Listen, I had sooo sooo SOOO many ideas for what to write to you this week, but this one won.

Why? Cuz the more I think about the phrase “the quality of our relationships determines the quality of our life”, the more I realize how true it is.

There isn’t much that affects me more than the people around me.

They shape my mindset and my choices.

I did an exercise this week — to figure out which relationships in my life I actually want to invest in/invest less in/not invest in at all 🧹🧹.

And I wanted to share it so you can, too.

Here’s how you do it:

1. Find pen and paper and make 3 columns.

2. Write A, B, and C at the top.

3. Then close your eyes and envision the best possible version of yourself 3 years from now (this is your future self).

4. Ask this person:
   “Out of everyone I have in my life right now — who do I still have a strong connection with?”
   → Write them down in A.

5. Ask:
   “Out of everyone I have in my life right now — who is still around, but we’re not that close anymore?”
   → They go in B.

6. And finally:
   “Out of everyone I have in my life right now — who isn’t there at all anymore?”
   → That’s C.

Now that you’ve done that, you kind of know who you should invest in and who you shouldn't:

A: Be proactive. Message them. Ask how they’re doing. Do something fun/interesting/nice together.

B: Let them take the lead. If they message you and want to hang, say yes if you feel like it. No expectations. Just chill.

C: Ok, I’m not a fan of ghosting — so depending on your relationship with them, I’d do this:

• If they’re a close friend: message them. Give them that respect. Tell them you’re grateful for what you had, but you’ve outgrown each other, and you genuinely wish them the best.

• If they’re not that close: let it fade. Don’t message them. If they message you, you can kindly say you’re not interested in meeting up. They’ll probably stop. Or — if you’re more extreme (like me) — just tell them straight up that the relationship doesn’t feel right for you and you’d like to end it. But of course, wish them a happy, gorgeous, and kind future.

Hope this was helpful. It gave me immense clarity — and also peace — once I had this overview.

And remember, you´re allowed to be picky. It´s your damn life.

📢 Life update:

Life is so cool, man.

This week I’ve niched down even more in my business — who I want to work with and what I want to build. And it feels so goooood.

So, shortly: what I’m currently working on is becoming a strategic partner for business owners. I only want 2–3 clients on retainer here, where I help them with strategy and decision-making in their business — but I also want them to feel like they have a co-owner (without me having equity in their business — at least not this early). 💼

And here´s how I´m niching down. I’ve decided to only focus on beauty 💋/fashion👠/style💅 businesses. The reason is simple: this is the one thing that never leaves me (if you remember the last email). I loved it before I loved anything else. And also — I love creating content. So if I’m a partner, I’d genuinely love to show off their products and create beauty content for them too.

I’m a little scared. And very excited. And that’s how I know I picked the right goal.

If it’s scary → it’s not too easy.
If it’s exciting → you know you truly want it.

Okkkkk — talk next week. Until then, keep facing the things you’re scared of. Expand your comfort zone. The bigger it is, the more opportunities you'll have.

/Sara <3