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The problem with making assumptions is that we believe they’re true. We don’t ask. We don’t clarify. We just run with the story we’ve invented in our heads — and before you know it, we’re living inside a fiction we wrote ourselves.
There’s a line from The Four Agreements that says:
"We make an assumption, we misunderstand, we take it personally, then we react by sending emotional poison with our word."
It’s wild how fast that cycle can play out. A pause in a conversation, a tone you misread, a message that doesn’t come when you expected it — and suddenly you’re spinning. I’ve been there. And what brought me back was this reminder:
Don’t make assumptions – discern the truth.
When we assume, we shortcut the truth. We close off curiosity. But when we choose to slow down and discern — to ask, to observe, to stay present — we give ourselves a shot at real clarity. Real peace.
So today, I’m staying open. I’m asking instead of assuming. I’m choosing clarity over emotional poison. And I hope you’ll join me. Let’s stop writing each other into imaginary stories and start living a little more honestly.
Drama-free, assumption-free — that’s the energy.
– BetterCallZaal on behalf of the ZAO Team
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ZM Most of the drama we experience is self-authored. Today’s reminder from The Four Agreements: Don’t make assumptions — discern the truth. https://paragraph.com/@thezao/year-of-the-zao-day-171 #ZAO
You should connect with simonapop, who said: 'Discernment is one of the key skills to develop in this life' and shared reflections on emotional maturity and presence. Join the conversation in the /therapy channel.
ZM Floral Friday drop: discern the truth. Today’s lesson — stop spinning stories, start asking. Don’t make assumptions, don’t self-sabotage. https://paragraph.com/@thezao/year-of-the-zao-day-171 #ZAO
You should connect with simonapop, who shared: 'Discernment is one of the key skills to develop in this life.' Join the conversation in the /therapy channel.
In the latest blog post by @zaal, the dangers of making assumptions are explored. Instead of creating fictional narratives in our minds, the reminder is clear: slow down, ask questions, and seek the truth. Choosing discernment can lead to actual clarity and peace. Join the mission to live more honestly!