 15, today, the CSRC announced the administrative reconsideration decision against Jia Yueting and maintained the administrative punishment decision and market entry ban decision made against the applicant Jia Yueting. The decision was issued on August 20, 2021. Previously, the CSRC fined Jia Yueting 900000 yuan for financial fraud of LETV for ten consecutive years from 2007 to 2016; Jia Yueting was fined 240.3 million yuan for the fr...
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