A friend of mine visited me this afternoon and shared a beautiful piece with me I did love to share with my audience because it's mind blowing and very educating.

I thought it wise to let you see it also.

THE DEATH OF HER HUSBAND SAVED MY MARRIAGE

my name is Susan she said

I attended a funeral service of my friend's husband at Langata Cemetery and it was a reawaken moment for me.

I Susan held my wailing friend strongly as the casket was lowered into the freshly dug grave.

My friend was screaming "*My husband don't leave me, please,* don't leave me!" as people looked on feeling sad for her.

The children were screaming too. Losing a father is not an easy thing.

If not for me Susan , my friend would have thrown herself into the grave to be buried with her husband who died of suicide. Because, the husband found no meaning in life and he killed himself.

Then I remembered the many times my friend would say she is tired of her good for nothing husband and here she is screaming and feeling lost because the husband is no more.

My friend cried till she fainted. Me and others there carried the devasted woman to an ambulance for first aid.

As I watched the spectacle of broken hearts crying for a man who will never ever come back,I Susan remembered her husband, alot was running through my mind.

I remembered how much i takes my husband for granted.

How i talks to him however i pleases.

How i gives him prolonged silent treatment over issues we can easily resolve.

How i denied him sex many times. And i asked myself "What if it my husband that is buried today how would I feel?" I thought on the inside.

I remembered that i argued with my husband and he left the house with tension between us just because after all these years, he still leaves his plate in the living room instead of taking it to the sink after eating.

"God forbid that my husband die, but what if as my husband went out in anger and never returns and passes on, is this the last memory I would like my husband and I to have?" I thought again.

I began to remember all the wonderful things my husband has done in the past, which i never taught of before except complaining.

Now, in my heart, i began to appreciate him for all his efforts no matter how small it was.

At that moment, i realise my areas of improvement, and said to myself "there is no other man I would rather share my life with than my loving husband."

I thought of life without him and it scared me. And i said, "I would rather have disagreements with my loving husband than to lose him to death. I prefer his sense of humour and laughter than to cry for losing him."

That evening, after i took my widowed friend to a safe place, i passed by at the supermarket and bought my husband a card saying "*Thank you for being in my life"*

And when i got home, i cooked my husband's favourite meal and asked my children to join me in celebrating my husband.

That night, my husband came home expecting a fight from usual, but instead, he got greeting and hugs from me and the children.

He was welcomed with songs, dancing and laughter, cute drawings of him with warm messages from the children, a home cooked meal, pleasant conversations. And my husband bust into tears when i and the children told him how much we love him and then surrounded him to pray for him.

A grown man cried like a baby because of love. He felt needed and he asked them "Is today father's day?"

I looked into his eyes and said, "No, it is lovers day. Because, everyday is special with you around me from now on, we will do nothing but love each other.

I don't know how long we have to live together, but it will not be wasted by fights, misunderstanding, complains and lack of appreciation.

In case you have forgotten, "I love you"

"I love you too" said my husband as he kissed and hugged me, the children dancing and cheering on.

Children long for a home where mom and dad give each other warmth.

Since then, both me and my husband have been a stronger and more loving couple after realizing that tomorrow is not guaranteed.

Lessons:

~ Sometimes the death of someone wakes us up to the reality of life.

~ Don't let the death of your spouse wake you up to the reality of life, it will be too late.

~ God forbid, if your spouse die today, will you regret how you have been treating him/her?

~ Do you think living alone without your spouse will be joyful to you?

~ Will you be able to transfer your children to another man or woman whom they have not grown to know?

~ If you decide to be a single father or mother, will you be able to do the job alone?

~ Can you stand the pain of your kids asking why they don't have a father or mother like others?

~ What is it that you cannot mend in your marriage?

~ No doubt its not easy, but prayerfully love your spouse while he/she lives. It rubs on the children as well.

So mend your home, don't destroy it.

My name is #alexdphenom, I write to uplift and encourage ❤️ ❤️