People talk about building good habits and getting rid of bad ones all the time. However, what are these habit formations or unformations really serving? In this article I would like to discuss a term called “hyper-me”, a term coined by the author himself to generalize habit formation and unformation to something that helps not only to stick to the good habits you already have but to get ideas for finding new habits as well.

If one were to define hyper-me, it would be something like “A version of myself that has maximized their potential for the betterment of themselves and other people.” This includes being mentally and physically strong, being a clear communicator, being responsible with your time and finances, being a good spouse, a parent, an employee etc. However, we all know this and one might say at this stage: “What is new about any of this?”

There is still a large gap between knowing what to do and actually doing it. And the reason this gap rarely gets filled is due to lack of vision. You have to physically manifest the person you want to become, first in your mind, and then, in reality. That’s the only way to start bridging that gap.

Think of yourself from third-person view. Then think of yourself in 10 years. How would this person act in a mentally tough situation? How would they dress? What kind of body language they would have? How would they speak to other people? What would their body look like in terms of fitness? How would they walk? How would they act towards their family? How would they treat their co-workers? How would they spend their spare time?

Visualizing all of this clearly and thoroughly in one’s mind and solidifying it makes a world of difference. Now you have an ideal to strive towards, and whenever you deviate from that ideal you realize you have failed and can take the necessary steps to make sure that it does not happen again. Without the vision this would not be possible, since you would not know when you deviate from the ideal, since you do not have one!

Given that one plays this “game” long enough, one can really start to become closer and closer to their ideal. Obviously one never matches the ideal given it is an ideal, but given that you would have a choice of being 34% like your ideal self or 97% like your ideal self, it is not difficult to predict which one would one pick. And there is also the question of how much more meaning and contentment one would feel in one’s life if they reached those levels? Maybe it is better to just find out.

People talk about building good habits and getting rid of bad ones all the time. However, what are these habit formations or unformations really serving? In this article I would like to discuss a term called “hyper-me”, a term coined by the author himself to generalize habit formation and unformation to something that helps not only to stick to the good habits you already have but to get ideas for finding new habits as well.

If one were to define hyper-me, it would be something like “A version of myself that has maximized their potential for the betterment of themselves and other people.” This includes being mentally and physically strong, being a clear communicator, being responsible with your time and finances, being a good spouse, a parent, an employee etc. However, we all know this and one might say at this stage: “What is new about any of this?”

There is still a large gap between knowing what to do and actually doing it. And the reason this gap rarely gets filled is due to lack of vision. You have to physically manifest the person you want to become, first in your mind, and then, in reality. That’s the only way to start bridging that gap.

Think of yourself from third-person view. Then think of yourself in 10 years. How would this person act in a mentally tough situation? How would they dress? What kind of body language they would have? How would they speak to other people? What would their body look like in terms of fitness? How would they walk? How would they act towards their family? How would they treat their co-workers? How would they spend their spare time?

Visualizing all of this clearly and thoroughly in one’s mind and solidifying it makes a world of difference. Now you have an ideal to strive towards, and whenever you deviate from that ideal you realize you have failed and can take the necessary steps to make sure that it does not happen again. Without the vision this would not be possible, since you would not know when you deviate from the ideal, since you do not have one!

Given that one plays this “game” long enough, one can really start to become closer and closer to their ideal. Obviously one never matches the ideal given it is an ideal, but given that you would have a choice of being 34% like your ideal self or 97% like your ideal self, it is not difficult to predict which one would one pick. And there is also the question of how much more meaning and contentment one would feel in one’s life if they reached those levels? Maybe it is better to just find out.