"You have to start taking your own advice" - is such a cliché saying, but it´s so truuuue.

I used to (and sometimes still am) a fixer. I´ve read so many books on business and self-development, so every time I talk with someone I sense needs advice, I just go straight into fixing.

(Btw, I highly recommend the book Too Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency if you can relate and want to understand why you do this.)

Anyway, this week, I’ve been really practicing this routine when people start talking about their problems:

1. Keep my mouth shut.

2. Say the advice I want to give—in my head🧠.

3. Then schedule when I´m gonna do it.

Basically... Take my own advice.

I realized I needed to do this as I was talking with a friend who wanted to start a business this week, and instead of working on my business, I spent an hour and a half giving him advice like:

He was super grateful and said things like "OMG my mind is blown " and "Where have you been all this time?"

And though I´m grateful he feels this way, I also felt a little bit annoyed with myself and thought, Sara, why aren’t you doing the same thing you just told him?

So the next day... I did exactly that.

Finally, I took my own advice (and my goal is to keep doing so).

So yeah—start taking your own damn advice.

Imagine where you´ll be 6 months from now if you did. ✨

Life update:

I’m doing better than last week—thank God .

But this week has been so, so, sooo emotional. Not because anything new is happening, but because I’ve started a new form of therapy, and it’s creating an unexpected internal storm by making me aware of old wounds, memories, and therefore emotions.

Gosh, it’s been giving me tons of racing thoughts, but these are two things I’ve done to “survive the storm”.

1. Due to my meditation practice (been doing it for 11 years now), I’ve learned not to engage too much in my thoughts. I see them as clouds ☁️ and observe them—without engaging, they will pass.

2. Some emotions need to be felt, and I’ve used this meditation to really, really feel them. It’s only 13 minutes, and I recommend it if you also know there are feelings you’re repressing and need to release. 🌿

Ok, you! I hope you found some value in this ✨. Feel free to message me on Instagram (@saraendestad) if you want to share what you liked most.

/Sara ❤️