I stopped imagining a reader before I stopped writing.
Not as a dramatic gesture, not as resistance, but as a practical necessity. The moment I sensed an audience forming in my head, something in the text tightened. The sentences became polite. They started anticipating reaction. Meaning shifted from experience to explanation. That was the first thing to go.
There is a specific kind of distortion that appears the moment you assume someone is watching. You begin to round edges. You clarify too early. You protect yourself from misreading instead of allowing yourself to be precise. What disappears is not honesty, but texture.
So I removed the witness.
Not physically — the text is still published, still visible — but internally. I stopped writing to anyone. No imagined reader, no demographic, no sympathetic stranger nodding along. The absence was immediate and uncomfortable. Without a recipient, every sentence had to stand on its own. There was no reward system left. No relatability to lean on.
That discomfort turned out to be productive.
When no one is watching, explanation loses its urgency. You stop pre-emptively justifying your choices. You let ambiguity exist without rushing to resolve it. This isn’t secrecy. It’s discipline. A refusal to translate every internal movement into something consumable.
Morality changes in this condition.
Without spectators, ethics stop performing. Decisions are no longer shaped by how they will be read, but by whether they align internally. Goodness without visibility is quieter and often less impressive. It doesn’t announce itself. It doesn’t scale. It simply happens or it doesn’t.
Most of what we call integrity collapses the moment it needs recognition.
Attention, even benevolent attention, bends behavior. You learn to anticipate what will be misunderstood. You start editing future versions of yourself. Over time, that editing becomes automatic. You don’t notice it anymore, but the cost accumulates. The voice thins out. The body of the text remains, but its density changes.
Privacy is the condition that allows density to return.
Not privacy as hiding, but as working space. A room where thoughts can be incomplete, contradictory, or unresolved without being corrected. Some ideas don’t survive exposure in their early form. Not because they’re wrong, but because they’re not ready to be legible.
Legibility is not neutral. It rewards certain shapes of thought and punishes others. It prefers coherence over accuracy, confidence over precision. When you stop trying to be understood, different kinds of sentences become possible. They don’t ask for agreement. They don’t soften their edges to be held.
There is relief in not being relatable.
Relatability is a currency, and like all currencies, it shapes production. You begin to anticipate what will resonate. You sand down what doesn’t. Over time, writing becomes emotional logistics. Efficient. Predictable. Empty.
I’m not interested in that efficiency.
When nobody is looking, what remains is smaller and more stubborn. Habits you don’t advertise. Preferences you don’t defend. Ethics that don’t make sense in a headline. Identity thins out and leaves behind something closer to residue — not who you say you are, but how you move when there’s no narrative pressure.
That’s where the writing comes from now.
Not as a message. Not as a statement. More like a trace. Something left behind after attention has already moved on. There is no call to action here, no invitation to agree, no attempt to manage reception. The text doesn’t face the room. It exists sideways to it.
This isn’t retreat. It’s refusal.
A choice to live off-stage even while remaining visible. To let words exist without escort. To accept that misunderstanding is cheaper than self-distortion.
I’m not interested in being seen clearly.
I’m interested in remaining intact.
Quietly enough.


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