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Raising soldiers for three years and using them in one hour
Raising soldiers for three years and using them in one hour The chefs have a good saying that preparing ingredients takes up 70-90% of the time to make a dish. Cooking only takes up 10-30%. In fact, it seems that in any industry or profession, preparing ingredients and processing ingredients takes up a large proportion of the time. For example, in data analysis, cleaning and preparing data also takes up 80% of the workload. For martial arts bands, 99.99% of the time is spent eating, sleeping,...

Mirrors Around Us ๐๐
Mirrors Around Us: The Story of Driving, Being Here and Now, and Navigating Life's PotholesI've noticed something quite amusing about the digital world: when someone writes about a lesson or an example, they often reference famous people. It's like "5 Things Billionaires Do," "10 Investment Rules from So-and-So," or "A Letter from XYZ to Their Child." Reflecting on this, I've realized that while I've read many books about the famous, I haven't learned much from t...

This is me after a few months of not caring
This is me after a few months of not caring - paying attention (pay attention, the word pay is good, attention is not free and has limits) to social world issues that do not affect my life or I have no ability to do anything to change the situation. Feeling much healthier and happier. If you scan again, there will always be things outside for you to curse, get annoyed, and upset. Drama is endless for you to participate in. And what can you do about those dramas? Nothing. Absolutely zero. Mean...
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At 35 years old, without a house, without a car, without a husband, Thuy and her two children are struggling to make ends meet. The office job is stressful, but the salary is too low. Thuy had to quit and look for another job. Before, Thuy always wanted to go to work, to dress up, to express herself, to prove that she was excellent, but giving birth to two children and staying at home for many years made Thuy lose all confidence in herself. Thuy kept comforting herself that everything was fine, her husband still loved her, until she realized that her husband had turned his back on her. The moment she saw her husband walking hand in hand with his lover into the hotel, she stood under the shade of a tree and cried loudly, all the anger, bitterness and resentment suddenly reached its peak. She did not have the courage to go in there to catch the adulterer, nor did she have the courage to see their lovemaking. She trudged back, after much effort, she finally won custody of her child from her husband.
She still did not forget what her husband said to her when the three of them left, "I will see how you can live in this capital with two growing children, my children will provide for you, but remember your promise to me, do not let me lose face in front of everyone." In order to raise her children, she had to collect evidence of her husband's adultery, she had to be strong to confront her husband, if he did not give me custody of the two children, I would let everyone know about his debauchery. Her husband would probably be shocked because his wife, who always listened to him, suddenly became fierce and mean. But once a person has been pushed down to the abyss, there is no other way but to be strong and move up. He gave the two children 100 million a year, she took the money and left with the children. That amount of money was enough for the three of them to live temporarily.

Her luckiest thing was probably that during her time at home, she raised two super-well-behaved, adorable, and understanding children. That was a great motivation for her to be strong and continue living. She took her two children to school like every day... but today she didn't go to work. She suddenly wanted to stop for a moment, turn inward to understand herself deeply. She didn't want to do anything to forget all the negative feelings that were surrounding her. She wanted to stop to feel them. Someone said that the way to overcome negativity is to face them, listen to them, and then release them, otherwise they will become boils in the heart. She stopped in a sunny park, it had been a long time since she had time to calm down like this. Looking at the cool green trees, looking at the gentle sky, looking at the bright sun... she suddenly felt strangely peaceful.
That scene reminded her of herself 10 years ago, she was extremely pure and innocent. It was also here that her husband confessed his love and proposed to her. He loved her because of her confidence and dynamism. But then when she had a family, because she loved him too much and was pampered by him, she lost her true self. At this point, she realized that she had lost herself first. She could no longer love herself, so how could anyone else love her? It had been a long time since she had a new set of clothes. Her husband had reminded her, but she had brushed it off. She said she only stayed at home and didn't go anywhere, so why dress up? Her weight had also increased over time. She was 1m60 tall but she weighed almost 60kg. The firmness and confidence of the past were gone.... She burst into tears once again in the place that held so many memories. She promised herself that from today on, she would definitely change.
She went into the bookstore and found the old book that she had once loved. She read it again so she could write down her next plans for her life. She couldn't remember where she had read the saying "even when life is at its most tragic, you must not lose yourself, maintain your discipline and order". Today, having time to meditate, naturally so many precious things appeared in her mind. Ah, here it is, the book she was looking for "IKIGAI: FINDING A REASON TO WAKE UP EVERY MORNING". She had read this book when she was a student, but she had forgotten it when she got married, how ridiculous. She had followed in the footsteps of many tragic women who "got married and had children and then forgot themselves", she must find herself again and teach her two daughters that precious thing.

The first thing is to find your passion, what you love, what you are best at and what society needs. Best at? Probably best at cleaning the house, taking care of children, cooking. She also really likes those jobs, but she doesn't know what her passion is, whether she is really passionate about it or not. But does society need what she is good at, or is it just her children and husband? Her husband probably doesn't need it now, compared to home-cooked meals, he prefers restaurants and pho. But... a voice rang out in her head, someone needs it, her friends need it a lot. They need hourly helpers and she is very, very good at this. Her hobby is cleaning the house and seeing her house become beautiful and clean. But she came to her friend's house to.... do housework, what was she thinking, where was her self-respect, her pride.... But she didn't do anything illegal, her friends would know everything so she would face it directly. Thinking about it, she immediately called Hong - the friend who asked her to find an hourly housekeeper a few days ago "Hong, I found a housekeeper for you, when are you home today, I told them to come, they can only clean before 4:30 pm. Ok, then I'll tell them to come at noon".
She would definitely do this job well, because it was what she was best at and loved very much. She would also leave behind all the bad things to focus only on the present. The book gave her many valuable things, her favorite chapter was about FLOW. This was also what she saw when working, focusing on work made her forget about time and everything around her. Her house, every day she thinks of ways to make it more beautiful, neat and clean. She loves to rearrange everything according to her own feelings and thoughts, that never makes her bored. But perhaps her husband does not have enough time to realize those things. His business has made him have no mind for his family. Every time he comes home, she reminds him, he just apologizes perfunctorily and then falls asleep because he is too tired. It is true that if family members lose the connection from everyday things, sooner or later something will happen. She has seen it but there is no way to connect to show her husband... perhaps her marriage has slowly, gently cracked without either of them realizing it.
To achieve this flow state, the most important thing is to do only one thing at a time and devote yourself to it wholeheartedly. Before, she often bathed her child while listening to videos, but in the end, her child did not connect deeply enough and the video went from one ear to the other. It was a disaster. From today on, she will prioritize important things. The opportunity cost is probably there. It is impossible to do two things at the same time, let alone many things. Only then can she achieve maximum productivity in anything. Now she understands why the sages always say that focusing on the present moment is extremely important. Before, she thought that only the great people could do that, but it turned out not to be true. They shared it with the public and hoped that everyone could absorb this idea so that they could do their best in what they were doing.
The diet that the long-lived people in Japan shared is also very good. It is very suitable for her long-standing lifestyle. As someone who loves her child like breathing, she pays a lot of attention to her child's nutrition since he was in the womb. She always varies the types of vegetables, tubers, and fruits in her meals. Sometimes my husband asks me why I cook so many dishes, but I say it has to be varied to have enough nutrition. It looks like a lot, but I cook very little. I mainly boil or steam the food my children eat. I usually boil or steam carrots, radishes, and squash with peeled sweet potatoes. At first, my children were not used to eating them, but I just ate them well and shared with them my feelings when eating them. Then, one by one, they all love to eat the variety of vegetables and fruits according to the menu I give them.
I have a good eating habit, but I have not been able to exercise and study every day. So from today, I will diligently exercise and move more when possible, and my job as a maid will be fully utilized. The more I look at it, the more I love this job. After breaking up with my husband, why do I feel so relieved now? I wrote all these thoughts in my PERSONAL LIBRARY. She must learn all the lessons that life has brought her to move on to a new page.
She will also spend time reconnecting with herself, turning the living space of her parents and children into a place with lots of trees. She will work with her siblings and the landlord to turn the boarding house into the most beautiful and freshest place. Oh, and two more things she must do every day: read books and write a gratitude diary. She used to be very good at it, but now she has suddenly forgotten. She must find herself again through her diary and the books of her life. If she did not reflect, did not spend time to calm down, she probably would not have been able to have peaceful moments like this.

She knew that life was never cruel to anyone, what needed to be learned, what needed to be experienced in life was already arranged for us. Our job is to accept it with gratitude, learn what needed to be learned to be strong enough to move forward. Destiny does not need to be found far away, just focus on the things we can do well. Turn those things into key tasks so that we can be so good that no one dares to ignore... and now let's go, girl.
Go home to eat first to warm your stomach, then go to Hong to work, try hard, even though her life is in a harsh winter, sooner or later it will pass, if she keeps being gloomy and bored, spring will not have any seeds to plant, summer she and her children will be very hungry. She will need to finish her work before 2 pm so that she can go home to clean the house, exercise, post to find families who need hourly help, then go pick up her children. The evening is a perfect time with her two angels. Thank God for giving me the two most adorable angels on earth. Thank you, husband, for giving me two beautiful princesses. From today, I will forget all memories of you. Let's end here, I hope you will always be happy, Quan.
At 35 years old, without a house, without a car, without a husband, Thuy and her two children are struggling to make ends meet. The office job is stressful, but the salary is too low. Thuy had to quit and look for another job. Before, Thuy always wanted to go to work, to dress up, to express herself, to prove that she was excellent, but giving birth to two children and staying at home for many years made Thuy lose all confidence in herself. Thuy kept comforting herself that everything was fine, her husband still loved her, until she realized that her husband had turned his back on her. The moment she saw her husband walking hand in hand with his lover into the hotel, she stood under the shade of a tree and cried loudly, all the anger, bitterness and resentment suddenly reached its peak. She did not have the courage to go in there to catch the adulterer, nor did she have the courage to see their lovemaking. She trudged back, after much effort, she finally won custody of her child from her husband.
She still did not forget what her husband said to her when the three of them left, "I will see how you can live in this capital with two growing children, my children will provide for you, but remember your promise to me, do not let me lose face in front of everyone." In order to raise her children, she had to collect evidence of her husband's adultery, she had to be strong to confront her husband, if he did not give me custody of the two children, I would let everyone know about his debauchery. Her husband would probably be shocked because his wife, who always listened to him, suddenly became fierce and mean. But once a person has been pushed down to the abyss, there is no other way but to be strong and move up. He gave the two children 100 million a year, she took the money and left with the children. That amount of money was enough for the three of them to live temporarily.

Her luckiest thing was probably that during her time at home, she raised two super-well-behaved, adorable, and understanding children. That was a great motivation for her to be strong and continue living. She took her two children to school like every day... but today she didn't go to work. She suddenly wanted to stop for a moment, turn inward to understand herself deeply. She didn't want to do anything to forget all the negative feelings that were surrounding her. She wanted to stop to feel them. Someone said that the way to overcome negativity is to face them, listen to them, and then release them, otherwise they will become boils in the heart. She stopped in a sunny park, it had been a long time since she had time to calm down like this. Looking at the cool green trees, looking at the gentle sky, looking at the bright sun... she suddenly felt strangely peaceful.
That scene reminded her of herself 10 years ago, she was extremely pure and innocent. It was also here that her husband confessed his love and proposed to her. He loved her because of her confidence and dynamism. But then when she had a family, because she loved him too much and was pampered by him, she lost her true self. At this point, she realized that she had lost herself first. She could no longer love herself, so how could anyone else love her? It had been a long time since she had a new set of clothes. Her husband had reminded her, but she had brushed it off. She said she only stayed at home and didn't go anywhere, so why dress up? Her weight had also increased over time. She was 1m60 tall but she weighed almost 60kg. The firmness and confidence of the past were gone.... She burst into tears once again in the place that held so many memories. She promised herself that from today on, she would definitely change.
She went into the bookstore and found the old book that she had once loved. She read it again so she could write down her next plans for her life. She couldn't remember where she had read the saying "even when life is at its most tragic, you must not lose yourself, maintain your discipline and order". Today, having time to meditate, naturally so many precious things appeared in her mind. Ah, here it is, the book she was looking for "IKIGAI: FINDING A REASON TO WAKE UP EVERY MORNING". She had read this book when she was a student, but she had forgotten it when she got married, how ridiculous. She had followed in the footsteps of many tragic women who "got married and had children and then forgot themselves", she must find herself again and teach her two daughters that precious thing.

The first thing is to find your passion, what you love, what you are best at and what society needs. Best at? Probably best at cleaning the house, taking care of children, cooking. She also really likes those jobs, but she doesn't know what her passion is, whether she is really passionate about it or not. But does society need what she is good at, or is it just her children and husband? Her husband probably doesn't need it now, compared to home-cooked meals, he prefers restaurants and pho. But... a voice rang out in her head, someone needs it, her friends need it a lot. They need hourly helpers and she is very, very good at this. Her hobby is cleaning the house and seeing her house become beautiful and clean. But she came to her friend's house to.... do housework, what was she thinking, where was her self-respect, her pride.... But she didn't do anything illegal, her friends would know everything so she would face it directly. Thinking about it, she immediately called Hong - the friend who asked her to find an hourly housekeeper a few days ago "Hong, I found a housekeeper for you, when are you home today, I told them to come, they can only clean before 4:30 pm. Ok, then I'll tell them to come at noon".
She would definitely do this job well, because it was what she was best at and loved very much. She would also leave behind all the bad things to focus only on the present. The book gave her many valuable things, her favorite chapter was about FLOW. This was also what she saw when working, focusing on work made her forget about time and everything around her. Her house, every day she thinks of ways to make it more beautiful, neat and clean. She loves to rearrange everything according to her own feelings and thoughts, that never makes her bored. But perhaps her husband does not have enough time to realize those things. His business has made him have no mind for his family. Every time he comes home, she reminds him, he just apologizes perfunctorily and then falls asleep because he is too tired. It is true that if family members lose the connection from everyday things, sooner or later something will happen. She has seen it but there is no way to connect to show her husband... perhaps her marriage has slowly, gently cracked without either of them realizing it.
To achieve this flow state, the most important thing is to do only one thing at a time and devote yourself to it wholeheartedly. Before, she often bathed her child while listening to videos, but in the end, her child did not connect deeply enough and the video went from one ear to the other. It was a disaster. From today on, she will prioritize important things. The opportunity cost is probably there. It is impossible to do two things at the same time, let alone many things. Only then can she achieve maximum productivity in anything. Now she understands why the sages always say that focusing on the present moment is extremely important. Before, she thought that only the great people could do that, but it turned out not to be true. They shared it with the public and hoped that everyone could absorb this idea so that they could do their best in what they were doing.
The diet that the long-lived people in Japan shared is also very good. It is very suitable for her long-standing lifestyle. As someone who loves her child like breathing, she pays a lot of attention to her child's nutrition since he was in the womb. She always varies the types of vegetables, tubers, and fruits in her meals. Sometimes my husband asks me why I cook so many dishes, but I say it has to be varied to have enough nutrition. It looks like a lot, but I cook very little. I mainly boil or steam the food my children eat. I usually boil or steam carrots, radishes, and squash with peeled sweet potatoes. At first, my children were not used to eating them, but I just ate them well and shared with them my feelings when eating them. Then, one by one, they all love to eat the variety of vegetables and fruits according to the menu I give them.
I have a good eating habit, but I have not been able to exercise and study every day. So from today, I will diligently exercise and move more when possible, and my job as a maid will be fully utilized. The more I look at it, the more I love this job. After breaking up with my husband, why do I feel so relieved now? I wrote all these thoughts in my PERSONAL LIBRARY. She must learn all the lessons that life has brought her to move on to a new page.
She will also spend time reconnecting with herself, turning the living space of her parents and children into a place with lots of trees. She will work with her siblings and the landlord to turn the boarding house into the most beautiful and freshest place. Oh, and two more things she must do every day: read books and write a gratitude diary. She used to be very good at it, but now she has suddenly forgotten. She must find herself again through her diary and the books of her life. If she did not reflect, did not spend time to calm down, she probably would not have been able to have peaceful moments like this.

She knew that life was never cruel to anyone, what needed to be learned, what needed to be experienced in life was already arranged for us. Our job is to accept it with gratitude, learn what needed to be learned to be strong enough to move forward. Destiny does not need to be found far away, just focus on the things we can do well. Turn those things into key tasks so that we can be so good that no one dares to ignore... and now let's go, girl.
Go home to eat first to warm your stomach, then go to Hong to work, try hard, even though her life is in a harsh winter, sooner or later it will pass, if she keeps being gloomy and bored, spring will not have any seeds to plant, summer she and her children will be very hungry. She will need to finish her work before 2 pm so that she can go home to clean the house, exercise, post to find families who need hourly help, then go pick up her children. The evening is a perfect time with her two angels. Thank God for giving me the two most adorable angels on earth. Thank you, husband, for giving me two beautiful princesses. From today, I will forget all memories of you. Let's end here, I hope you will always be happy, Quan.
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